Congratualations - you may be surprised by that salutation but it takes guts to apply to live in another country - it takes even more to fight the fight as you have for the past 3.5 years and not give up - I really don't belive you have 'given up', just moved on.

Your kids are at different stages to what they were when you started this soul destroying game, even for those of us that are lucky to get work permits and visa's, the stress that is put on you to carry out a dream - that may in all honesty go so very wrong is excrutiating. As you say you find out who your friends and family are when you try this sort of thing - that's a positive - you know who you can trust now

I feel for you, I really do. BUT you and your hubby have come to a desicion that suits you guys. I wish you all the best for the future and hope you have long and happy lives - wherever you end up. I have enjoyed your posts many a time - you have a wicked sense of humour - don't lose it.

Much love Crafty,
Piff

I know how you feel but only you will know if you have made the right decision.
How would you feel if your hubby was offered a good job with a decent salary in your chosen province? would that alter your decision at all? Not that I'm offering him a job obviously, just thought I'd use this to see how serious you are about not going anymore.

Good luck, nothing to feel down about, the UK is a great place and life is what you make it

I've not long been in from work and caught up with your new posts. Many thanks for your kind words everyone To those of you already in Canada, I hope you enjoy your new lives.

Great post Piff, I couldn't have put it better myself. We have to move on.

I will come back and visit my old pals at BE, even if it's just to drop into the 'virtual bar' started by raine66 (is that thread still running?) or seeing if HWP's and Butch are up to mischief ...........

If the right (permanent) job came along tomorrow with all the criteria you mentioned in your quoted post then yes, we'd probably still go (although we'd have panic stations here). Being realistic (or some would say pessimistic) I don't think it's going to happen though.

Sorry to hear that things haven't worked out as planned.

Enjoy not being in limbo anymore and start to live in the here and now.

We've made a similar decsions to yourselves and feel really liberated that we can now plan for our future in the UK....which isn't too bad by the way....500000 illegal immigrants can't all be wrong!

When did you apply then??

I do like the UK, I just wish it was (much) bigger! :curse:

All the best for your future, hope you keep in touch.

Sorry that it has come to this, but know how you must be feeling, and that you need to get on with your life without being in constant "limbo". As we have discussed before, sometimes it isn't obvious why things are happening as they are, but later things can slot into place.

Wishing all of you the best, and look forward to seeing you again sometime. Keep in touch.

Deborah

Well .....we have been thinking about emmigrating for about two years now and, as i'm in the midst of training as a an SLT at a local uni, we decided that we would start our applcation at the beginning of the year.
Between us we have loads of points as we both have degrees, family in Canada, and have sought after job skills.

Unfortunately my Mum was diagnosed with a brain tumour in January and, as you can imagine, that threw everything up in the air. It made me think what would happen if I were not here to support my otherwise healthy 60 year old mum through this ordeal?

Before my mum's health problems I had told myself that if anything were to happen I would only be an 8 hour flight away. But when you are faced with an actual as oppossed to hypothetical situation it is only then that you know how you would feel.

As for feelings about the UK, we weren't all that unhappy here it was just that we had an opportunity to experience life in a new country with new challenges.

Like many prospective migrants who post here we have to admit that we did fall into the mind set of focussing on all of the negatives things about UK, which we had experience of, and then focused on all of our imagined benefits of living in Canada.

Since making our decsion we now feel alot more settled and happier. We are appreciating the lovely village we live in, the brand new high schools which are being built, great education our kids have received, history, culture, fantastic friends, acess to extended family, shopping, the british sense of humour, etc....the list really can go on.

Yes yob culture exists in certain parts of the UK but we rarely experience it where we live. The British press are obsessed with highlighting this behaviour because it sells papers.

Sorry this has gone on a bit, but I really think that once you make the decision not to go it is possible to channel your efforts in other areas and appreciate what you have.

Good luck.

What an excellent post. Glad you are content with your decision. It struck a chord about the being "only 8 hours away" in a crisis. In reality, it doesn't work like that, which I can attest to. You're in Worcester, a beautiful part of the country and you mentioned you lived in a village. Sort of sounds like my dream!! Good luck to you.