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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Paul_Shepherd
(Post 12058978)
Added to that travelling accross the Atlantic is a HUGE event, whereas for us expats.....its just another trip thats been done many times before.
It seemed very HUGE to me at the time. Have a bit of understanding for your friends back in the UK. |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by JamesM
(Post 12059094)
It's always the lack of funds people bring not helped by the weak pound that pisses me off.
They seem to think it's an all inclusive when they arrive. |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by JamesM
(Post 12059094)
It's always the lack of funds people bring not helped by the weak pound that pisses me off.
They seem to think it's an all inclusive when they arrive.
Originally Posted by cxx
(Post 12059122)
Agree. The in-laws expected to dictate what we ate at home...
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by BristolUK
(Post 12059129)
That's going too far but someone who pays the airfare to come and see me, I'm going to house and feed them within reason.
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Re: Visitor fatigue
They didn't like how the vegetables were cooked - i.e. they wanted mush, didn't like how I prepared salad, wanted steak instead of pork chops. I just didn't cook dinner one night - they dined on beer and potato chips.
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by cxx
(Post 12059173)
Just offering would have been nice, then we'd have said no, even though we paid the airfare.
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by thistlehollyberry
(Post 12059174)
I just didn't cook dinner one night - they dined on beer and potato chips.
Nobody cooks supper. We eat decent cheese, olives, assorted cured meats, interesting crackers, and drink wine. Sometimes we remember to feed the children... |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Nobody cooks supper. We eat decent cheese, olives, assorted cured meats, interesting crackers, and drink wine. Sometimes we remember to feed the children...
that is great for a weekend - three weeks necessitates cooking. |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Novocastrian
(Post 12059103)
I remember my first flight across the Atlantic, in 1977, en route from Cambridge to Riverside, California.
It seemed very HUGE to me at the time. Have a bit of understanding for your friends back in the UK. As for visitors, I've only had one - my sister - 10 years ago. :( |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Oakvillian
(Post 12059192)
Nobody cooks supper. We eat decent cheese, olives, assorted cured meats, interesting crackers, and drink wine. Sometimes we remember to feed the children...
Originally Posted by Siouxie
(Post 12059250)
As for visitors, I've only had one - my sister - 10 years ago.
She and my wife really didn't get on. By the time my wife was ready to bite her tongue/let bygones etc there was no spare money to bring her over and she couldn't afford it either. I totally get the "have to be here long enough for it to be worth it" but while it's a great place to live, there's not enough in Moncton to keep someone entertained after such a trip. Even when me and a mate visited his dad in Saint John in 75, the time was spent touring PEI and NS with a week in Montreal/Toronto/Niagara in the middle. Most of the rest of the time we were out on his dad's boat Tich. I've invited (more hinted) brothers to come over and help with snow clearing. :lol: |
Re: Visitor fatigue
I still have the horrible memories etched on my brain after having to organize dinner for my parents when my step dad is a the worlds most fussiest eater! Doesn't like garlic, no pasta or rice, only roast potatoes/chips (not boiled, mashed etc), barely any veggies, no fish. Essentially mine and my partners whole diet he would not eat! Three weeks of that (I think the local liquor store were loving the amount of wine I had to buy to drown it all out :drinkwine: )
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Mr Bean
(Post 12058357)
The only things that irritate me are everyone sits around and waits for me to get home to cook, and they all think we are on holiday too.
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Most of you lot are really miserable bastards. :rofl:
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Oink
(Post 12059306)
Most of you lot are really miserable bastards. :rofl:
Me miserable bastard: "Hello, nice to see you. Now go home!" |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Oink
(Post 12059306)
Most of you lot are really miserable bastards. :rofl:
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Partially discharged
(Post 12059337)
Reading this thread and the thread about people's recollections of their parents I can see a lot of correlation. I get the sense that many of the parents/siblings still in the UK felt obligated to visit their relatives now in Canada, did it once and then didn't feel obliged to do it again.
Not surprised with their attitudes towards guests. :lol: I don't get many people visiting here but when I lived on the east coast I had lots. It was great, I really appreciated them taking the time and making the effort to come. Plus, it was fun as I got to do things I wouldn't necessarily do in the city on my own, visit tourist places, go to nice restaurants and generally use their visit as an excuse to misbehave for a couple of weeks. |
Re: Visitor fatigue
In the other direction...
