Nice one Mary, glad to hear that things are working out. I will probably move to UK ahead of my wife later in the year and I am dreading the thought of being apart (5 weeks at Xmas was bad enough) but it does enable you to make the decisions you need to to hit the ground running without having to discuss every little detail, and it'll be lovely for your husband to come back with everything 'set up I'm sure.

dear mary1967uk. please, do not feel you're afailure. you tried something many people are too scared to do and that's going to the other side of the world to a strange country where you knew no one. think of it as an experience ,at least you tried others don't ,they just complain about australia from a distance. i would be proud that i had done what you've done mary. i'll bet you're wiser and more mature now than before you came over here and decided to go home. what a brave decision ,to travel home alone with your children .i hope you do really well in your new home and life ,please do write in again, i'd love to hear how you're doing now you are happier. best regards ..suanne

Wise point.

We're always moving and changing in life. If we're not, we're dead. Recognizing a problem and doing something to fix it is success, not failure. Doesn't matter if we move to something new or return to something familiar. Good for you!

Bev

I've never heard anyone complain about Australia from afar. Just the opposite, most people who haven't been seem to think it's some kind utopian place to live. Tha vast majority of people I have met who complain about other countries are Aussies who have never been anywhere, but sit back with a self centered smugness (albeit musguided) that they are living in the 'best country in the world' with absolutely no frame of reference to the contrary, or they've been to London for a few days and suddenly 'know' what it's like in the UK.

I think that probably applies to a lot of people in a lot of countries. The grass is always greener, or not, depending on where you come from.
I would have to agree that a lot of people from outside the country seem to have an idea that London is a foggy city like it is on old movies, and that the rest of the UK is a place where it rains all the time.

Mary welcome back and dont ever leave again ok...

Im delighted to see you here and fair play to for posting the up date your doing great

Hi Niamh,

As you know, i'm up and down...............but it's great to be back isn't it??

As for the rain and fog.....................IT'S LOVELY!!!!! Never thought i'd say that!

Yep but soon it will be all up

Im loving being home, I haven't seen much rain in two weeks it rained once in the morning and that was it, I loved the snow and the cold frosty mornings I remember being in the house in caloundra wishing it would rain for a break from the heat LOL, Im happy to say I have not noticed the cold that much at all at least I can stick on a jumper or coat and your warm, instead of sweating there is only so much clothes you can take off

Hi Mary great to hear you got home safe and are doing fine All the best...

Hey and at least you now know where OH's loyalty's really are Bet that is just the best feeling Mmm

Wow - that has cheered me up no end! hubby and I arrived August 08 -had this utopian view thinking grass was greener ( its definitely not green.... more parched yellow) and reality is I am hating it here and can't wait to get home - i feel like an alien and no one here gets me at all - i just want to be home in place that i feel comfortable!

I think whoever said other people try to get you to stay because they are living their dream through you and are too scared to try it themsleves - was right. my family keep trying to make me stay but I am 100% certain in my own mind that i do not want to be in australia much longer. Luckily my hubby has agreed with me and our plan was to try and earn enough cash to make trip home - but last night his boss emailed us to say he was reducing his hourly rate by $10... which has potentially accellerated our return!

So thanks for this thread as its given me clarification that other people do go home and i am not crazy for hating this yellow barren land!!!!!! Coming from Devon i think the lack or green in Melbourne has been one of the hardest things...

You sound like me!!! Who needs the sun when you've got a 13 tog duvet and a gas fire???? My OH makes me laugh, he's having to drape towels over the leather sofa to stop himself sticking to it - all he does is moan that it's too hot to go out.................me, wind, rain or shine.............i'm out there and lovin it!

Thanks San, we're doing ok, just got to get the rest of the family home now (OH, dog and 2 cats!), and then i'll be able to put it all behind me.


Glad the thread helped and i hope that you can come home soon. I probably jumped ship much sooner than most..............got a lot of stick for doing it as well.................but i count myself as one of the lucky one's, i was able to make my mind up quite quickly and return before too much damage was done. It was hard coming back, i won't deny it, but i came back without my OH and i think that's what's made it so difficult emotionally.

This is a bit off topic but I thought it would make the girls smile. A while ago my husband was reading the posts with me when he asked what 'DH' meant? I couldn't help it, I replied well it depends if you've been good or not. If you've been good it means 'darling husband'. If you've been bad, it means d***head'.
Take your pick.

He didn't know whether to believe me or not. He's quite sensitive so he went off to think about it. I had such a giggle. I'm in such a good mood at the moment I can't stop smiling and reading the 'DH' bit made me remember the conversation. Men are funny.

So glad you got that off your chest

I know, don't know where to put myself at the moment. It's so hard just sitting around waiting. The mischief I could get upto.

Thank you - we had a good talk last night and plans are all go! we are thinking 4 weeks time we will be kissing the run way at heathrow!!! ( in warm coats of course!!!)