Re: Should I get a pre-nup?
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Re: Should I get a pre-nup?
Originally posted by MrsLondon Interesting. So you could buy a house, pay the mortgage 20 years and have only 5 years left to pay, get married, the spouse moves in, after one day you row, they walk out, it turns nasty. Next thing you know you have to give 'em half your house? Fun! Yep, pretty much... as the house that a couple shares as their primary dwelling becomes "their" house. But that is only one spin on the law that you just described. You can look at it other ways too... the law is there to protect people in families that don't work (i.e. homemakers). |
Re: Should I get a pre-nup?
Here is a different side.
In my first marriage, we did not have a pre-nup agreement. When I left everything was amicably split, child support was paid and paid on time. I did not ask for anything more. Despite me having lived the single parent life for X amount of years and working, four of us (3 kids and myself)I still was not able to be a home owner, have a great amount of savings or even have investments. I then meet husband #2 who has a great job, his own home, etc. He did not have any children. When his ex left him she pulled a real number on him. True he was only to blame himself for allowing her to get away with what she did but in his own mind he wanted to get rid of her once and for all. (Long story but I understand where he was coming from). He ended up with a fair amount of debt but he made me well aware of it before I immigrated. Paid her off for her share of the home and his pension despite that in the 22 years of marriage and her working all the time, she did not contribute one dime to the household. She spent it all on herself - high maintenence. She literally wiped out the home of furniture as well. During marriage she charged up credit cards like crazy. I'm a SAHM (no job as of yet)and #2 husband provides for both me and my son. My son's father is fiancially unable to look after himself so there is no support for my son in that regard. We had the big talk of what would happen should (a) if he were to pass on before me say even if it were a year or so from now or (b) our marriage did work out. On his part he said that the house would be left (in case of death) to me however if anything were to happen to me as well, he asked that all the assets be divided up amongst 5 people - his 2 nieces and my 3 kids. I certainly can promise that. He then asked about divorce - how I would like to see it handled. I told him I certainly wouldn't be out to get him for all he was worth. In fact if I did not have a job here in this country, I only asked that he guarantee a way back for my son and I to Canada and helped us get back on our feet - just some financial help until I got a job there. Ok we've been procrastinating on this but we will be getting some kind of will drawn up on it all. My first husband was an evil man (he's not the father of my son btw) but I did not go after him for all he was worth when he left. It's just not my style. Second husband is a decent man, he made sure his ex was well taken care of and then some despite her evil ways. He is not vindictive and evil. He told me he would take care of me and my son no matter what and you know what? I believe he will. We also live in community property state. Like I mentioned above...just a different story. |
Re: Should I get a pre-nup?
An added comment to my last post. I remember working with a woman who
when she got married to her husband (both 2nd marriages) and he had his own home before he met her, she was not allowed to decorate in the house because as he put it, it was "his house". My BIL's 2 previous marriages did not work out because he insisted that his wives pay 1/2 of everything despite the fact that they made considerably less than he did but then again his idea of also having a good date is to have a woman come to his house, cook for him and they sit in front of the tv for the rest of the night. I kept referring to the house we all live in as "his house" until he started getting upset with me and saying it wasn't "his house", it was "our house". I asked him (stupid me with dumb questions) of why it wouldn't be considered his house only because he had the home long before he met me, he worked for it and me not having a job he's paying the mortgage, etc on it. He said that we were married, he loved me very much and everything he had before is now "ours" no matter what. |
Re: Should I get a pre-nup?
majken wrote:
> > Our prenup basically states that whatever wealth/property accumulated > prior to marriage belongs to the spouse who owned it. It can also > protect the wealthier spouse in case of a divorce; for example, whatever > my husband earns from his practice belongs to him. I understand the part about previous assets, but currrent income, at least, should be shared.. We also stipulated > that there is no alimony in case of a divorce (that applies to both of > us). On the other hand, I am protected from my husband's business > debts. If was a problem, then maybe he should learn how to incorporate to protect family assets from business losses. If we never get a divorce, the prenup is moot, and the will > supersedes the prenup. Unless he changes the will....... |
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