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Hi there.

Just so you know who you are talking with here. I'm a British born and bred older lady that emigrated with my husband to New Zealand. My husband is from around your neck of the woods, Wolverhampton.

Sometimes it is harder to get a view or thought across via posts like these as we can't see each others faces can we . Nor the tone to our voices. I think the other posters are really just trying to exactly understand how this has come about for you. So, we go on what is written to try to get a grasp and one thing you wrote was that you were 23 years old . Many of us remember being 23 & our parents would not have been in a position really to order us around.

At the moment I am not sure what help you feel us lot can help you with. It was me that asked BritInPAris to comment on here as he is wise in the ways of embassies.

In one of your posts you said you were a British National. That is different from being a British Citizen .

I suppose the thought that your parents may have been originally Malaysian came from the thought that they persuaded you to attended a Uni in Malaysia. Most parents prefer to keep their children closer to home, unless a university is prestigious, so to send someone not connected to Malaysia to Malaysia reads a bit odd .....if you see what I mean. No judgement call from me , by the way. Simply trying to understand.

Are you saying that you are about to become homeless and unable to feed yourself?

I realise you are very unhappy but is the Uni course good. Lead to a good degree?
You haven't said how long the course is . Nor why you didn't pick your own Uni.
How long have you been there.

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I'm assuming this question isn't a spoof.
I know sometimes that answers on internet forums can lead to bad things.
But I'm just surprised/gobsmacked at the position the OP is in, especially with a family in UK.

A mate of mine years ago sent me a letter from USA saying he needed the money for a flight back to UK, which I sent him, so I do understand that people can get into this sort of situation.

Anyway I see the cheapest flight I can find from KL to UK is around MR 1500.
I suppose that's a lot of money if you have none or no way of earning.

Obviously the OP doesn't have to explain everything on an internet site but it is difficult to suggest how to go forward with only part of the story.
Mind you even with the full details it might be difficult to suggest something.

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My suggestion is, go to tv station or newspaper sounds like you need to be deported by the country. Was thinking on the line of name and shame your parents even though you are an adult. When back in Engand who do you have to stay with since your parents don't want you? Will you ask to be put in a hostel? Its a hard life

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If your parents are insisting that you stay in Malaysia and you cannot work then presumably they must be providing you with some funds? Could you not save the air fare from that?

If you only need the air fare home and you're usually a UK resident then perhaps a credit card, an overdraft extension or a small loan from your UK bank/building society is the way to go. Not ideal but it'll provide the funds to get you home.

You could try and approach the British High Commission in KL and ask for a loan from public funds to get you home but I only approach after you have tried the above suggestions and asked any other friends or family who may be in a position to help you with a loan.

Otherwise it might just be a case of staying put and finishing your studies.

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Not really sure what to say to you young lady. But as a parent I can imagine it must be some thing very upsetting for parents to take such a drastic action to put you in M'sia with paid tuition to keep you away from your home environment.
Think why they did this to you after all they have you for 23 years! Why didn't they do this to you earlier? Maybe they just wanted you to have a time to reflect on what ever the cause that brought about this predicament you are in so some solid and positive results can come about? If they really want to abandon you they could have done it when you were younger and easier too I'd say.
Sorry can't help you as I only know your side of the story and I know of parents who have 'kids from hell'. You might not be one but parents don't abandon their adult kids just like that without a good reason to protect them from some thing or some one they find more threatening than their actions.

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What have your other family members and friends had to say on Facebook? Surely one or two have expressed a care? You know, old school friends, college mates that sort of thing, people who actually know you. Any religious connections that you could ask a favour from?

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I suspect we are only getting part of the story.

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You may have a point there, as she/he has only mentioned "money" nine times so far.

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I am so sceptical, I saw it as a scam from the beginning, the story just does not gel. I could be wrong.

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That's the thing....

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Her whole story just doesn't add up.

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Is it a variation on the "Hello, Dear One, I am cousin of the Late President and I have a large sum of money but need some help in getting it out of Mali.........." ?????

I detect a certain Nigerian aroma.

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Mmmm..i smell a durian...i mean a rat.

kenny

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No one is asking any BE member for money so let's give the OP the benefit of a doubt. We have all sorts of experiences and situations shared on BE, it doesn't mean they are all fishy ;)

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I do feel the OP would be well advised to contact old friends, other family, school and college contacts and also community and religious organizations, Salvation Army etc. Perhaps some reflection on his/her previous interactions with family members may illuminate why and how this situation came to pass? Perhaps there is a bargain that needs to be struck with his/her parents, maybe some sort of understanding can develop between the parties. Perhaps you have been stuffed by your own kin?