Relocating to USA from UK with kids
Apr 8th 2020, 3:56 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
ohhhh really..it is not hard to believe because I cannot reveal our obstacles here fully...I wish I could so you could suggest me more other than assuming...but you are right it is an option in normal circumstances.. thank you
Apr 8th 2020, 4:06 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
They isn't 'more' options. You have 3.
1) Pursue the court order, get it, get married and apply for the visa.
2) Do not persue the court order, remain in the UK, the love interest moves here.
3) Give up custody of the children, get married and apply for the visa.
I don't see you have another path that these.
1) Pursue the court order, get it, get married and apply for the visa.
2) Do not persue the court order, remain in the UK, the love interest moves here.
3) Give up custody of the children, get married and apply for the visa.
I don't see you have another path that these.
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Apr 8th 2020, 4:10 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
I understand that resigning might not be sensible, might mean foregoing some sort of bonus, or in the case of some lawyer's work might require permission from the court to resign, but except as mentioned above I can't think of a job that someone "cannot" resign from.
Apr 8th 2020, 4:14 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
They isn't 'more' optiions. You have 3.
1) Peruse the court order, get it, get married and apply for the visa.
2) Do not persure the court order, remain in the UK, the love interest moves here.
3) Give up custody of the children, get married and apply for the visa.
I don't see you have another path that these.
1) Peruse the court order, get it, get married and apply for the visa.
2) Do not persure the court order, remain in the UK, the love interest moves here.
3) Give up custody of the children, get married and apply for the visa.
I don't see you have another path that these.
5) Give up the love interest
Apr 8th 2020, 4:15 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
Indentured servitude is unlawful in the US. Unless your "partner" is incarcerated and doing something such as sewing mailbags or pressing license plates there is no such thing as a job in the US that you "cannot" resign from.
I understand that resigning might not be sensible, might mean foregoing some sort of bonus, or in the case of some lawyer's work might require permission from the court to resign, but except as mentioned above I can't think of a job that someone "cannot" resign from.
I understand that resigning might not be sensible, might mean foregoing some sort of bonus, or in the case of some lawyer's work might require permission from the court to resign, but except as mentioned above I can't think of a job that someone "cannot" resign from.
Well, there is if he is in the military and/or working for a company doing top secret work for the government.
Apr 8th 2020, 4:15 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
OK fine... clearly I meant that had a resolution without them remaining apart 
Although 4 does mean the oldest child will have aged out and could not come too
Although 4 does mean the oldest child will have aged out and could not come too
Apr 8th 2020, 4:18 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
..... They can stop you going somewhere else/ working for a competitor/ exploiting your "secret" knowledge (and even that is extremely hard to enforce), but I have never heard of a truely unresignable military role.
Apr 8th 2020, 4:34 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
You are not even divorced yet, so can't start any visa paperwork with your new partner anyway. Plus, due to the pandemic, getting a visa is going to take longer than usual.
So in the meantime, have a consultation with an attorney to see what your best option is for getting approval to remove the kids from the UK. I don't see any rush to get this done, as there are factors that will make the visa a long process anyway. Take it slow, have a consultation, and let us know how it goes.
Rene
So in the meantime, have a consultation with an attorney to see what your best option is for getting approval to remove the kids from the UK. I don't see any rush to get this done, as there are factors that will make the visa a long process anyway. Take it slow, have a consultation, and let us know how it goes.
Rene
Apr 8th 2020, 4:46 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
Indentured servitude is unlawful in the US. Unless your "partner" is incarcerated and doing something such as sewing mailbags or pressing license plates there is no such thing as a job in the US that you "cannot" resign from.
I understand that resigning might not be sensible, might mean foregoing some sort of bonus, or in the case of some lawyer's work might require permission from the court to resign, but except as mentioned above I can't think of a job that someone "cannot" resign from.
I understand that resigning might not be sensible, might mean foregoing some sort of bonus, or in the case of some lawyer's work might require permission from the court to resign, but except as mentioned above I can't think of a job that someone "cannot" resign from.
Apr 8th 2020, 4:55 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
...and you are wrong.g totally...there are jobs in Us that u cannot resign...obviously u have lack of knowledge on this ..I dont know where did you learn this but something is sure you know nothing about it..so do not dig it too much..
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Apr 8th 2020, 4:59 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
That is where my thoughts went too. How much time have you spent with this man? How long have you been 'together'?
All I would say is this - you made a bad choice with your first husband by all accounts, you should give yourself some time, since as has been pointed out this will take some time, to make sure that this is what you want. To uproot your kids again is no small thing.
All I would say is this - you made a bad choice with your first husband by all accounts, you should give yourself some time, since as has been pointed out this will take some time, to make sure that this is what you want. To uproot your kids again is no small thing.
Apr 8th 2020, 5:00 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
You are not even divorced yet, so can't start any visa paperwork with your new partner anyway. Plus, due to the pandemic, getting a visa is going to take longer than usual.
So in the meantime, have a consultation with an attorney to see what your best option is for getting approval to remove the kids from the UK. I don't see any rush to get this done, as there are factors that will make the visa a long process anyway. Take it slow, have a consultation, and let us know how it goes.
Rene
So in the meantime, have a consultation with an attorney to see what your best option is for getting approval to remove the kids from the UK. I don't see any rush to get this done, as there are factors that will make the visa a long process anyway. Take it slow, have a consultation, and let us know how it goes.
Rene
Apr 8th 2020, 5:02 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
No, you consult a lawyer in the UK .... your problems are in the UK.
Apr 8th 2020, 5:11 pm
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Re: Relocating to USA from UK with kids
That is where my thoughts went too. How much time have you spent with this man? How long have you been 'together'?
All I would say is this - you made a bad choice with your first husband by all accounts, you should give yourself some time, since as has been pointed out this will take some time, to make sure that this is what you want. To uproot your kids again is no small thing.
All I would say is this - you made a bad choice with your first husband by all accounts, you should give yourself some time, since as has been pointed out this will take some time, to make sure that this is what you want. To uproot your kids again is no small thing.