This made me laugh this morning. Of course, it had to be in B.C. :Brownies giving workers a high

We were invited to a pot luck for a 40th birthday party. So we thought, "OK, that's what they do here, that's fine".

Then we scrolled down the invite to the bit that said "Bring your own booze". Needless to say, we didn't attend.

Er, why not? Was the concept of BYOB new to you?

I wouldn't dream of going to a party or other such gathering without bringing my own booze. Now, at some family events in Canada, that can be to ensure that I have something worth drinking, but it's the only decent thing to do isn't it?

I'd think taking more than you're going to drink is the decent thing. Even if it is only those cans of domestic beer that exist only to be left at other people's houses.

Not a new concept at all, I always take my own booze to a party.

Seemed a bit lazy and cheap from the hosts' side though to ask you to bring your own booze AND food.

Take the host a nice gift but to have to BYOB seems a bit cheap and tacky to me.

One wonders if, in the future, you will be posting about how hard it is to integrate

Ha ha, we shall see!

I was invited to a wedding reception and asked to bring our own food and beer. Oh and a gift from their wedding list at the local boutique. The invite came from an expat as well. He integrated quickly into the Canadian way of life! Lol

We were invited to a wedding and "respectfully" asked to pay for our own meal at the reception in a hotel and to pay our "share" of the cost of the hall rental/dance band afterwards. We "respectfully" didn't go.
BYOB is common practice at casual parties in Canada but certainly not at weddings although having a cash bar where you pay for your own drinks is pretty much the same thing.

The weddings I've attended in Canada have been lavish, no cost to guests beyond a gift, blow out parties in grand hotels. I suggest that if one must befriend the locals one should pick Jewish locals.

Is it normal for the Bridesmaids, no not me the wifes daughter, to have to buy her dress, an awful lavender thing $450, pay $250 for a beauty treatment at a spar, pay $150 on the big day for hair and make up. This is the first time I have evr heard of such a thing ???

Apparently quite normal for the dress not sure about the other stuff.

Yes. As long as the beauty treatment is at a spa ( ).

Or were you asking about the relevance of the pricing? $450 is cheap for a dress no matter what the colour (and it's quite normal to purchase a dress one would never, ever wear again because no amount of dye and/or tailoring would make it workable), $250 is about normal and $150 is below average (unless the beautician is traveling to the site to do everyone's hair/makeup).

Thank you for clarifying the dress etc is not for you.