Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
Oct 14th 2010, 11:14 am
#16
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
With all the info above in mind, I would go home because you know thats what everyone wants 
Oct 14th 2010, 11:29 am
#17
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Location: Back in England
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
I agree. Go. And yes, solicitor first.
If the move feels a bit much to do alone, do you have relatives in Britain who might come out to help with the last rush?
Bev
If the move feels a bit much to do alone, do you have relatives in Britain who might come out to help with the last rush?
Bev
Oct 14th 2010, 12:50 pm
#18
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
This is a no brainer...go girl go. 
Oct 14th 2010, 1:08 pm
#19
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
OMG - I've just read your last post.
There's not even an option in my mind, you have to take the plunge, however scary, get to a lawyer, make it legal and pack up and go. Take yourself and your kids to where they will have family around and you can do it!!! Be positive, be strong and be happy. Life is too short to live it for people who are too wrapped up in themselves and their new lives.
Go back to the UK, get the kids settled and make a new life for yourselves. You have the right to be free and be happy. I wish you all the best and if you need more encouragement, just keep posting. You're not on your own and we'll try and help you every step of the way.
Go for it!!!!
There's not even an option in my mind, you have to take the plunge, however scary, get to a lawyer, make it legal and pack up and go. Take yourself and your kids to where they will have family around and you can do it!!! Be positive, be strong and be happy. Life is too short to live it for people who are too wrapped up in themselves and their new lives.
Go back to the UK, get the kids settled and make a new life for yourselves. You have the right to be free and be happy. I wish you all the best and if you need more encouragement, just keep posting. You're not on your own and we'll try and help you every step of the way.
Go for it!!!!
Oct 14th 2010, 1:23 pm
#20
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Location: Used to be New York, now North Yorkshire
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
Good for you! I'm so happy to hear you're going for it
Oct 14th 2010, 1:38 pm
#21
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
Hi - I have lived in Melbourne for 9 years. Have three children (13,11,10). The children and myself are British. My husband (Irish) moved us to Melbourne in 2001 for "2 years only" - but then decided that he loved it here and would not move back.
He then walked out on the children and I, almost 3 yrs ago, and refused to allow me to move back to the UK with the children. He had repartnered and had a baby (unknown to me -before he left) and only saw our children for 2 nights out of every 14.
I have no family and minimal friends here - and life is incredibly lonely. I have fought for everything on behalf of my children (good school, maintenance, home etc) out of their father and finally resolved that I would have to stay here until the children were old enough to say that they would like to go (they would all be happy to go).
Out of the blue - my ex has suddenly decided that he will allow us to go permanently. What do I do?
I wanted to go home for so long after he left. I have to work every hour that I can here to keep a roof over our heads. Christmas, birthdays - only ever the kids and I.
Yet this is the life that we have known for 9 years.
I am a nurse - so i know that I will get a job easy enough in the UK - but what about somewhere to live, car, schools etc. All my family live in Bucks - but property there is pricey. I will be a sole parent - so even harder.
But I will have so much family there for the children and I. My mind is constantly turning about what to do.
Everyone in the UK appears so down about the country at the mo - upset about the weather, finances - whatever. I feel that I want to come home - but don't want to make a decision that the children will hate me for in the future.
I am just not happy here, though. What do you think?
He then walked out on the children and I, almost 3 yrs ago, and refused to allow me to move back to the UK with the children. He had repartnered and had a baby (unknown to me -before he left) and only saw our children for 2 nights out of every 14.
I have no family and minimal friends here - and life is incredibly lonely. I have fought for everything on behalf of my children (good school, maintenance, home etc) out of their father and finally resolved that I would have to stay here until the children were old enough to say that they would like to go (they would all be happy to go).
Out of the blue - my ex has suddenly decided that he will allow us to go permanently. What do I do?
I wanted to go home for so long after he left. I have to work every hour that I can here to keep a roof over our heads. Christmas, birthdays - only ever the kids and I.
Yet this is the life that we have known for 9 years.
I am a nurse - so i know that I will get a job easy enough in the UK - but what about somewhere to live, car, schools etc. All my family live in Bucks - but property there is pricey. I will be a sole parent - so even harder.
But I will have so much family there for the children and I. My mind is constantly turning about what to do.
Everyone in the UK appears so down about the country at the mo - upset about the weather, finances - whatever. I feel that I want to come home - but don't want to make a decision that the children will hate me for in the future.
I am just not happy here, though. What do you think?
Oct 14th 2010, 1:41 pm
#22
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
Another point sorry - discuss all this with your children too with the pro of family, culture, incredible countryside, Europe on the doorstep not to mention fish and chips!
Oct 14th 2010, 7:47 pm
#23
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
No advice on what to do from me about the move. You know your mind better than some disembodied voice on the web.
The only thing I would say is, that if you don't have it already, then get Australian citizenship. It will keep your, and your kids, options open for any return one day.
