me
 

My wife has just told me I'm stupid.

Comments please

Anyone else get this abuse?

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This is a strategy all girls are taught from an early age by their mums.

They abuse you like this then relent, say they are sorry, apologise, it will never happen again, can you forgive me...etc etc. until you cave-in.

They then look at you appealingly and say...can we have make-up sex?

Happens to me all the time but I'm stalwart...not until I finish my beer and take a shower... I say!...:nod:

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Not from your wife, no.

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Make up sex will sort it out !!!:ohmy:

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Does that involve lipstick and a bit of eye shadow? Sounds messy.

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No. It's just you.

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I used to get that from my ex. That's why he's my ex.

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Yes. "Stupidest person who has ever lived", "****ing moron", that sort of thing.

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Nope.

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I get it all the time.

At least it's just verbal. My ex-wife was more into physical assault.

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For those of you that received these insults, I wonder is you also dish them out? I think insults/respect tend to be a two way street.

Re: me
 

Being afraid to open my mouth, no, I didn't 'also dish them out'. I also didn't punch him in the face, rip his hair out, sexually assault him or strangle him. It's not always a two way street.

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No, obviously not in a genuine abuse situation. And the more one sided insults are, the more it tends towards abuse.

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The only time EID has ever shown any propensity to be verbally antagonistic towards me was when we were playing Mario Kart. And in her defence she's really competitive and I was probably being a bit of cad. :lol:

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The respect certainly goes both ways.

I just ignore the verbals. It's quite annoying, apparently, that I don't rise to the bait.

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Why ignore it. Just explain its not necessary. Sometimes people aren't even aware of the habits they form.

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Oh dear, this thread has become a little too serious for me. Started as a joke between me and the wife but has prompted comments that weren't expected.

I think I really am stupid.

Re: me
 

I am so glad you clarified that! I took your OP as being humorous, then saw some of the replies which confused me - I was going to ask the question but didn't want to look stupid! :lol:

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No, you're not stupid :lol: I only weighed in to respond to a specific comment, not in a bolshie or lecturing way, but just because it's impossible for me to pass up the opportunity to dispel some of the myths around abuse between partners.

Keep up the good work, BE needs 'light hearted' :thumbsup:

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She's aware of it alright. She has mood swings and she takes it out on me when she's got a strop-on. I find the simplest thing to do is nothing.

Not sure if I'm damping the fire or fanning it.

I'm the opposite. I never to to either end of the nice/nasty spectrum.

Re: me
 

Hmm, difficult one. You could ask that (when not in a mood swing). Better than guessing. Maybe it's nothing.

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That's really problematic. One is conditioned not to hit women, it's just not what we do. As well, in Canada, doing so is going to result in a criminal prosecution regardless of the circumstances. If the woman is a reasonably adept fighter, it's very difficult to dodge and weave so as to avoid any contact. There are only so many times people at work will believe you banged your head on the tractor bucket.

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The response

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dave - I thought you were serious oops

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I have memories (& a scar), from over 30 years ago, of "terrible Tuesday" followed by "worse Wednesday" (her terms) that came round every 4 weeks!