Hey Guys

First of all, I've not been on here as I've actually been busy (and hungover!) so apologies.

Burton Bunch - I will PM you but as yet, haven't had a chance to....


Anyway - since the middle of last week, I've been having a minor wobble about things. Not for any particular reason, just I guess I've done the recce and it's now the nitty gritty I need to sort out and I'm getting a bit scared. It may also be that I'm doing it on my own, and on a daily basis don't have anyone to talk through things with. It's really hard. And pretending to everyone at work is also getting to me. I had the most amazing w/end too that I half think why would I want to leave when I had a good w/end - ? I have a few good w/ends lined up too in the next few months.....!

I know doing it all by yourself means that I won't have to compomise on things, which it ace, however, not having anyone to discuss things with is really hard. My best mate is about to move to Wales and although she only currently lives in Leics (I'm in Surrey) it is that bit further away.

I'm such a planner and organiser I want someone to sit down with me and make a list with me, but I don't have anyone who can.

Sorry to ramble, but my wibbly-ness is making me nervous and also scared and tad bit weepy. I'm sure I'll be fine.... Has anyone else had these feelings?

thanks for reading / listening....

Bandit!

Awwww Bandit have a big hug, I wish I could be there to help.

Sweetheart its hard enough doing this when you have got a partner to share it with, but my god on your own you are a complete star and deserve a good weepy possibly every other day to get that stress out.

You sound like such a get up and go person, that I suspect you feel a bit like a fish out of water when things are getting tough, its normal and natural not to be superwoman, but this is your life and you damm well go and grab it girl

Sent you a PM

Oh Bandit - we went through this as well - being nervous is to be expected - this is such a big move - but well worth it.

I have sent you a PM

Julie

I can't find a hug in the smilies, but I'm sending you a virtual one [hug]

I know what you mean about having some cool things lined up and wondering why you are going to leave all that behind. I still get little pangs when I hear of my group of school or uni friends getting together in the UK.

How about imagining what you want your life to be like in say 2 / 5/ 10 years. Will that be in Vancouver or Surrey? That sometimes helps me with the tough day-to-day things.

I've also been updating my Facebook "favourite quotes" with ones off here that I like........have a read.

L2S
xx

Keep positive Bandit - it'll all be alright! {{{{o}}}}

It's really common for people on this forum to get the wobblies.

I like live to ski's idea of looking ahead and asking yourself whether you visualize yourself in Canada or the UK.

Anyway, here's a virtual {{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}.
x

why do all the girlies need to give hugs and kisses?
its crap here don't bother. i'm being held captive by a moose with a shotgun. as soon as i can get free i'm off. stay where you are, you've been warned.

I like Pipp Poff's and Judy's hugs much better than mine (was very unimaginative with that one) so I'll send you those as well, and send PP adn Judy some Karma.

{{{{o}}}} and {{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}

Oh god, yes. Looky here --> http://britishexpats.com/forum/showt...hlight=iqaluit

I'm like you... I migrated solo. It has its pros and cons (although I think mostly pros) but like what you're saying... you lack that sounding board. Someone to bounce ideas off, to double check "the list"... have you thought of everything? every variable? every option? It can be a bit nerve racking (understatement).

Feel free to PM me... I think I might actually have my 'to do' list somewhere... if anything, I can be a sounding board to bounce your worries off.

And, don't sweat it... I'm organized, but in a hurricane sort of way, and managed migrating twice! ... and then a AB to BC move which is similar to moving to another country. It'll give you character...

(stock up on gin)

I totally know what you mean in the wobbles. We haven't even got there yet and still have the house to sell and I ask myself and my OH do we really want to do this we've got a good life/home here but in time to come, as someone has mentioned I don't see myself here I see myself and my kids having a carefree life in Canada and I keep on telling myself the wobbles are natural it is a big step but it WILL be worth it/ At least on this site we wobble together and we know there are others who have come out the other side and we will too.
Sending you best wishes and karma
Terese

Hi,
I know what you mean about having the wobbles my sister turned up at the weekend to tell me she's pregnant again...not too bad but we got an offer on our house yesterday so I had to tell her we're one step closer too leaving which was really s***, when i told my best friend she gave me one of those *oh crap* hugs and my folks sounded gutted....sometimes the people around you arn't the people you need when making huge decisions.. thank god for this forum theres always a great piece of info to hand and when your feeling blue theres peoples mad kitchen disasters to make you laugh and feel less alone...we're all doing the same thing in our own way but sharing it, which makes it a great experience for all...Keep plugging away at it and know your supported...it will all be ok.

Best wishes

Tasha

Hey Guys!

I'm really overwhelmed by the responses from you all and how everyone seems to care (?).... It humbles me, so thank you again.

I will reply to PM's shortly.

I totally get what L2Ski is saying, and by visualling 2-5 years etc. from now, I can't actually see myself in Surrey, unless it's because things having worked out.... I totally want to go to Vancouver and make a life for me there.

What I really want and don't have is that sounding board for personal things and also money. It's hard and sometimes embarrassing talking to those I don't really know about them. I sometimes think I'll be judged for either having no money or too much money depending on who I speak with.? Does that make sense? I would like to take offers from you to talk about it, but I was brought up not to talk about money - which itself makes it hard for me. ....

Sometimes I am also lonely and it makes feeling positive slightly more tricky. I'm really very strong on the outside, but sometimes I'm more fragile inside, and want to toughen up. I'm off this w/end to see a mate who lives down in Gloucester and hopefully we'll have good fun going to a Point to Point and then it's her Birthday bash in the evening. If I'm back in time, it's the local Horse Trails so may get to see some good riders.... I'm going to get the agents to value the house next Saturday too - I think once that is done, I'll be more focused. My friends locally have offered a house on their property to me if mine sells in advance of my move - I'm v lucky. Just hope it sells. I've seen alot of boards recently which I hope doesn't mean the market is geting swamped.

ok guys..... Thanks again so much for being a 'sounding board'... Some of you may regret it. I will answer PM's too shortly. I am really humbled by your responses and wish to thank you all.

B xx

Hiya!

I will be heading to Vancouver on my own as well, hopefully autumn this year or early next year if it all works out ok. You're definitely not alone! Although it's daunting it's like the others have said, picture ahead and see where you want to be and go for it! Once you're settled in a job and start building a network around you it will all fall into place I'm sure. And you can always give me a call and we can meet up and get it all off our chests if times are tough, or share our happiness when things are going well...keep smiling, you'll be fine!

Adele xxxx

Hi Bandit,
Everyone appears to have said all that I would, so have another {{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}} and as HWP said 'stock up on gin'! You will be fine, it's only natural to have a few wobbles, and your braver than most and doing it alone. Good luck.
Charlie