Okay so two different friends have just announced they are pregnant again. This will be #2 for one and #3 for the other. The thing is I have usually been pregnant at the same time as them and now feeling a little lonely/left out/un pregnant............

So I am needing reasons why I should not try again for that little girl. My heart is desperate to try again but my head sat me down and made me write a list of why it would not such a good idea at this time.

1. #4 will probably be another boy and not the girl you want
2. you still haven't managed to shift the baby weight from #3
3. moving across the pond when you are suffering morning sickness
4. finding a vehicle in the UK that will take 4 car seats, a large dog and not cost too much to run
5. finding a 4 bed house you can afford in area you want
6. cost of air fares back to visit OH family - ouch!
7. if you stay in Canada, finding a vehicle that will take 4 car seats and not cost a fortune to buy or run
8. actually giving birth again...
9. if you stay in Canada, being pregnant in the winter - think of the ice....
10. being able to afford 4 kids in the UK
11. OH communte time if you move to the UK - he won't want to get up all hours of the night if he has to leave for work at 5am

and reasons for;

1. it could be a girl, and if not you already have boys so you know what you are doing
2. your family will finally be able to be there from day 1
3. cost of air fares reason enough not to visit in-laws

Okay so by the looks of this list I know my answer, although I think #3 of FOR should receive double points at least...

Any folks out there with things to add, thoughts greatly appreciated.

Number 4 thats sounds expensive.

buy a puppy instead.....?

Good grief! Noooo!

No 8 - giving birth again - would be my number 1 !!

Three boys already ? You deserve a medal as it is.

Are you an earth-mother dedicated solely to the lives of your offspring? If so, go for it. If you anticipate a life outside your offspring anytime in the next couple of decades, give it a miss !!!

There - sympathy and empathy run high in my life ! Sorry polarbearmum, sounds like you've already got so much on your mind, alot of changes afoot. Potentially, pregnancy and a new baby might be the straw the broke the mummy's back ...

omg all i can say is that you must be very well off to afford three never mind contemplate a fourth.....these kiddos don't get any cheaper as they grow up

Who knows.....you could fall for twin girls!!!!!


I could always lend you my 6 year old.....she's a real cutie, especially first thing on a morning when she snuggles up.....she's just perfect....until she remembers that she has attitude!!!!

Every now and then I think....shall we try for another, it only last for seconds, one of mine usually screams, and somehow it always brings me back to my senses!!!

Linda

I've got five...it's quite easy really. I also work full time, so don't take any notice of the "shock/horror" comments - my lot love being part of a big family and I manage OK. Not rich, I will admit, but happy.

Five....you have my respect.

What ages??

Linda

19 mths, Kindergarten, Grade 2, Grade 7 and Grade 12.

Big respect !! (Bows, bows)

hi
Ive got 4 , 3 boys and a girl, who is just wonderful, its so nice to balence out all them male hormones!

She wants to be a ballerina when she grows up!


Big familys are quite common these days, i find that once you have 2 or 3 another isnt that much harder work.
Expensive..definatly, but you make it work.

Were ALL going to disneyworld in 3 weeks!


Sometime fates just steps in and takes over ........

My freind who had 3 boys and was trying for that little girl did exactly that LOL

She wants to be a ballerina when she grows up!


Mine wants to learn Kung Fu God help her brother!!!!

Linda

thats funny!

Shes grade 3 in her ballet already, in a show in july!! her teacher loves her! thought id get a tomboy with 3 brothers but no way she a little princess x

My eldest boy wants a sister so that she can beat up her brothers!

Not rich us. Told my OH before we got married that I wanted 6 kids, so 3 possibly 4 is a step back anyway.