Me Too
Oct 20th 2017 | 12:46 am
#46
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Re: Me Too
I agree with a lot of what you say.
My only comment is about your sons hair.
You say he is a preschooler and that he likes his hair long.
My guessing is if you cut it short he'd like it too... I think maybe that you are projecting your opinion on him. As young parents we do that...
How old is he?
My only comment is about your sons hair.
You say he is a preschooler and that he likes his hair long.
My guessing is if you cut it short he'd like it too... I think maybe that you are projecting your opinion on him. As young parents we do that...
How old is he?
I think it's far too easy not to let children have a voice, and to discount their opinions and not put value in their decisions, dismissing them as too young to know what they really want. Of course kids need guidance, but his hair his choice, its not my place to have an opinion on it and I don't. I am not at all fussed how he has his hair (mine is a lot a shorter than his), but I will always stand up for his right to have it how he chooses.
Oct 20th 2017 | 1:24 am
#47
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Re: Me Too
Haha, nope no worries about that! He's four and has always had very strong opinions about his hair and clothes. He wanted, and wants his hair like Chris Hemsworth's Thor. I did cut it short just before his third birthday as he was getting to be a hairbrush refused but he hated it despite getting lots of compliments, and still brings up "the time you cut my hair and I hated it".
I think it's far too easy not to let children have a voice, and to discount their opinions and not put value in their decisions, dismissing them as too young to know what they really want. Of course kids need guidance, but his hair his choice, its not my place to have an opinion on it and I don't. I am not at all fussed how he has his hair (mine is a lot a shorter than his), but I will always stand up for his right to have it how he chooses.
I think it's far too easy not to let children have a voice, and to discount their opinions and not put value in their decisions, dismissing them as too young to know what they really want. Of course kids need guidance, but his hair his choice, its not my place to have an opinion on it and I don't. I am not at all fussed how he has his hair (mine is a lot a shorter than his), but I will always stand up for his right to have it how he chooses.
When my 2nd son was about 12 he had hair down past his shoulders. As long as he washed and brushed it I felt it was totally his call. One summer when we were in France the restaurant staff kept asking if our daughter wanted this that and the other...
He didn't speak French but I asked him if it bothered him to be mistaken for a girl. He shrugged as most self respecting kids do and said no.
Funnily enough, he is now 24 and he still has that same attitude that he doesn't care what others think... I think it's pretty cool as usually that kind of confidence comes with age...
Oct 20th 2017 | 1:43 am
#48
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Re: Me Too
Don't get me wrong... it's great that he can express himself. I get frustrated with people who comment that their one year old wanted her ears pierced or likes a particular outfit (beyond if it's itchy or not) for example.
When my 2nd son was about 12 he had hair down past his shoulders. As long as he washed and brushed it I felt it was totally his call. One summer when we were in France the restaurant staff kept asking if our daughter wanted this that and the other...
He didn't speak French but I asked him if it bothered him to be mistaken for a girl. He shrugged as most self respecting kids do and said no.
Funnily enough, he is now 24 and he still has that same attitude that he doesn't care what others think... I think it's pretty cool as usually that kind of confidence comes with age...
When my 2nd son was about 12 he had hair down past his shoulders. As long as he washed and brushed it I felt it was totally his call. One summer when we were in France the restaurant staff kept asking if our daughter wanted this that and the other...
He didn't speak French but I asked him if it bothered him to be mistaken for a girl. He shrugged as most self respecting kids do and said no.
Funnily enough, he is now 24 and he still has that same attitude that he doesn't care what others think... I think it's pretty cool as usually that kind of confidence comes with age...
Its fantastic about your son, that's what we are trying to encourage in our son, and it's the kind of confidence I wish i'd developed a lot earlier. There are too many influences telling you to act/dress/do this that or the other, we're trying to give him the baseline confidence and support to do what makes him happy and not what someone else feels him will make him happy.
Oct 30th 2017 | 10:19 am
#49
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Re: Me Too
Originally Posted by Anne Robinson - who must be the Weakest Link
“In the early days, 40 years ago, there were very few of us women in power and, I have to say, we had a much more robust attitude to men behaving badly.
“Now what seems to have happened, the glass ceiling has been shattered but running alongside that is a sort of fragility amongst women who aren’t able to cope with the treachery of the workplace. It shouldn’t be happening but, on the other hand, why have women lost confidence and why do, certainly MPs, a PA to a trade minister, feel they have to go and buy sex toys when they’re asked to? I despair.â€
“Now what seems to have happened, the glass ceiling has been shattered but running alongside that is a sort of fragility amongst women who aren’t able to cope with the treachery of the workplace. It shouldn’t be happening but, on the other hand, why have women lost confidence and why do, certainly MPs, a PA to a trade minister, feel they have to go and buy sex toys when they’re asked to? I despair.â€
Dec 7th 2017 | 10:33 pm
#50
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Re: Me Too
#MeToo means I can be honest about why I skip office Christmas parties
Gobsmacked.
No, I’m not going to the office Christmas party this year, and yes, I’m feeling pretty happy about it. Thanks to the current cultural moment, in which we’re being more open about sexual assault than ever before, I feel safe being open this year about the fact that it’s because I was sexually assaulted at an office Christmas party.....
(the nature of the assault in the article)
... Some came over to see why I was so upset, after I pushed the man off me. “Oh,†they said, when I told them what had happened, “but it’s the office Christmas party.†“It’s not like you have a boyfriend,†said another, while a third helpfully pointed out that my attacker “is your friendâ€.
(the nature of the assault in the article)
... Some came over to see why I was so upset, after I pushed the man off me. “Oh,†they said, when I told them what had happened, “but it’s the office Christmas party.†“It’s not like you have a boyfriend,†said another, while a third helpfully pointed out that my attacker “is your friendâ€.
Gobsmacked.
Dec 8th 2017 | 12:19 am
#51
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From: Ottineau
Re: Me Too
I don`t recall the specifics of any real life conversation from that time either, I accept that I may have said something offensive and apologize for doing so.
Posts are different though, those are still there.
You said, on Feb 27th 2006:
“Wow! You'd think you guys have never seen a pair of norks before!â€
I thought Souvy came up with this expression but it seems to have been yours:
http://britishexpats.com/forum/canad...-357945/page2/
That seems to have been a bantering thread, I suppose actual conversation would have been in that vein.
You may assume anything you like, it don`t make it so.
Posts are different though, those are still there.
You said, on Feb 27th 2006:
“Wow! You'd think you guys have never seen a pair of norks before!â€
I thought Souvy came up with this expression but it seems to have been yours:
http://britishexpats.com/forum/canad...-357945/page2/
That seems to have been a bantering thread, I suppose actual conversation would have been in that vein.
You may assume anything you like, it don`t make it so.
I do not make random comments like that. I do if the person involved has already used the phrase. It's like swearing. I don't use obscenities unless the person I'm talking to does.
Dec 8th 2017 | 1:20 am
#52
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Re: Me Too
I most certainly did not come up with that phrase. I'd never even heard it before. I think it was she who used it first.
I do not make random comments like that. I do if the person involved has already used the phrase. It's like swearing. I don't use obscenities unless the person I'm talking to does.
I do not make random comments like that. I do if the person involved has already used the phrase. It's like swearing. I don't use obscenities unless the person I'm talking to does.
Wikipedia offers:
"Norks (principally Australian English), breasts."
I suppose neither of us have sufficient down under experience.
Dec 8th 2017 | 1:42 am
#53
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Re: Me Too
I have zip experience down under. I've never been there. I probably should at some point, seeing as I now have two nieces and a grand nephew in Melbourne.
