divorce and stuff...
Oct 5th 2011, 1:53 pm
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I've been advised by a local lawyer to get the divorce settlement translated into Arabic and to get it attested at the UAE embassy in Holland, not that that would it make it legal as such, but at least when something would happen that goes against the ruling, I'd have a bit more than a lot of Dutch words...
Oct 5th 2011, 1:54 pm
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Sorry to hear that, MH....
Since the rent, DEWA etc are not part of his salary, but part of his overall package, I would say that, technically, any monies he gives you as rent etc would be part of the overall alimony payment that he makes to you.
His child support payments would likely be calculated on his salary, less allowances, and there is a chance that his employer moves him from a married status package to a single status package, if they were to feel so inclined. That would have an effect on his allowances too...
Since the rent, DEWA etc are not part of his salary, but part of his overall package, I would say that, technically, any monies he gives you as rent etc would be part of the overall alimony payment that he makes to you.
His child support payments would likely be calculated on his salary, less allowances, and there is a chance that his employer moves him from a married status package to a single status package, if they were to feel so inclined. That would have an effect on his allowances too...
Oct 5th 2011, 4:27 pm
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no, it's not normal I would think, but mr MH has been with this company for almost 20 years, so I guess that since they brought us over here, they may sort of feel an obligation to help out a bit. If they wouldn't, it could mean my husband would have to leave Dubai which might not suit them.
But even so, there is a risk involved for me to have to rely on this.
No, my company won't provide any of this due to the nature of my job.
According to Dutch law, he will have to support me for 12 years.
But even so, there is a risk involved for me to have to rely on this.
No, my company won't provide any of this due to the nature of my job.
According to Dutch law, he will have to support me for 12 years.
Oct 5th 2011, 4:29 pm
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Oct 5th 2011, 4:30 pm
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MH, sorry to hear this. Hope you guys can keep level heads (is yours ever anything else?) and it all works out for the best for you both and your children.
Oct 5th 2011, 4:49 pm
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Oct 5th 2011, 4:50 pm
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oops and should add that divorces are always grim so I think what he is offering is more than reasonable given this bit of the world we live in
Hope it stays amicable for as long as possible
Hope it stays amicable for as long as possible
Oct 5th 2011, 4:59 pm
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Oct 5th 2011, 5:39 pm
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Alimony doesn't work like that or at least it didn't the last time i had any brushes with it. I think my father had to pay (TBH a small sum, not enough for her not to work) until my mother lived with/ married someone else. Obviously it all depends on the marriage length etc. This was seperate to child maintenance.
Oct 5th 2011, 5:39 pm
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Sorry to hear your news, MH...and that sentiment comes from Lionheart too. For what its worth, I agree that, if you are looking after the kids, you should get a much better share. After all, your ex won't need much more than a bachelor pad, surely? However, the judicial system here does seem to favour the males in the household. Who gets to keep the family pets? Anyway, good luck and I hope it all works out well for you in the end.
Oct 5th 2011, 5:47 pm
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Hi MH, just wanted to say I hope you get everything sorted out fairly and amicably...good luck with it all xx
Oct 7th 2011, 4:21 am
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So sorry to hear this MH.
Best of luck getting it all sorted.
Best of luck getting it all sorted.
Oct 9th 2011, 7:57 am
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Allimony - the act of giving oats to a dead horse 
You can get divorced anywhere and it's usually recognised as long as it's stamped, translated and attested by whoever...a lot of people don't know that and end up going back home to get royally screwed over. I'd suggest Saudi's a good place - just say I divorce you three times, drink three shots of Vodka and say two hail mary's and it's over
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You can get divorced anywhere and it's usually recognised as long as it's stamped, translated and attested by whoever...a lot of people don't know that and end up going back home to get royally screwed over. I'd suggest Saudi's a good place - just say I divorce you three times, drink three shots of Vodka and say two hail mary's and it's over
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Oct 10th 2011, 7:38 am
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sorry to hear that MH. I hope everything is sorted amicably, best of luck.
Oct 11th 2011, 2:43 pm
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thanks for all your replies and messages and karma and stuff...
now...I know there's a million threads about this, but hey ho, I will ask anyway...
would I be ok with 12,500 dhs a month, villa will be paid for, so will medical, school fees etc. So basically food, phone/internet/tv, Dewa and car...
I would have a bit more cause I work, but as it's freelance type, I never know how much I will earn, so I can't rely on that money as such...
It would be myself and my daughter most of the time. And yes, I realise I will need to be more clued up as to where to shop, probably not just go and buy everything at Spinneys...
now...I know there's a million threads about this, but hey ho, I will ask anyway...
would I be ok with 12,500 dhs a month, villa will be paid for, so will medical, school fees etc. So basically food, phone/internet/tv, Dewa and car...
I would have a bit more cause I work, but as it's freelance type, I never know how much I will earn, so I can't rely on that money as such...
It would be myself and my daughter most of the time. And yes, I realise I will need to be more clued up as to where to shop, probably not just go and buy everything at Spinneys...