toddnan

hello all, i was just curious why all of you decided to have your fiancee/fiance immigrant to the usa, rather than you yourself move to there country. i understand job, and responsibilities and that stuff. and some countries, things are unstable also.

in my case i was considering immigrating to south africa, and having my fiancee, who is from tanzania, move there with me. but for me having pets, and an elderly mother, put the lid on that one.

especially curious about people from canada, england and europe immigrating here. just kinda wondered why. ive been to england and europe and really liked it there. just a friendly poll.

i enjoy reading other peoples stories, it takes my mind off the processing times...haha

Caro

We met while I was studying in the US. It was easier for me to find the kind of job I would be happy with in the US since I had an american diploma than him finding a job he would be happy with in France without french diploma and without speaking french very well. So, we figured that at least in the beginning we would stay in the US. We know that we want to move to France "at some point" but we are not quite sure when.

Caroline

Kermit44

I do agree that England is a very wonderful place and hope that I can spend a lot of time there. Perhaps in the future years even retire to there. But as for now, it just seems to make more sense for my sweetheart to immigrate to the US, mostly for the reasons you had stated. The most important thing for us right now is just to be together! The wait has really just started and like you not something to think about. I do try to stay focused on the time when we share our lives together forever.

abba48uk

We talked about this at length. Julie really liked the UK and would gladly have moved there. I guess the deciding factors were
1: I am retired and Julie ( who is a good deal younger than me) has her career in the USA and wouldnt have the same earning power in the UK, and
2: Unromantically, but practically, since I am 61 Julie is more likely to be left on her own than am I! It would be better for her, in that case, if she was here with her friends etc whom she has known all her life.
3. I have travelled a lot and lived oversea before whereas Julie hasnt. It would probably be easier for me to settle in a "foreign" country than her.
I imagine this all sounds a bit cold and calculating, but practicalities matter. (I love her to bits though )

Jacqueline Bergstedt

For me (from England) it was pretty simple. Jeff was already settled in his
career, and had a mortgage, whereas I had neither. It was purely an
economic thing. I had never been to the US, but I was unhesitating.
regards, Jacqueline

toddnan wrote in message
news:[email protected]...
    > hello all, i was just curious why all of you decided to have your
    > fiancee/fiance immigrant to the usa, rather than you yourself move to
    > there country. i understand job, and responsibilities and that stuff.
    > and some countries, things are unstable also.
    > in my case i was considering immigrating to south africa, and having my
    > fiancee, who is from tanzania, move there with me. but for me having
    > pets, and an elderly mother, put the lid on that one.
    > especially curious about people from canada, england and europe
    > immigrating here. just kinda wondered why. ive been to england and
    > europe and really liked it there. just a friendly poll.
    > i enjoy reading other peoples stories, it takes my mind off the
    > processing times...haha
    > --
    > Posted via http://britishexpats.com

sal_whit

Whit has his own home and 2 children still at school,My children have left school in the UK,So rather than uproot his children,It was better for me to move to the USA.
His 2 children are 15 and 13,The 15 year old would be leaving school this summer if he were in the UK and we did not think he was ready for that yet!!!!!
The other factors were,He has a good job here where as, if he moved to the UK his age would be against him,50 is not old but in the UK is very hard to get employment.
Also after my marriage break up I was still living with my parents,So had no home to sell.
After looking at both sides of the situation we came to the agreement that this was the best solution.

Sal

thing2

um, america has dr seuss and celebrates hallowe'en a little better than we do here in the uk

News.Verizon.Net

my fiance and i would both prefer for me to immigrate to her home country,
but there is no way that i could earn enough money for us in south america.
so, the plan is for her to come here for now, and we will, in turn,
immigrate back to her home after i retire. plans may change in the future
(still quite a few years before i retire), but you gotta have plans and
dreams.

"toddnan" wrote in message
news:[email protected]...
    > hello all, i was just curious why all of you decided to have your
    > fiancee/fiance immigrant to the usa, rather than you yourself move to
    > there country. i understand job, and responsibilities and that stuff.
    > and some countries, things are unstable also.
    > in my case i was considering immigrating to south africa, and having my
    > fiancee, who is from tanzania, move there with me. but for me having
    > pets, and an elderly mother, put the lid on that one.
    > especially curious about people from canada, england and europe
    > immigrating here. just kinda wondered why. ive been to england and
    > europe and really liked it there. just a friendly poll.
    > i enjoy reading other peoples stories, it takes my mind off the
    > processing times...haha
    > --
    > Posted via http://britishexpats.com

Mikki

Hi! I'm Canadian and I'm moving to the U.S. to be with my
"significant other" rather than him moving here because of his job.
He has 35 years in and it would be foolish for him to quit that job,
much easier for me to move there. Plus I love the U.S.!! I'm really
looking forward to moving south. My fiance has never been to Canada -
he's making his first trip here in April. (And I'm SO looking forward
to seeing him - last time was November 7).

