I was wondering if there is anyone who has been through marriage to a US spouse and lived here a long time, got divorced and made the decision to go back to the UK and start again.

I got married in 1997, we have a 18 year old daughter (who was born in the UK) - we have lived here since 1999 and I have always had difficulties here and haven't really liked it to be honest. We had marriage difficulties and my daughter had medical issues and we were without insurance so I decided to go back to the UK in 2011. Everything was good apart from the job situation there for me, which was terrible - but I am from Teesside and really only looked in that area. After a year of being in work, I was made redundant and didn't work for 2 years - I was looking for work that would supply 24,000 so that my husband could get a spousal visa.

Long story short - ended up coming back here to try again and see if we could patch things up etc. I got a job within a week, we have an apt, I have a new car etc - everything should be fine, but isn't. We are still having the same marriage issues we were having before and plus now (because I spent the last 3 years in the UK) I am terribly homesick and miss everything I am used to doing. My daughter also has become withdrawn somewhat and misses the UK. We also have no support network here - my husband has a large family but we are kind of like outsiders because they are Pentecostals, very fundamental and we don't fit in - they can talk about nothing else but church things. My husband doesn't like them much and they are his family.

I am in an awkward situation, not sure what to do. If I could go back tomorrow I would, but financially am not able to and would need at least another year of saving. I think if we had lived somewhere different I would've liked it better, but we have been in Texas (Lewisville and Garland area) which is nice enough, but I miss being near the sea, countryside, love travelling up and down the UK on trains etc - so feel very isolated here. I felt this before we left to return back to the UK. I think being afraid of having to do things on my own and the insecure job situation in the UK was what brought me back really.

Anyone else been in this kind of situation before?

With regard the amount you need for a spouse visa, you daughter is British so you don't need to sponsor her for the UK

The amount of income you require is 18,600 GBP. (not sure where you got 24,000 from)

You might try posting your question in the "Moving Back to the UK" forum, or ask a Mod to move this thread (they don’t like duplicate threads). I seem to recall that several people have moved back under the circumstances you describe.

yes am aware that daughter didn't need a visa, as she was British (obviously). At the time, when I checked in 2012 you had to have a salary of nearly 24,000 for a 3 person family. (it may have been closer to 23,000, but anyway, was no where near what I was being offered)

Hi there LindseyAnn.

I'll move this over the the Moving Back to the UK forum for you.

There is likely more folk in there that will be able to chat with you about this.

Pulaski - how to ask he mod to move thread?

thanks - she already did it for me - cheers

The Mods are omni-present and all-seeing!

Hello Lindsayann,
I'm not quite sure what you need help with...

your marriage is obviously "tricky" to say the least. I haven't divorced but I have a few friends who have, some have returned to the UK (albeit from France) and some have stayed put - in the USA and in France. Usually because of the kids. Those who returned have both taken whatever jobs they could get (in Asda and Tesco as cashiers) and have categorically said that it was the best thing they ever did.......leaving spouses and getting their lives back with their families in the UK.

Lindsay ann, as your daughter is british, you only need a job paying 18,600 per annum for 6 months in order to sponsor your husband. you and your daughter can move back tomorrow and as your daughter is 18 - is that the adult age in Texas? In UK it is, so you would not need your husbands permission to remove her from the USA.
https://www.gov.uk/government/upload...equirement.pdf

Lindsay Ann I just wanted to wish you luck in whatever you decide to do. I've had 15 years in Florida and haven't enjoyed living here and haven't fitted in with the american way of life. Finally I've plucked up the courage to leave my husband and return home. Not sure what I'll do when I get there, but I have a little money put aside and I'll be going home to my mum's at first who is a tower of strength for me.