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Old Nov 25th 2015 | 5:31 pm
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Anyone find it difficult to make good friends out here?
I've been here almost 3 years and of course ive made some friends along the way but not like my good friends from home, who i met in high school...
clearly I wont be able to do that here as my high school days are long gone but its hard trying to make good friends where i live now as they have their close friends from growing up here.

anyone got their 2 cents?
 
Old Nov 25th 2015 | 5:52 pm
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Originally Posted by snuggs
Anyone find it difficult to make good friends out here?
I've been here almost 3 years and of course ive made some friends along the way but not like my good friends from home, who i met in high school...
clearly I wont be able to do that here as my high school days are long gone but its hard trying to make good friends where i live now as they have their close friends from growing up here.

anyone got their 2 cents?
You do have to work harder to make friends, but if you think about it you are moving into their neighbourhood. They don't necessarily need new friends whereas you do.
I found it tough to start with but you have to channel the extrovert in your personality and work it! Persistence pays off. After 2 1/2 years I have made some amazing friends, who were amazing to me and the family when I was sick over the summer.
It does get easier, but you have to male the effort to go and meet, take classes, join clubs, hang around at the school gates (only if you have children there otherwise people get cross).
 
Old Nov 26th 2015 | 2:33 am
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The only immigrants that seem to make a lot of friends here are Belgians. Its not hard for them for obvious reasons.
 
Old Nov 26th 2015 | 4:35 am
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It's cliquey, people don't need friends as T says
I found it hard at beginning b/c people would be saying the nicest, most flowery things to my face (even going out of their way) but I found that in reality it meant nothing. They were not being friends, they were just being polite
It takes time but you can find good people here and there if you're lucky
 
Old Nov 26th 2015 | 5:01 am
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This forum is becoming a depressing place these days.
 
Old Nov 26th 2015 | 5:27 am
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Originally Posted by JamesM
This forum is becoming a depressing place these days.
You might want to make a bit of an effort to cheer the place up. How about some pictures of Hooters girls?

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Old Nov 26th 2015 | 5:29 am
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Originally Posted by JamesM
This forum is becoming a depressing place these days.
You're not wrong there.
 
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Old Nov 26th 2015 | 6:15 am
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3 years isn't long enough. You need to give it at least 10 years before giving in otherwise you'll always wonder "what if".

When you're sitting on your own with no friends or family around during your christmas dinner, just think back to why you moved in the first place and you'll feel better
 
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Originally Posted by el_richo
3 years isn't long enough. You need to give it at least 10 years before giving in otherwise you'll always wonder "what if". When you're sitting on your own with no friends or family around during your christmas dinner, just think back to why you moved in the first place and you'll feel better
A better life for the children. I barely had any friends in the UK so the difference is imperceptible.
 
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Canadians love to talk about work, once I'm out of work for the day its the last thing I want to discuss with people but they seem to love it.
 
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Must be a TO thing ...
 
Old Nov 26th 2015 | 12:52 pm
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I've made friends, approaching two years here. Not sure if it's luck or small town thing or kids at the right age or what really.

I did make getting to know people my "job" when we got here, and said yes to everything I was invited to and went anywhere people suggested was good. I now have a pretty similar circle of friends to back home. Obviously they are new friendships without the back story but they will get there but that will take time and it's nice getting to know them. I have a few girl friends, then a few sets of families we socialise with too. We just went to Great Wolf Lodge with the families we ski with and live close by to. A few families stayed down in Toronto this summer when us mums went off to do Mudderella and I'm part of a book club and run with a few friends regularly too. I went out for a school mums lunch today after the kids trip to a local Christmas play. I was just reflecting on how nice and relaxed this lunch was as opposed to a year ago when I suggested it and didn't really know people that well and wasn't sure where my fit was..

When you're the newcomer you have to be so so proactive...But I suppose it helps that I'm an extrovert and love socialising and hosting parties
 
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Originally Posted by Tirytory
...it helps that I'm an extrovert and love socialising and hosting parties
What happens when you talk politics?
 
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Originally Posted by snuggs
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