The only thing I would say is, that if you don't have it already, then get Australian citizenship. It will keep your, and your kids, options open for any return one day.
Oct 16th 2010, 10:57 am
#24
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
The children and I do have citizenship.
Much as it seems we would not come back in a hurry (memories etc) - at least it leaves the door open.
I agree about the fish and chips and the chance to go to France etc - fantastic!
All w/e - my children have got into the swing of a move. Making decisions about what will be given away/sold and what will come.
I have told them that they have to be ruthless!
I have a roof plumber to fix the holes in the roof and then I can freshen up the interior.
I am a little concerned about what the house prices in the UK will be like - but something will work out for us
I shall apply to get re-registered with the Nurses board in the UK this week. I shall contact the legal service to get a document drafted to allow us free movement and permanent relocation.
I have lists and ideas coming out of my pores!
I was a little scared to begin with, I guess. But having thought for a little while about the 'how to's' etc - I am much more confident now. Especially after the exuberant response of my gorgeous guys to a permanent move.
Feels like life is starting - although everyone knows that nothing is concrete until a legal document is drafted and signed.
Thanks again for all your responses - I am sure that as my questions arise in their millions...I shall be asking for all your experience. I don't feel quite as alone in attempting all this, knowing that there are so many of you out there who have similar stories to mine
Much as it seems we would not come back in a hurry (memories etc) - at least it leaves the door open.
I agree about the fish and chips and the chance to go to France etc - fantastic!
All w/e - my children have got into the swing of a move. Making decisions about what will be given away/sold and what will come.
I have told them that they have to be ruthless!
I have a roof plumber to fix the holes in the roof and then I can freshen up the interior.
I am a little concerned about what the house prices in the UK will be like - but something will work out for us
I shall apply to get re-registered with the Nurses board in the UK this week. I shall contact the legal service to get a document drafted to allow us free movement and permanent relocation.
I have lists and ideas coming out of my pores!
I was a little scared to begin with, I guess. But having thought for a little while about the 'how to's' etc - I am much more confident now. Especially after the exuberant response of my gorgeous guys to a permanent move.
Feels like life is starting - although everyone knows that nothing is concrete until a legal document is drafted and signed.
Thanks again for all your responses - I am sure that as my questions arise in their millions...I shall be asking for all your experience. I don't feel quite as alone in attempting all this, knowing that there are so many of you out there who have similar stories to mine
Oct 16th 2010, 11:10 am
#25
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
The children and I do have citizenship.
Much as it seems we would not come back in a hurry (memories etc) - at least it leaves the door open.
I agree about the fish and chips and the chance to go to France etc - fantastic!
All w/e - my children have got into the swing of a move. Making decisions about what will be given away/sold and what will come.
I have told them that they have to be ruthless!
I have a roof plumber to fix the holes in the roof and then I can freshen up the interior.
I am a little concerned about what the house prices in the UK will be like - but something will work out for us
I shall apply to get re-registered with the Nurses board in the UK this week. I shall contact the legal service to get a document drafted to allow us free movement and permanent relocation.
I have lists and ideas coming out of my pores!
I was a little scared to begin with, I guess. But having thought for a little while about the 'how to's' etc - I am much more confident now. Especially after the exuberant response of my gorgeous guys to a permanent move.
Feels like life is starting - although everyone knows that nothing is concrete until a legal document is drafted and signed.
Thanks again for all your responses - I am sure that as my questions arise in their millions...I shall be asking for all your experience. I don't feel quite as alone in attempting all this, knowing that there are so many of you out there who have similar stories to mine
Much as it seems we would not come back in a hurry (memories etc) - at least it leaves the door open.
I agree about the fish and chips and the chance to go to France etc - fantastic!
All w/e - my children have got into the swing of a move. Making decisions about what will be given away/sold and what will come.
I have told them that they have to be ruthless!
I have a roof plumber to fix the holes in the roof and then I can freshen up the interior.
I am a little concerned about what the house prices in the UK will be like - but something will work out for us
I shall apply to get re-registered with the Nurses board in the UK this week. I shall contact the legal service to get a document drafted to allow us free movement and permanent relocation.
I have lists and ideas coming out of my pores!
I was a little scared to begin with, I guess. But having thought for a little while about the 'how to's' etc - I am much more confident now. Especially after the exuberant response of my gorgeous guys to a permanent move.
Feels like life is starting - although everyone knows that nothing is concrete until a legal document is drafted and signed.
Thanks again for all your responses - I am sure that as my questions arise in their millions...I shall be asking for all your experience. I don't feel quite as alone in attempting all this, knowing that there are so many of you out there who have similar stories to mine
Oct 16th 2010, 12:27 pm
#26
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Location: Ex-Canada: now rural West Sussex.
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Re: Chance to go to UK permanently...do I do it??
Hello again Elizabeth.....you do sound SO positive....well done you! You'll get through it, and I reckon a year from now (maybe sooner) this will be but a memory.
Good luck....
Good luck....
