Right - got yr attention

Just wondered what the hardest bit of all this migration lark is

Do you think its the "waiting to know" stages ?

or


is it the "saying goodbye" stage



or finally the " we are here - but need to settle " stage.

I just wondered because we are still waiting - and that seems really hard, but from seeing what some of you are going through the waiting bit does not seem so bad really.

Have a great day

PS anybody fancy sorting out a date and time for us all to meet in the chat room over a pizza and a glass of something

Good question WDW.

The waiting is hard but you can live with it.

The goodbyes I am dreading.

I have already had a few weepy moments. Yesterday I was looking after my only niece om my own side of the family. In the afternoon I put her to bed and my Gran went with us, as she has just progressed from a cot, niece not Gran

When I was lying there wathcing the two of them I started to think that when I go I probably wont see my wee Gran ever again, she is 92 and her health is bad and my beloved niece will probably forget all about me.

She watched me crying and then lifted her wee finger and touched the tear on my cheek and then snuggled up to me and put her wee arm around my neck - she is only two but a wee sweetie. At this point I had to get out of the bed as I didnt want to bawl in front of her.

I have already told all the family they aren't coming to theairport, but OH Mum doesn't agree with this, so I don't know what will happen.

What do you plan for the airport?

My wife has decided she wants her parents to come over with us at first, to help looking after the children and stuff like that - then when we are settled, we can all have some time together to enjoy the area, then see them off at the airport.

I take it from the you aren't on for this.

It's funny as my MIL has also suggested this, but we have told her it is something we want to do for ourselves as we wil be left on our own anyway and then her going home will be harder for us, let her down gently

The hardest bit for us has been these last few weeks before we go - the boot fairs, ebaying, sorting out, last minute decorating, packing, the constant phoning round and sending letters to utilities, banks, etc and the constant list writing!!!

Top tip re the airport and not wanting rellies to send you off - we are going up the night before to Heathrow and staying in a hotel as that way we are not at the whims of the M25 and in a panic about getting to Heathrow! It also means that its not really practical for the folks to come and 'see us off'. Its not that I don't want them there but we will probably end up getting there late as my mum always has to be last out of the house as she just has one more load of washing to hang out before we go anywhere and I just could not handle being late for check-in!!! Also in this day and age the bit at Heathrow where family can see you off is so small and crowded, plus once you get there you need to go through to departures pretty much straight away anyway.

Flossie

The most stressful bit was the admin and general sorting out in those last couple of days - the shippers have been and gone - you've got about 6 suitcases lying around, and there is still so much c**p to get rid of. Where did it all come from? Where can I dump it, who can I give it to, who wants this stuff? - odd things, like an iron, a hula hoop, a floor brush, a bottle of Baileys!

Emotionally, I got my most upset about two weeks before we left as various mums at school came to speak to me and wish us all well etc. Strange, as these are not the people I am closest too really - but they obviously hit me on a weak week (!) and were being just so damn nice.

And the hardest bit for my hubby was saying goodbye to his parents and brothers. They dropped us off at the airport hotel the night before, and we were so choked up we could not swallow the champagne we had brought!! (God I hate waste, especially alcohol ). We muddled through to the morning, bolstered each other up and set off to the airport. All was going well till his dad phoned him on his mobile as we were walking to the gate - his dad was crying - and that was it. Absolutely the worst moment I felt like the devil incarnate, dragging my poor husband to the other side of the world.

It took hubby about three days to recover from the guilt/upset/general unease etc. Sometimes the excitement you feel you ought to be experiencing gets quashed by lots of other thoughts and emotions - we found it hard to go skipping off into the sunset, but we did saunter through Calgary airport full of good expectations

I said my goodbyes 4 years ago and it was hard. I stay in constant contact with all my family and friends, which is a great help! I use a web cam to keep in touch, which is great!! Not only do you get to talk to everyone, but you SEE them too!!

Right now, I am going through the waiting stage (common-law/ spousal application for PR) I think this is driving me crazy the most...not knowing what is happening and when it will come through!!!

Don't think of settling in a new place as something to worry about! Think of it as an ADVENTURE!!! New places to see and explore, new people to meet!! It's great!!

[QUOTE=WelshDragonsWales;5283563]Right - got yr attention

Just wondered what the hardest bit of all this migration lark is


I thought the waiting bit was hard.
BUT now we are at the saying goodbye bit and it turning into a free-for-all. Between those who are dividing up our possession for themselves, :curse:the guilt tripping and the friends and relatives who want to spend every waking (even sleeping) moments with us, I still have everything to sort out. AND the visa hasn't arrived yet, and the house sale hasn't completed.
We have already been booked for 2 parties and numerous nights out!
So the next fews week will be alcohol laden and sleep deprived.
I have banned all from following us the the airport, because I know I am going to cry for at least half the flight out. What will customs think when we land.

Seems like to goodbyes are so hard. Ann - even yr reply made me cry god knows how i will cope.

It had crossed my mind to ask mum and dad if they would like to come out with us for a few weeks - but i just don't know what would be best.

All i know for sure is this .......................


I AM SURE GOING TO :cry

In my opinion the hardest part is yet to come

For all those except the ones that have gone to SouthWestern BC

The hardest part will be getting through your first winter, It's this that sends so many back home, and gives rise for the desire of Canadian experience by employers

Getting clearance from the Ecuadorian police.

That's OK - you are allowed "enjoy" it - it releases all sorts of chemicals that will make you feel better afterwards - honest

In the meantime, if you are worrying about it all at this early stage, you'll be bored with the idea by the time you get round to it. Don't dwell on what might be hard - enjoy your time with family now, get out and about and visit places - and eventually, it will all come together and you will be here. The vino will be open and breathing for you !

Thanks Ann

Will take on board what you say .................... and i am sure looking forward to the Vino

have a great day

well i have planed a good bye party and told everybody if they cry the have to pay a pound into a jar i get to make some money before i go but that way i dont cry.
oh says he dont want a party and his family say they won't come they want a family good bye i think that will be harder
but i think the hardest part is listing to oh ask are we going yet
only 80 days 9 hours 45 min 61 seconds

Its living it, when you get here. Setting up a new life isnt easy.