Re: Are you okay Sas-Lou?
 

Coz if her wonderful hubby snaps his fingers ,she,ll be back in Canada in a jiff,,

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Take your time Sas-Lou and really think about what you want, don't rush into anything you might regret....hugs, :wub:

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Sorry for joining this so late but I worked in matrimonial law as a solicitor - take your time! Focus on you and the children for now. If you need a break we have a cottage next to our house which is empty right now (and is very comfortable) - plenty of space for three - if you need a break. No charge but it is in the north of Scotland...PM me if you like.

Re: Are you okay Sas-Lou?
 

A better example of the BE community you'll not find!

Karma incoming.

HH

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What a lovely thing to offer and Sarah it would be a good idea to take up. Get some space to be alone with the kids - and don't make any rash decisions about wanting to come back to Canada just because of him or to be with him.

I agree that everyone deserves a second chance - and if you want to give him that then wait for some time to elapse to make sure thats what you both want.

Its very easy to give advice along the lines of "tell him to b*****s" but only you know what feels right.

Thinking of you and give my love to Leicester.

(If you decide he isn't worth it - pm me - I know some very nasty people in Leicester who would love a holibobs to Canada to do a hit ;)"

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Ottawa's only 6hrs from here! I'm sure I can find a reason for a trip sometime.

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what a great offer and I really hope sas-lou takes you up on it, clearing her head a bit more is whats needed. you are an angle Merry keep at sas until she takes you up on your offer or may be every one should keep at sas until she takes that proper brake and the north of scotland might just help as its away from every one she knows and nobody is there family wise to make her listen to their opinions. just a thought

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in my world a great husband doesn't cheat, ever.

But that's my world, and you, Sas, need to do what you t hink is right for you and the kids. Just know you're strong enough to move country twice, and that makes you damned strong. You can do it. Onwards and upwards, and one day at a time.

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Couldn't agree more.
Lorraine G.

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what a really kind gesture, karma sent:)

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It's so hard to think straight when your emotions are all over the place - especially when the party who broke the relationship is apparently filled with remorse and wants to mend it.

Whether the north of Scotland or the bright lights of London... please take a moment to reflect. Have PM'd you...

Re: Are you okay Sas-Lou?
 

Bear in mind that the Ottawa-London trip is a bloody nightmare, particularly if you have a long onward journey. I do it often and I am mentally buggered the next day.

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Yes Sas Lou, i hope you are slowly recovering. Take your time, as everyone else says. It takes time for your heart to heal after something like this.

It is hard, but you are a strong person, you will be okay. Sending hugs and karma. :D

Emmjay

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^^^^^^^ What she said. Your excuse for a husband is mind-f***ing, it seems to go with the territory when one partner cheats. Move onward and upward, he's an oxygen thief.

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Bloody 'ell...I never got the usual e-mail notification that there were more posts on this thread until I just happened to be flicking through :mad: :confused:

I must admit, I'm a bit bamboozled by the changes going on with Sas....but I understand where her head is at as I found myself in the same situation too many years ago when my OH took off with a younger work colleague when I was 8 months pregnant with our son. My head was in bits...one minute I hated the ground he walked on, wished the worst death possible on him, etc. and the next I was sobbing and trying to win him back from that brazen floozy who knew he had a baby on the way :mad: Well I won and he did come back 2 weeks after our son was born and we've been together a further 18 years....but I did make him pay for his sins for a long, long time afterwards - I suppose I still am :unsure:

Sas just needs space to sort herself out and for her to decide what 'she' wants and if she's willing to give her OH another chance or not....but it's her choice and I'll give her a pat on the back not matter what she decides to do as both options are hard.....Hard going it alone and turning your back on a marriage you thought was perfect....or Hard taking a chance 2nd time round on the man who has hurt and humiliated you and making it work again.

Take it easy Sas, and take up the offer of the place up in Scotland for a good break with your boys.

Hugs,
R.M. x