Back in the 70s I had a series of penfriends in the USA (the reason for my Seattle and NYC trip) One of the others already had a trip to the UK planned but had been let down by someone they (she and her sister) were planning to stay with for part of their visit. They hadn't budgeted for unexpected accommodation costs so phoned me and asked if they could come to Bristol for a couple of days before picking up their plans again. I'm 19 and a couple of American girls ask if they can stay at my flat for a couple of days. Well, let me think.... Their first evening we were in a local park and my well meaning flat mate grabs a sister by the hand and runs off with her so I could have some "alone time" :ohmy: Of course he ran off with the penfriend leaving me with the wrong sister.:nod: |
Re: Visitor fatigue
One advantage of growing old is that one's friends are also groring older, and much less likely to want to make the trip over here, especially now that air travel can be so darn uncomfortable. We're all of the age where we remember the fantastic travel by plane that existed in the late 1960s and 1970s, when we all moved out of the UK to different countries around the world, or regularly travelled overseas on sabbaticals, etc.
Those that do come, and the younger members of the family have to take us as they find us ........... and help out! Having said that, we've had more than our fair share of visitors over the years! One year we had 8 visitors and the 3 of us sleeping in this 2 bedroom and basement house ........... 2 famil rooms were plenty for some of the kids to sleep on the floor! My father only visited once before he died, he spent 3 weeks with us in a 1 bedroom apartment. In-laws made a habit of trying to come every 2 years fro 3 weeks at a time until they retired, then it became 4 weeks. M-i-l even came for 6 weeks once after f-i-l died. Our saving grace with them was that after 1970, her daughter was married and living in small town 800 kms north of here, so they would divide the time equally between the two families, but ours was also split into half as they arrived and left from Vancouver! The first visit by them was the funniest .............. by that time we had begun to cook as the Americans and Canadians did, ie, veggies crisp, meat medium to rare, etc. In-laws still cooked a la English 1940s/50s. Result was all their friends and relations being told on their return "Poor xxxxx, his wife cannot cook at all"!!!!!! Their second visit was about 18 months later, at Christmas time, for their daughter's marriage on Dec 22. As we were eating Christmas dinner at our house, m-i-l looked at OH eating sprouts, and commented "You must really like them like that! You never ate sprouts at home" :rflol: By the time we next visited them, m-i-l had also changed the way she cooked :lol: Our son-i-l is the only really picky eater we've had ....... he has to leave on his plate what he doesn't like or doesn't eat |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Oink
(Post 12059306)
Most of you lot are really miserable bastards. :rofl:
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by scilly
(Post 12059414)
One advantage of growing old is that one's friends are also groring older, and much less likely to want to make the trip over here, especially now that air travel can be so darn uncomfortable. We're all of the age where we remember the fantastic travel by plane that existed in the late 1960s and 1970s, when we all moved out of the UK to different countries around the world, or regularly travelled overseas on sabbaticals, etc.
Those that do come, and the younger members of the family have to take us as they find us ........... and help out! Having said that, we've had more than our fair share of visitors over the years! One year we had 8 visitors and the 3 of us sleeping in this 2 bedroom and basement house ........... 2 famil rooms were plenty for some of the kids to sleep on the floor! My father only visited once before he died, he spent 3 weeks with us in a 1 bedroom apartment. In-laws made a habit of trying to come every 2 years fro 3 weeks at a time until they retired, then it became 4 weeks. M-i-l even came for 6 weeks once after f-i-l died. Our saving grace with them was that after 1970, her daughter was married and living in small town 800 kms north of here, so they would divide the time equally between the two families, but ours was also split into half as they arrived and left from Vancouver! The first visit by them was the funniest .............. by that time we had begun to cook as the Americans and Canadians did, ie, veggies crisp, meat medium to rare, etc. In-laws still cooked a la English 1940s/50s. Result was all their friends and relations being told on their return "Poor xxxxx, his wife cannot cook at all"!!!!!! Their second visit was about 18 months later, at Christmas time, for their daughter's marriage on Dec 22. As we were eating Christmas dinner at our house, m-i-l looked at OH eating sprouts, and commented "You must really like them like that! You never ate sprouts at home" :rflol: By the time we next visited them, m-i-l had also changed the way she cooked :lol: Our son-i-l is the only really picky eater we've had ....... he has to leave on his plate what he doesn't like or doesn't eat This is the biggest issue I have when visiting anyone, I am a very picky and selective eater, so I try and avoid eating at others homes unless they know me and make something I will eat. |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Pom_Chch
(Post 12059422)
:nod: It's the visitors making me miserable!