toddnan wrote in message news:...
    > hello all, i was just curious why all of you decided to have your
    > fiancee/fiance immigrant to the usa, rather than you yourself move to
    > there country. i understand job, and responsibilities and that stuff.
    > and some countries, things are unstable also.
    >
    > in my case i was considering immigrating to south africa, and having my
    > fiancee, who is from tanzania, move there with me. but for me having
    > pets, and an elderly mother, put the lid on that one.
    >
    > especially curious about people from canada, england and europe
    > immigrating here. just kinda wondered why. ive been to england and
    > europe and really liked it there. just a friendly poll.
    >
    > i enjoy reading other peoples stories, it takes my mind off the
    > processing times...haha

imkimmy

The deciding factor for us was that back in 99 the only requirement for an IT job around here was that you had a pulse! Plus he likes to live, according to him "near the equator". haha

Kimberly

Frank

On 1/3/03 12:57 PM, in article [email protected],
"toddnan" wrote:

    >
    > hello all, i was just curious why all of you decided to have your
    > fiancee/fiance immigrant to the usa, rather than you yourself move to
    > there country. i understand job, and responsibilities and that stuff.
    > and some countries, things are unstable also.
    >
    > in my case i was considering immigrating to south africa, and having my
    > fiancee, who is from tanzania, move there with me. but for me having
    > pets, and an elderly mother, put the lid on that one.
    >
    > especially curious about people from canada, england and europe
    > immigrating here. just kinda wondered why. ive been to england and
    > europe and really liked it there. just a friendly poll.
    >
    > i enjoy reading other peoples stories, it takes my mind off the
    > processing times...haha
    >
    > --
    > Posted via http://britishexpats.com

My wife likes America. She's from Eastern Europe. I've lived there with
her. We both agree NOT to live there.

We've lived in other places besides America. I personally prefer Europe
(for the culture, multiculturalism, way of life) or Australia (people,
climate, landscape), my wife likes America better (money, money, money).

Wife vetoes husband, I guess.

Zenas

My soon to be US husband is in the medical profession and is licensed there. If he came to Canada, it wouldn't count for the same. I don't need licensing to do my job, here or anywhere, that is why we'll be living in the US.

Dekka's Angel

I love Oz.

If it were left up to me I'd have packed my bags and went back to Perth immediately after seeing it, it was so beautiful and perfect a place for me. I could be very happy there, the huge cultural adjustment -- particularly the virtual absence of other African American expatriates -- notwithstanding.

But.....there are a number of things to be considered. I'm not in this alone.

The biggest reason we decided that Dekka would move here is I have three children under the age of 20, two under the age of 18. All teenagers, even though one is away at college. The disruption to their lives, during their teen years when "home base" is a central part of their identities, cannot readily be justified just so that I can remarry someone, particularly when my fiance has no children himself. Additionally, my children's natural father remains here in the United States and taking the two younger children that far away, even though legally I could, is just not right.

Anyhow there are other reasons relating to my parents and siblings, but the above is my primary one.

Careybear

My fiance Paul is from the Uk and i'm in MIchigan. We decided for him to come here because I can't leave michigan with my kids without permission from their father (we have joint physical custody) they're 5 and 4 years old so they really need both of us right now. And right now four of Paul's kids are living with their mother and his oldest is going to board at his school. Paul didn't want to take his oldest son out of his school. It's been a really hard decision but he has discussed it with all his kids and his ex-wife and they're happy for us. They get to visit us during the summers which they're all excited about because they want to see America. Also, Paul doesn't have a job right now in the Uk and he could get one easily here in America. He loves our food here....and he just likes it here (i wouldn't say better because i shouldn't speak for him).

Carey

P.S. Hopefully someday we can go back and live there when my kids are grown because I really love England and would love to live there....

Frank

On 1/3/03 8:23 PM, in article [email protected], "Dekka's
Angel" wrote:

    >
    > I love Oz.
    >
    > If it were left up to me I'd have packed my bags and went back to Perth
    > immediately after seeing it, it was so beautiful and perfect a place for
    > me. I could be very happy there, the huge cultural adjustment --
    > particularly the virtual absence of other African American expatriates
    > -- notwithstanding.
    >
    > But.....there are a number of things to be considered. I'm not in
    > this alone.
    >
    > The biggest reason we decided that Dekka would move here is I have three
    > children under the age of 20, two under the age of 18. All teenagers,
    > even though one is away at college. The disruption to their lives,
    > during their teen years when "home base" is a central part of their
    > identities, cannot readily be justified just so that I can remarry
    > someone, particularly when my fiance has no children himself.
    > Additionally, my children's natural father remains here in the United
    > States and taking the two younger children that far away, even though
    > legally I could, is just not right.
    >
    > Anyhow there are other reasons relating to my parents and siblings, but
    > the above is my primary one.
    >
    > --
    > Dekka's Angel
    >
    >
    > Posted via http://britishexpats.com

My wife and I lived in OZ for about a year and we were about to file our
skilled migration application when they upped the point-system on us - d-oh!

We were all around the major cities (save for Perth, Adelaide, and Canberra)
Australia and I have never seen a more beautiful country, nicer people,
greater weather, and so on. When we left, it was one of the saddest days of
our lives. I hope that one day we could make it back there to spend the
rest of our lives there.

BTW, Had a mate that visited Perth and Sydney, and he loved the natural
beauty of Perth, but found it a little too "small-townish" for him (he's
originally from L.A. And N.Y.C.). We lived in Brisbane, which is not that
much larger than Perth I believe, but found it fine (I too am from NYC).

Anyway, glad to hear others see the greatness of OZ and Aussies!

Cheers,

Frank