I just talked to my mom today and she is in her 80s, she has her wits still about her thank god. anyway my charming stepbrother stole my mothers will, he made the excuse to use her bathroom upstairs and went through all her personal belongings and took the folder she kept her will in. my mother did not trust him as he stole from his dads wallet an hour after he died and took a watch from his wrist and then cashed his weekly pension. my mother being too soft let him away with it and said nothing. this time he and his wife said they were coming out to see her for christmas and thats when he stole her will, she confronted him and he said she must have mislaid it and he would check for her. my mother said she was going to call the police and report it missing and he left in a rage and told her not to be so silly. you know the best part is? he is x CID. we took care of my mother and stepfather for 17 years and not once did my stepbrother or sister bother with either of them. now we are gone my stepbrother steps in and does that to her:curse: thankfully my cousin and brother have been taken care of her since we left and my cousin is taking my mom to her lawyer to let him know that my stepbrother has taken the folder she had her will in. I am so angry that he went through her personal things and stole again, he has to be sick. I dont care about her money its the dam fact he did that to her and tried to make out she is going la la that makes me so darn mad. I just hope she does report it and he gets what for. I dont care if he is the bloody pope he should not steal from old people no matter who they are. ok rant over and she said she wont be letting him back inside her door THANK GOD.just how low can people go:curse:

Despicable behaviour, I hope he gets his just desserts!

I am with you on that one the man has got to be sick, I have heard about things like this but when it happens to your own it makes you sick to the core. I hope it happens to him someday and he gets to know how my mother felt

Jeez Kate thats terrible...i'd have called the police anyway.:curse:

I hope your Mum's ok now and that prat stays away from her in the future.

If she makes another will that one will be void anyway... Take care hun, karma and hugs sent...xxx

Oh dear sorry to hear that Kate, why are some people so awful ?
Pleased she has you, your cousin and brother to look after her, some poor old people get so mistreated by so called loved ones

They should remember they will be old one day and who will look after them ?

I am going to call my cousin today and see what is happening and to make sure she has a new will drawn up, I cant understand people like that. it makes me wonder what he was like as a CID officer all those years it just goes to show you, you cant trust nobody not even so called family

Have you thought about getting your mum to give power of attorney to your cousin? For the simple fact if your step brother tries to pull the old "shes losing her marbles" trick at least he can't run rough shod over the whole shooting match as there will be other people to stand in his way?

I have to say I was disgusted when I read that though Kate - what a worry for you and i'm glad other family members are there to look after her best interest.

Sending love to you and your mum x

When my grandfather died he left behind a divourced wife and 4 kids.

My father was made the executor of the will as he was the oldest child and the will stated that his possessions were to be distributed equally along with any money and the family business (butcher shop).

My father basically turned up to the house and it was practically empty already as my uncle had loaded everything into a van and was just finishing as my dad pulled up. What happened next was my dad sat him down and called his two sisters and mother when they were all there he basically said that he has no interest in the possesions but as it is to be divided equally it was not just about him.

So the family came to a group decision that he could keep all the possesions and get his cheque once it had all been taken care of but the family would not speak to him again.

Pretty straight forward decision to most people would be to apologise share the possesions and move on (not that most people would go and raid right away anyway). But he actually chose all of the possesions which probably doesn't even have any amount of value as most was just junk and little trinkets.

Last time i saw him was around 1999. It is very sad that you get these idiots in the world but unfortunately they exist. The worse thing about it is that if any of my family have money worries they know they can come to me and ask and if i can i will help...i just dont see the motivation for this kind of thing

The motivation.....?

I think its driven partly be believing you’ve been treated unfairly regardless of if it’s true, they assume they’ve been discriminated against or that other members of the family get better treatment and expect some form of compensation
Toward the end or due to some form of self imposed isolation their view seems to veer further and further from reality, getting to the point that the only fair thing in their mind is to move in and take what they believe now is rightfully theirs as the others will exclude them when it come to dividing things up
The paranoia is at this point deeply rooted and isolation from the family something they probably have already come to terms with or is in their minds already happening so its would have no negative baggage, they think you hate them and are out to get them and conspire to get them and push them away

It’s that some people’s perception of their rights to ‘shared’ material goods is higher than their social input into the larger family group and they don’t understand the interaction and emotional trading that goes on within the group

We all know people like that it’s just the magnitude of the attitude that varies

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I am so sorry to here what has happened to you Mother Kate, this sort of thing is sick beyond belief, and When it is a family member it can rip the whole family apart

If , and when your mother makes a new will , she should exclude him from it( if he was in it to start with). All you can do is make sure that the rest of the family rally round for your mother, and make sure that he feels Alienated from the rest of the family.

Best wishes in resolving such a terrible issue.

CW

That's really bad, I'm sorry to read that.

yeah its sad this kind of thing goes on, but the good news is I talked with my cousin and and he has power of attorney now and they went to see about changing the will and my mother has made sure my stepbrother does not get a penny now and she still refuses to report him. my stepbrothers children will still get their share but not my stepbrother.my mom said she wont press charges as he is still her stepson and does not want to drag his name through mud as it would cause great pain to his family. ok I understand that, but so long as my stepbrother stays away from her from now on we are all ok with that, so my cousin is going round to confront him tonight and let him know that he wont be getting a penny but he can take what ever he likes that belonged to his father his sons will still their share but he gets only what belonged to his father. we know he is not going to like that but tuff. both my stepbrother and stepsister have holiday apartments in spain and not once did they ever offer either of them a holiday and once my stepbrother told me he was so glad we were the ones who took them on holidays as he did not think he could stand his father on holiday with him as they liked to do their own thing. to be frank he is a selfish pig and always will be. he might think his father was a burden but we had the best years ever with both him and my mom and holidays were always great fun and nobody can ever take that away from us not even my sick stepbrother. I just think its sad he never took the time to really know his dad or he would have discovered he was a bundle of laughs and a great person to be around. its a pity some people dont spend time with their parents when they get older as they can be fun and those years you can never get back so we are just grateful for the time we had with my stepfather and the laughs I still get from my mom when she stars.lets just hope this is an end to greed

what an evil bstard !!! my god its nothing to even do with me and i want to throttle him :curse: grrr cannnot stand people who do things like that , its horrendus ,
let us know how your cousin gets on with the slimebag xxxx

kate, I felt sick to hear one of your own could be so low to do this
this to your mum. Unfortunately financial abuse does happen to the
elderly inflicted by another family member.
Perhaps the link below can help your mum arrange another will and find a trustee to execute the will perhaps as a second option .

http://www.helptheaged.org.uk/en-gb/...g_a_will_9.htm

Just a thought.
Yoong

thank you yoong