Wasn't sure where best to post this but after reading some of the threads on here thought this maybe the best place, apologies if in the wrong section.
Anyway was wondering how homesickness has effected peoples relationships and how they dealt with it. Mine is a slightly different situation as my partner is Australian and is here in UK with me. He is struggling with living here and after 3yrs here I would say its getting harder for him not easier. We are planning to go to Australia at some point but are only in the early stages and nothing is definate.
Just thought that I might get some ideas on how to go with this by hearing from others who have or are experiencing the same.

cheers
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Homesickness can put a huge strain on a relationship so I feel for you there. It sounds like a trip home for your partner is definitely needed, it may help him put into perspective his life in the UK. Who knows it may be what he needs to appreciate his life in the UK that without a trip away would never have happened, and indeed, its probably what you both need to make a final decision on where you should spend your future. One good thing if you do end up moving to Oz permanently he will be super understanding should you have times when you are feeling homesick.

It might still be worth him staying around until he can get British citizenship. Are you legally married, or just de-facto? (this makes a difference for naturalisation eligibility in the UK). And has he got indefinite leave to remain in the UK?

Thanks for you reply, we were in Aus for a month this Dec and if anything it has only added to his unhappiness here
I agree about making a decision about our future as that is what is causing me the most upset, do we have one if we cant move to Aus in the near future and he continues to feel so unhappy here.
I know there are no easy answers, suppose i am just a bit upset with the situation at the moment.

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We are de-facto and he applied for his visa on these grounds last year, was granted visa till Sept 07 and has to reapply then I think that one will be for indefinite leave. By that time we will of been living together for 5 yrs so not sure when he would be able to apply for citizenship think it maybe once he has been here with me for the 5yrs.

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How do you feel about living in Oz? What part of Oz does he come from? Do you have close friends and family in the UK? Its a stressful time for you I'm sure, I hope you both can resolve this without having to do something drastic like part..

I am open to going to Oz its just that its not possible at the moment and can't put a definate date on it either. He is from Brisbane, and my family live near by me but I don't see much of them. I am trying to help him as much as i can but its difficult and reading so many other posters who have to deal with these feelings does help me in understanding a little bit more what he is going through.

Thanks for your reply Ladylisa, sorry long delay in answering having puter problems

Hello

My hubby is an aussie and when we first met over here he suffered homesickness very badly, especially in winter time but I knew he always wanted to go back to Oz so he took me out for a visit. Anyway to cut it short I thought yep looks lovely lets give it a go.
Got married over here and out we went with our 5month old baby girl. We lived in NSW about 1 hour from Sydney and we stayed there for 21/2yrs. We have been back here in UK 18mths and this time round hubby does like it. He is getting all the things he can from it, good job and career prospects, easy travel to Europe ( not that we have done that yet) and believe it or not cooler weather ( which he loves !!!!).
We both know that we will always be pulled between both countries and accept that. We do feel that perhaps in a few years time we may head back..but you know thats what we think now but come those few years we may have changed our minds again.
Australia will always be his "home" and I do feel it is my second home.

I do know how you feel..I found it hard when my hubby was homesick and sometimes hated being here....!! Compromise.....

Please feel free to PM me....I don't post that often on here now and intend to do less in the next few months..!!but you can email or Pm me I will get them...!
Take care and keep that chin up....well his anyway !!
P x