Originally Posted by sunflwrgrl13

Just to clarify, Kitty. When you say 'pay off' I assume you mean 'make payments to' the person? LOL! Whenever I keep reading 'pay off' in your posts, I automatically think you are trying to find someone you can bribe. 'Pay off' kinda means you are trying to pay someone off to keep their mouth shut, or you're getting blackmailed and you pay off someone to keep quiet about it.

To potentially find a lawyer that is a memmber of AILA (American Immigration Lawyer's Association), go to the website www.aila.org . You can do a search for lawyers that are in your area. A lot of lawyers will at least give you a free/cheap first consultation.

I also wanted to tell you that abuse comes in many different forms, Kittya, not just physical abuse. If your husband tells you you are ugly and stupid everyday, treats you like a child, tries to control everything you do, and other mean, nasty things, that is abuse, just as much as physically hitting you. I went through bad stuff with my father growing up, so believe me, not all abuse will show on the outside.

Best of luck, Kitty!

Originally Posted by Leslie66

You're welcome.

You indicated that you were going to hire an attorney, that's why I said that. You're financial situation is really none of my business.

What I should have said is ........ You are never going to get anything this complicated resolved in a newsgroup. Either find a way to hire an attorney or keep floundering around like you have since last May (or whenever) when you first posted on this very topic.

Originally Posted by Chessiet

All through this thread you keep saying you don't want to divorce him, that you still love him.

What exactly do you love about him?

You admit that he's verbally abusive, that he's threatened you, that he's a con artist who dodges his financial responsibilities (of which you are one, sadly). And you also said that you moved out b/c you couldn't live with him anymore.

I don't get it, and I'm TRULY trying to see any reason for you to waste any feelings of love on him.

Originally Posted by kittya2004

My upbringing I guess Chessiet but I know I have to let it go just the way I was bought up. I guess overall i do not want to be a disappiontment to my family

Originally Posted by Hypertweeky

If your family loves you (I am sure they do), they will accept any decissions you make!

Originally Posted by kittya2004

Crossing fingers and hoping so yet to date they have not been happy with the choices I have made lol. But thanx alot hyper.

Originally Posted by Hypertweeky

They might not be happy but they are your family, I am sure they love you, they will support you no matter what you do (Unless it is illegal!!), I know how mom's are.. lol

Originally Posted by kittya2004

Mr Udall would you know of any pro bono lawyers or one I can at least pay off in the Houston area?

Originally Posted by sphyrapicus

Kittya:

Look at this page. They have 4 organizations listed for Houston.

http://www.usdoj.gov/eoir/probono/freelglchtTX.htm

Also see: http://www.usdoj.gov/eoir/statspub/r...tionroster.pdf

Good luck.

Sphy

Originally Posted by sphyrapicus

Kittya:

Look at this page. They have 4 organizations listed for Houston.

http://www.usdoj.gov/eoir/probono/freelglchtTX.htm

Also see: http://www.usdoj.gov/eoir/statspub/r...tionroster.pdf

Good luck.

Sphy

Originally Posted by kittya2004

Thank you sphy but I have already contacte those organizations and they dnt help pple with my kind of case. Thank you so much for the help though. I do have one that i am waiting on a call back.

Originally Posted by sphyrapicus

Sorry it didn't work out. What types of cases do they take if they won't help out someone who is being emotionally abused like you??

Originally Posted by kittya2004

and I was also told that if i seperated from him that my case would no longer be good with INS.

Originally Posted by ray6

Thats not true... study this, and see where it can apply to your case.. if at all
http://uscis.gov/graphics/howdoi/battered.htm