Funerals
Aug 28th 2010 | 8:29 am
#16
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Re: Funerals
I attended a close frinds sons funeral this week and it got me thinking about what I want when I die.
See I don't believe in all the Christian / Catholic / muslim or in fact any religious doctrines, or religion full stop, and tbh the only funerals i've been to have been in a church where people sing hymns, give praise blah blah blah.
Now I don't mean to offend anyone really I don't - if thats your bag then wicked - but it soooooo isn't mine.
So what the hell do I do when I die????? I did a google search and theres a group called the humanists who do non religious stuff - but it's a group - and therefore a bit like a religion in itself even though they don't believe if that makes sense.
Do you have to be "sent on your way" by someone church like - or can I be cremated and have friends stand up - tell funny stories - and then have a party afterwards, without all of the bible, hymn, Matthew Mark Luke and John stuff that apparently goes with it???????
See I don't believe in all the Christian / Catholic / muslim or in fact any religious doctrines, or religion full stop, and tbh the only funerals i've been to have been in a church where people sing hymns, give praise blah blah blah.
Now I don't mean to offend anyone really I don't - if thats your bag then wicked - but it soooooo isn't mine.
So what the hell do I do when I die????? I did a google search and theres a group called the humanists who do non religious stuff - but it's a group - and therefore a bit like a religion in itself even though they don't believe if that makes sense.
Do you have to be "sent on your way" by someone church like - or can I be cremated and have friends stand up - tell funny stories - and then have a party afterwards, without all of the bible, hymn, Matthew Mark Luke and John stuff that apparently goes with it???????
2. Mr Mandy.
How does he feel about your choices. 3. The culture around you. If you want the wake to be a party around the campfire, and your circle of friends and family enjoy that sort of thing, then PARTY ON!!!!!
I see no problems with the above except one thing. Please don't let it happen anytime in the next 20+years.
Aug 28th 2010 | 8:46 am
#17
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Re: Funerals
I want a Jewish funeral. They have all the best jokes.
I suppose not being Jewish might be a bit of a problem.
I suppose not being Jewish might be a bit of a problem.
Aug 28th 2010 | 11:17 am
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Re: Funerals
Re: humanist funerals: a good friend of mine died about a year ago and he had made a list of his favourite music, which was played, and some poetry - eg., "If," by Rudyard Kipling, that he liked. And then friends got up and shared their feelings. There was no presider. It was cool.
Aug 28th 2010 | 11:52 am
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Re: Funerals
I have decided for no funeral ceremony whatsoever. I will go from the place I die in a cardboard box (no embalming) direct to the crematorium and straight from the vehicle into an oven. No service and no visitation.
This is becoming more common and is known as the Simple Alternative. If someone wants to hold what's known as a Memorial Service afterwards then it's of their doing and not something I would want.
This is becoming more common and is known as the Simple Alternative. If someone wants to hold what's known as a Memorial Service afterwards then it's of their doing and not something I would want.
Aug 28th 2010 | 12:48 pm
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Re: Funerals
^^^
Yes, I'm with you on that one. I want my ashes to be scattered over the headland where I live, it gives me a nice sense of freedom!
Yes, I'm with you on that one. I want my ashes to be scattered over the headland where I live, it gives me a nice sense of freedom!
Aug 28th 2010 | 2:38 pm
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Re: Funerals
My mum and sisters are currently pondering on where to scatter the ashes. She was told by a friend "beware there are an awful lot of them"
Everyone says what about his favourite place, my sister said that would be messy it was his armchair.
I know he went to the local tip quite a bit
Everyone says what about his favourite place, my sister said that would be messy it was his armchair.
I know he went to the local tip quite a bit
Aug 28th 2010 | 9:00 pm
#24
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Re: Funerals
I attended a close frinds sons funeral this week and it got me thinking about what I want when I die.
See I don't believe in all the Christian / Catholic / muslim or in fact any religious doctrines, or religion full stop, and tbh the only funerals i've been to have been in a church where people sing hymns, give praise blah blah blah.
Now I don't mean to offend anyone really I don't - if thats your bag then wicked - but it soooooo isn't mine.
So what the hell do I do when I die????? I did a google search and theres a group called the humanists who do non religious stuff - but it's a group - and therefore a bit like a religion in itself even though they don't believe if that makes sense.
Do you have to be "sent on your way" by someone church like - or can I be cremated and have friends stand up - tell funny stories - and then have a party afterwards, without all of the bible, hymn, Matthew Mark Luke and John stuff that apparently goes with it???????
See I don't believe in all the Christian / Catholic / muslim or in fact any religious doctrines, or religion full stop, and tbh the only funerals i've been to have been in a church where people sing hymns, give praise blah blah blah.
Now I don't mean to offend anyone really I don't - if thats your bag then wicked - but it soooooo isn't mine.
So what the hell do I do when I die????? I did a google search and theres a group called the humanists who do non religious stuff - but it's a group - and therefore a bit like a religion in itself even though they don't believe if that makes sense.
Do you have to be "sent on your way" by someone church like - or can I be cremated and have friends stand up - tell funny stories - and then have a party afterwards, without all of the bible, hymn, Matthew Mark Luke and John stuff that apparently goes with it???????
We couldn't believe it! He didn't talk bible stuff, but a vicars life story at my grandads funeral was very wtf. Its funny though, the daft self obsessed vicar gave us something to look back and laugh about, on a really sad day.
Aug 29th 2010 | 2:12 am
#25
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Re: Funerals
Just put me on a boat and chuck me overboard!
I love the ocean and that's where I want to go
Alternatively, no religious stuff, just great music (maybe GnR or Metallica, as I got married to them) booze and food
I love the ocean and that's where I want to go
Alternatively, no religious stuff, just great music (maybe GnR or Metallica, as I got married to them) booze and food
Aug 29th 2010 | 2:19 am
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Re: Funerals
My mum still has my dad's ashes, three years on. She takes comfort in having them around. "He" sits on the side next to her bed and she talks to him all the time and even gives him a hug. It's what works for her. On the odd occasion when she's had to have someone else come in the room (eg when she had it decorated etc), she hides dad in the laundry basket out of sight. My dad had a good sense of humour and would have found that really funny. Mum has said when her time comes, we can scatter both their ashes together somewhere.
Aug 29th 2010 | 4:02 am
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Re: Funerals
My mum still has my dad's ashes, three years on. She takes comfort in having them around. "He" sits on the side next to her bed and she talks to him all the time and even gives him a hug. It's what works for her. On the odd occasion when she's had to have someone else come in the room (eg when she had it decorated etc), she hides dad in the laundry basket out of sight. My dad had a good sense of humour and would have found that really funny. Mum has said when her time comes, we can scatter both their ashes together somewhere.
My father died 18 months ago and my sister ordered a lovely metal urn and keeps it in her conservatory. Although he wanted his ashes scattered in the Lake District she said he spent a lot of time at her house and was at his happiest when he was there. Early this year my mother died...so now mum and dad are side by side in a place they loved, surrounded by their loved ones.
If my husband goes before me I'm having him made into a diamond.
