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Not sure if this qualifies but need some advice.
I've just broken up with my gf of 4 years. 3 years ago I moved to Newfoundland for her and we broke up a week ago on mutual terms.
she wants to go to DAL in Nova Scotia by herself and I didnt want her to go. We both realised we want different things. She says she still loves me and maybe there's a future but wants to be forends right now.
Now I havent been back to the uk for 3 years and I don't know whether to just leave Canada and go back home to start again or hang around to see if I can handle Canada on my own.

Thanks in advance

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Come on Rixy - you've been in Canada for a while. Presume you working, you have friends & a community. Before you make your mind up, maybe visit UK & see how you feel. Where is your family? That makes a big difference. Did you live in Canada only because you had a partner? If I was in your shoes, I'd be staying in Canada, but everyone has different circumstances. Dont make a rash decision whatever you do.....good luck

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I do have a reasonably good job but I've always found it hard to find friends here. So most of the friends I know are her friends and family.
So right now I'm feeling alone here in Newfoundland.

What confuses me is this whole friends/space thing? Has anyone ever figured it out?

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It means you've been canned. Move on.

Oh, and quit posting identical stuff in 2 forums please.

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Explian to me why she's took me out the last 2 nights?

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Nobody can explain that. It'd mean being able to understand a woman's mind.

If you're still getting a shag, enjoy it while it lasts.

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Ask her, not us!

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Yeah sorry to say this but its never good news when you hear that line, last time I heard it was 13 years ago and guess what, nothing changed!! Give it time and move on, it will be scary at first especially being alone in a strange country but if you can't handle it then thats what your family is for, good luck!! :thumbup:

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:eek:

From a womans perspective and I hate to Pee on your bonfire - but shes getting her cake and eating it.

Do not carry on going out - she will see this as when she clicks her fingers you come running.

Cut the ties - stay in Canada and grab this opportunity to live the life that you want as opposed to following someone else.

The world is in front of you and its an exciting time.

If you really want to get back with her she will see the new you and the relationship may be revived. :thumbsup:

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Couldn't have said it better myself ;)

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George St + British accent = lots of opportunity.

'nuff said.;)

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^^^^^ What EVERYONE said ( especially RICH ).

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and what the Mooster said too :rofl:

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Thanks everyone.
Atlantic Expat I think your right about George Street.

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Sound advice, that man.

A pointless shag can do wonders to mend a broken heart.

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:rofl: what a ruthless bunch you are!

Rixy only you know what you want in terms of where you want to live, but if I could give you my (admittedly biased) point of view. The UK is not the best place to be right now...the country is going to shit in terms of industry and government. It seem to be a pretty bleak place at the moment......Oh and Big Brother just started again :p

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Rixy you've got 2 threads on this. My guess is you are far more upset than you are making out, and you want reassurance that all will work out.

AS they say out west -"Cowboy up!"

Don't give her the power. Live where you want. Move west even.

I know it's human nature to pursue the the unobtainable - and I bet she's more desirable to you now than a few months ago (maybe I'm right, maybe I'm wrong, but my $20 is on being right!) - but you've got to make the decision.

Bottom line: your feelings are valid, but your reasoning may be off. Don't make a decision from pain: but do decide not to go beating yourself against a brick wall.

Here's a vid to make you smile:

NSFWhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unkIVvjZc9Y

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Change your facebook status to single and looking. When done in such an official way you'll soon see her intentions.

But as others have said, it would be a shame to leave so soon without experiencing single life in Canada.

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Have a few of piss-ups that always helps.
Just don't do any drunk dialing or texting. ;)

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get on plenty-of -fish or similar singles sites and make new friends and perhaps some dates! Join an outdoor group or whatever your interests are..there is a whole world out there to explore and plenty of ladies to explore too !:thumbup: (I am a girl..I can say that)
bonne chance mon ami! It'll come together as long as you don't bury your head in the sand.

nic

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A dogging group?

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She is still deciding what she wants - why wait around for that? If you dislike where you are living, perhaps too many memories etc, then see if your company can transfer you to a different province.

She is playing with you...........it's hard if your heart is broken, but it will heal in time, but not while she still has you on a string. You will be left begging for the scraps from her table and that will never allow you to move on.

No one can tell you what to do, or how to feel, that decision is yours alone to make, but since you're looking for advice, mine would be move on and let her try life without you. You WILL find someone else, but you don't have to rush into anything, just concentrate on you for a bit and see how you go. But never allow yourself to be anyone's doormat, then not only love goes out the window, but it's quickly followed by respect.

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If you are just sticking around in Canada with the hope that you may get back together, it's probably best to leave--go teach English abroad. A little travel to an exotic place might not hurt, a new environment. It's a very bad sign that you guys still hang out, I think, and it reflects very poorly on her. Show her that you don't need her.

Moving to a different place doesn't, in itself, cure everything. But, the beaches are beautiful, and so are the women, here in Latin America.

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Not to mention a load off your mind.....:cool:

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Don't you mean relieve the pressure behind the eyeballs. ;)

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Yea...like a kind of myopic backwash.....:cool: