well its all systems go the house sale went unconditional last night, and boy do I feel funny. I felt so sad to here the solicitor tell me that. I have this big sinking feeling in my stomach, but at the same time I am sooooooo excited. As much as I have hated been here it still feels sad, the end of an era and all that.

All the postitivity in me left when I got here and I am trying to get it back honest!!! Hope it returns when I get back. In the meantime I have become really scared to go back but excited at the same time. This immigration lark is a bloody rollercoaster How can you be scared to go somewhere where you spent 30 years of your life, all your family and friends are there etc etc. I have been getting texts, emails left right and centre from people saying that its great we are coming back, cant wait to see you and all that. But I still feel sad.

What is wrong with me Must be extended PMT

If it's any consolation I feel the same, eager to get back but sad at leaving. I think it's only natural to feel like it, probably because you aren't really 'anywhere' at the moment. Once you set down your roots again back in UK you will be fine.

Chin up!

You'll be fine!!! It's just nerves I guess. I suppose it's a bit of "the dream's over" thing as well. I too will feel like that. We've all worked so hard at this emigrating lark only for it not to work out.

Just focus on what's back in the UK and making a new life back there.

Keep smiling

end of a dream me dears!

thats what i thinks up

start a new one, in england

its tough aint it, we have just gone "public" with our plans and nothing is ever easy...........

I think it is because your comfort zone is changing again, it isn't easy. all the best ,it won't take long to get in to the place were you spent the first 30 years

yes I know things will more than likely be ok, you just start to panic and think oh my god I hope I am doing the right thing, we gave up so much to come and lost so much fighting to stay here only to decide we didnt really like it here anyway to loosing everything again going back and starting from the bottom all over again. But at least I will have me life back again and that is one thing i am looking forward to

I'd feel nervous too. And excited, but also extremely sad. Sad because we've failed, but pleased we tried it. Sad because of all the money we have lost

But knowing you will be home soon must be so thrilling, even if you get seconds thoughts, that will be natural, don't worry.

All the best to you, good luck

For what its worth, I am feeling exactly the same, so excited about going home but scared that it will regret it! I suppose its always scary when you do something different, step outside your comfort zone. The difference between going back and coming out here is the "Dream". It was possible to have that dream about your new life in Oz as you knew nothing about it and it was all an adventure but you know what your going back too so the same excitement doesn't exist.
I feel like Perth has sucked the life out of me though and in a way i'm abit scared about going back and not fitting in anymore.......

You will feel different, it is bound to happen. If you think that your family and friends have carried on as they always have, their bubble has been exactly the same. You changed your bubble and even though it wasn't for you it will have changed you more than you realise.

It isn't easy is it? Perhaps for some of us it isn't big houses, with a pool or the beach or even the weather. Some of us need a conection. I have never fitted into this shoe and it may have looked good but it pinches when I walk.

I don't know how long you have been away but again you got have used to something even if you know it's not right.i think too that oz is overated and that maybe for some is another issue. I am going home but I will be leaving a son or maybe 2. That scares me witless but we do all have are own lives to live. I wish you all the best when you go and you settle back quickly.

Thanks blowfly. I have been here 2.5 years and just feel the tug of friends and family too badly to stay any longer. My baby is 18 months and so has no choice about weither he comes or stays, it must be so hard for you to have to split from your boys..........We all have to do whats right for us in life, something I will teach my boy and i'm sure you have told yours, they will find their own way and even though it must hurt like hell, you have just got to trust that they do what ultimately makes them happy in life............and you must do the same.

You can't fail. It's life and by doing this huge thing you have learnt stacks about you and your family. Living your life can never include failure. Not in my book anyway.

I should imagine you would all feel the nervous, excited, terrified, emotionally drained. Most of us do when we move to wherever in the first place. The destination may be different - the emotions will be the same.

Good luck and happy journey to all who are about to embark on the trip back to the UK.

No way have you failed, imagine in a few years when you are too old to get a visa it would be a life full of regrets - why didn't we go to Aus? -
I don't know your circumstances but you came and gave it a go which speaks volumes.
Good luck for the future,
j x

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you at all. I felt exactly the same and I'd only been in Oz for a year. As much as I was desperate to get back to the UK, as soon as we booked everything I went all sad and upset about leaving. I've been home nearly three weeks now though and am having a ball - Oz is just a distant memory and I can honestly say the only thing I miss is the sunshine.

Good luck with the move - hope it all goes really well for you

Hi Louise

Thanks for that, since writing that I have now started to feel really good about the move everything is moving a long at such a pace now and I am feeling really positive about the move I am not having any regrets or doubts about going back anyomre (well for today anyway ). 2 weeks today and I will be off. I am putting all the negative feelings and bad experiences here in new zealand down to just that ... experience. I am not thinking it is going to be easy going back and starting all over again with hardly any money but I really dont care anymore I just want to get back where I belong, also looking forward to my 4 week holiday onthe way back though