NC Penguin

You're in a different country so understandably things are different. Job hunting for four weeks is not a long time at all considering.

Have you created a completely new American resume or CV? It's more than just changing the spelling.

Have you been to your local library? It's likely to have a selection of books how to write an American resume/CV. That'll help.

Also, ask your husband to ask coworkers if they know of anyone who may have a job vacant that might suit you. Before he does that, have your resume/CV formatted correctly for Americans.

IMHO, it's a bit hasty to be thinking of returning to the UK.

chicagojlo

You should also consider temping if it's possible in your line of work as it can be hard to get straight into a permanent job when you have no local experience. Gives you a chance to ease into the workplace too after such a long break.

TruBrit

you're not american are you only there was a newbie male on here the other day, just arrived in ny and worried about his wife not finding work and that she was wanting to return to the uk as she preferred it over living back here..all early days as well for them and i was wondering if that could be your OH??

pejpm1

nah, that was me talking about my gf.....we're nearly 4 weeks in now and she still hates it....

TruBrit

oh hiya there you are, see i'd not forgotten you

chicagojlo

Do you think there is any chance that she is going to like it in time? Or is her mind made up and she's simply not going to allow it to change? You have my sympathies!

pejpm1

I have no idea at the moment. She's looking for jobs and has a few promising leads so maybe that will help things, but right now everything is incredibly negative. It's hard because I have a job and work long hours so she must feel lonely. It's easy to come out with the usual bullshit about getting used to your own company, going for walks, getting involved in groups etc etc...but thats no substitute for having a job, earning money and having a group of frends. I'm hoping things will be ok, but the ball is in her court. I can help as much as I can, but I'm not moving anywhere.

Dan725

Good advice. You should also be aware that the US job market is far more ruthless, rude and disorganized than it is in the UK. If you don't hear back from people at all - thats considered normal here. If you are kept hanging forever.....also seemingly acceptable. Telling people they will call back and never do.....par for the course. As is changing interviews last minute. Stringing people along......seems to be the thing to do here. The large corporations more often than not take forever to make hiring decisions, and often post false or potential contract win dependent-speculative job ads, that are seen floating about on the likes of Monster etc for months.

Sounds depressing - I know - and sometimes (often!) is - but my point is that if you know about how it is, you can deal with it a bit better - there's nothing wrong with you in particular, almost everyone gets messed about/blanked.

chicagojlo

The rejection of not being able to find a job is also a big part of what can get you down at this stage. Often times we don't even realise it, when you normally apply for a job it's one or two that you apply for and you get maybe one or two rejections. Getting rejected en masse isn't pleasant!
The best thing to do is get on with it in the meantime.

Roland Hulme

I think if you leave, you might regret it in the future.

somebody mentioned temping - that's what I did when I first arrived. Shitty jobs, like sales and waiting tables at weddings - but I made friends, got out of the house and felt purposeful (plus earned money.)

The only way out is through. Stick at it.

Jerseygirl

Although I sympathise with you...don't you think it's a little early to think about quitting...you've only been here 4 months and married less than a year?

Why not do as others have suggested...take a temporary job...who knows what that may lead to? At the very least it will give you some experience of working in the US.

penguinsix

Four months is a bit early. I've met people who have moved from one side of the US to the other who have had the same feelings as you for even longer. It is an adjustment that you have to get started on and into, and it will not be as easy as flipping a switch and starting a new life.

I'd say keep at the job thing, but also try to get out more. Take a look at meetup.com and see if there are any likeminded people like you around, or check out 'Welcome Wagon' and meet other folks new to the area. Be a bit active in getting out there and it will help pass the time and before you know it you'll have a social circle and things to do.

CitySimon

Sounds like a good plan... It was a good amount of time after I moved over here before I found a full time job. Keep your eyes open for temporary jobs as well. Even if it is a temporary cut in pay expectations, it's better than nothing.

Based on my own experiences, my suggestion to anyone just moving over to America: Before I moved over from England a friend of mine made me set a cut off point at which time we would look to move back. At the time my wife and I set a two year cut off point and it worked out very well. No matter how crap things got following the move, I always knew that I had a light at the end of the tunnel and was willing to keep my head down through the crap, rather than jump on the next plane home, because I had that get out clause already in place.

ILM

I felt the same way , as soon as I got my green card I found a job, the pay really is low here compared to the UK.

what part of NY state are you in?

I have been here now 18 months, my wife left me 6 months ago, so feeling alone again and its not easy at all I can tell you, but stick with it and things will turn around.
It's a slow process to adjust and you still have your spouse, you may need to just talk and get out together more.

Also try and find some Brits in your area, I did and found them very helpful in many ways, when you talk to them they will all tell you it takes time and every one of them said they wont go back now.

ALL THE VERY BEST ILM

Ray

And there is the truth ..your feeling lonely ..as to be expected ...

try and join the odd group ...a volunteer for something ..