mogsy31

hi there guys
I met my girlfriend over the net, we want to get wed this december, the trouble is as most of you guys will know, we dont want to spend another day apart, i've looked at many web sites about this and to be honest it scares me, most of them say it will take years.... so i joined this fourm to listen to people who have done what we want to do.

i want to go visit in next month and in December we want to get married, and never be apart again, trouble is she cant sponsor me cause her work does not pay enough money, of course i want to work and support us both but it looks real complicated, i would like some sound advice off of people who have been though this process,

when we wed what are the chances of being able to stay for good and be happy, thanx for any replies

Morkai Kurst

If you want to do it clean and legal you are going to have to accept that it
will take time and that you will have to spend more time apart. Yes it hurts
like hell but if your relationship can't stand up to that then you aught to
be rethinking the marriage. And I'm not talking from a high and mighty point
of view. My partner and I met 4 years ago we were finally together as of 2
weeks ago.

Now from time perspective that depends entirely where you are, there are
options based on that. If you are a brit then I'd suggest you hold off the
wedding plans and go for the fiance visa which takes between 4 and 6 months
depending on the service center you are going through. You can do all the
initial filing while you are out on your visit and thus spend some of that
time period together. Other countries allow DCF which means your fiance can
come over and you both go to the consulate in your country and file. This is
by far the quickest method.

What I think you are hoping for someone to say is to go out there, get
married and adjust status without coming back to your home country. Yes this
is technically possible. Yes it is also visa fraud. If the INS have any
suspicions when you come to file for adustment to resident that you came
into the country with the explicit intent to marry they will boot you
straight back out again. And that will entail a ban from re-entering for a
period of time. And things like having conveniently quit your job and sold
your house and had all your stuph packed is going to raise eyebrows. It's
also blindingly unfair on all the people who have done this the right way.

As for sponsership your fiancee will need to get a co-sponser, this can be
anyone friend or family as long as they meet the poverty level requirements.

So tell us what country you are in and what state your fiancee is in and
you'll get some fairly realistic timelines and a more accurate idea of what
your options are. I don't think it will take years unless of course there is
something you haven't mentioned, like that she is a permanent resident
rather than a US Citizen.

What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.. Thats what kept me going through
all the time apart. My timeline after we filed the initial application was
approximately 4 months, you have the rest of your lives to spend together, a
few months now is a worthy price to pay.

Morkai

mogsy31 wrote:
    > hi there guys
    > I met my girlfriend over the net, we want to get wed this december,
    > the trouble is as most of you guys will know, we dont want to spend
    > another day apart, i've looked at many web sites about this and to be
    > honest it scares me, most of them say it will take years.... so i
    > joined this fourm to listen to people who have done what we want to
    > do.
    > i want to go visit in next month and in December we want to get
    > married, and never be apart again, trouble is she cant sponsor me
    > cause her work does not pay enough money, of course i want to work
    > and support us both but it looks real complicated, i would like some
    > sound advice off of people who have been though this process,
    > when we wed what are the chances of being able to stay for good and be
    > happy, thanx for any replies