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by cxx
(Post 12059122)
then we had to pay the tip as they didn't get that!
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Jsmth321
(Post 12059423)
This is the biggest issue I have when visiting anyone, I am a very picky and selective eater, so I try and avoid eating at others homes unless they know me and make something I will eat.
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by beckiwoo
(Post 12059767)
Im the opposite, I'll eat almost anything with the exception of anything with raisens in it
I like them but sometimes the contrast in texture isn't good. In Muesli it's fine because most of it is chewy or I can munch on a mouthful, but in, say, Two Scoops Raisin Bran the chewiness within the crunchiness doesn't work for me. A fruit and nut chocolate bar is fab and so is rum and raisin choc or ice cream :thumbup: |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by BristolUK
(Post 12059782)
Is that about the taste or something else?
They also look like rabbit droppings to me It's a nightmare when I get offered a cookie and playing sherlock holmes to determine if it's chocolate chips or raisens It's an ongoing struggle lol |
Re: Visitor fatigue
I'm similar with raisins, though oddly, no problem with Craisins (dried cranberries) and a big fan of grapes.
Depending on the situation, I would either decline the cake by saying I can't eat raisins or in less social settings, just remove them. |
Re: Visitor fatigue
r
Originally Posted by beckiwoo
(Post 12059790)
It's a nightmare when I get offered a cookie and playing sherlock holmes to determine if it's chocolate chips or raisens It's an ongoing struggle lol |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Novocastrian
(Post 12059806)
r
Raisins are just dried grapes you know. A lot better for you than chocolate chips. |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Novocastrian
(Post 12059806)
r
Raisins are just dried grapes you know. A lot better for you than chocolate chips. As for raisins, how can they be good for you. They come out looking the same as they went in. Like peas or corn. Or tomatoes, come to think of it. |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by Novocastrian
(Post 12059806)
r
Raisins are just dried grapes you know. A lot better for you than chocolate chips. Doesn't mean I have to eat them. What a bizarre comment! |
Re: Visitor fatigue
There's many mean spirited people posting on this thread. It you don't want friends/relatives staying with you then have the testicular fortitude to tell them NO.
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by beckiwoo
(Post 12059790)
They also look like rabbit droppings to me
It's a nightmare when I get offered a cookie and playing sherlock holmes to determine if it's chocolate chips or raisens |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by plasticcanuck
(Post 12059961)
There's many mean spirited people posting on this thread. It you don't want friends/relatives staying with you then have the testicular fortitude to tell them NO.
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by BristolUK
(Post 12059979)
I thought you were going to say you had to work out whether a cookie contained chocolate chips or rabbit droppings and who would serve you such a thing. :ohmy: :rofl:
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by BristolUK
(Post 12059981)
Wouldn't that be rather mean spirited?
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by plasticcanuck
(Post 12060134)
Perhaps you'd be afraid that you would cutoff your supply of free accommodation when visiting the U.K. 😱😱😱
Personal and misplaced dig aside, aren't you rather missing the point about families? Good and bad parts, rough with the smooth and all that. |
Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by plasticcanuck
(Post 12059961)
There's many mean spirited people posting on this thread. It you don't want friends/relatives staying with you then have the testicular fortitude to tell them NO.
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Re: Visitor fatigue
I like my visitors, the current one especially but it is tiring trying to be a good host and tour guide. I don't keep in touch with people I don't like so they wouldn't be asking to visit.
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by bats
(Post 12060143)
I like my visitors, the current one especially but it is tiring trying to be a good host and tour guide. I don't keep in touch with people I don't like so they wouldn't be asking to visit.
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Re: Visitor fatigue
Originally Posted by plasticcanuck
(Post 12060134)
Yes, somewhat, but at least one wouldn't be squirming and rolling eyes every time the visitor entered your company or spoke to you. Perhaps you'd be afraid that you would cutoff your supply of free accommodation when visiting the U.K. 😱😱😱
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