made of kent

depends? I have had 1 american boyfriends in the past, actually 2 but one was in the UK and fizzled out when he move to Norwich,UK, for 6 months (I was in Canterbury) and the other didn't so much fizzle as was doused in water? when he went to Milwalkee (can't spell that for the life of me!) but friends with both. Its to do with intent if you are committed (which these 2 and me weren't) no go! but me and my hubby! not as much as those who have partners in the forces, have been parted for, I would estimate 18 months over the 12 yrs we have been together. and its about trust, very easy to get give into the green eyed monster, but if you have a strong relationship, then it may work

Madelina

mine has been a long distance relationship from the start and is pretty much at the two year mark and going strong. Skype webcamming has a big part to play in daily contact, cheap calls to the States... these days its much easier to maintain a relationship across the continents

Optimus Prime

Long distance relationships.... doomed to failure.

She'll be munching some other chicks furburger before you've unpacked your Doc Martens, Mach4 and hair gel.

MrEmjoy

Thanks for sharing your real life experiences Optimus Prime.

Ray

Dallas is a hot bed of carpet munching ....

Officer Dibble

Long distance relationships only work if youre shagging other people otherwise its simply a penpal relationship.

Englishtart

I hate every minute of it, out of 23 years togeather, we have spent about 5 years apart, doesn't get any easier, in fact, as the kids get older or move out, it's a lot harder.
We talk every day and have the webcams, communication is the key. If you don't have faith in your relationship and trust in your partner, it will never work.

Ozzidoc

LOL. Sooooo not true

cathy22w

Done this before and it isn't ideal - however learned a ton of lessons from it.

Moving back to England in a few days, and me and my girlfriend were going to call it quits. We've made a plan and we'll see how it goes. Involves seeing each other every 8-10 weeks, emails, letters, phone calls, web cam. Don't want to be hanging on every day for a phone call - it's not that practical with the time difference and with work commitments. Don't want to know every tiny detail of what she's doing every day - that'll just preoccupy me and it eats away at you. If we speak then great, if not... there's more time at the weekend. Trust isn't an issue as far as I'm concerned - we have to trust each other or we might as well forget it right now. Just a matter of being determined, getting through this and hopefully being stronger at the end of it. Timing of this move is crap - her elderly parents have both become ill over the last few weeks, and her son has an ongoing health issue that has flared up again. So her moving with me for any amount of time is out of the question right now.

Made a date for her to visit in September, and that has made things easier already. One of the most important things I learned from before is that you need to always have something to look forward to. Keeps from focusing so much on the unknown.

cindyabs

Comes with the territory doesn't it missus? Little did I know marriage number 1 was practice for marriage number 2.

Ray

Thank you Mother Superior

Macca67

Clearly his week-long, sensitivity training seminar is not yet producing the required results, however he has a fair point. A lot of long distance relationships really only work when your OH knows twat-all about them.

Englishtart

So true! I am usually pretty good at coping with the seperations, just for some reason, this time it's much harder, I actually think the reason is that this time it was our choice and not the military.

I know there will be no 'marriage number 2' for me, I'm not wasting all these years I have spent getting him in order, to give him to some other woman already done!

cindyabs

Our 3 1/2 years of being apart was more choice in the current marriage. There was of course the normal waiting time for the visa-we went with a K3, but then after that, he stayed in the UK and me here because we were trying to get as "healthy" financially as we could. Had I been 25 years younger, I would have said never mind, love will find a way. It was enough of a gamble asking someone who had lived in the same country, city and house for 50 years to come here and start afresh.

As for marriage number 1, I wasn't given a choice. I held up my end during his career and held it up well.

MrEmjoy

That makes no sense to me, when you say 'them' who are they?



LDR's do work. You just need to be cool about it and have faith in yourself and your partner

Don't let idiots get to you when they've nothing better to say.