Ok, so I stuffed up. I came on here, got emotional, blew off some steam and probably annoyed quite a handful of people. And I can't help but think that one of my threads got removed »oO«

But I haven't been blocked, so I'm assuming that I've been given a second chance. Well, I'm using it.

I'm scared, people. I've never done anything like this in my life. One day I'm happily making plans to bludge at uni with all my friends for six years, the next day I'm desperately wondering how I'm going to have a life with someone that lives on the other side of the planet.

I don't understand governments, they are big and important and they make me feel small and stupid, so I've done my best to avoid them. But I can avoid them anymore.

I want to move to Canada. I don't care how long it takes or how much it costs, but I do want to keep my time and money down if I can.

Yes, I'm doing this for love, and no, I've never been in the same room as this girl. If I seem a little bitey about this, it's because I've received very little help or support about this move, from family, friends or those involved in immigration.

As far as it stands now, I'm confused, misinformed, and tired. I have a great job, an amazing resume, a uni admission, $5000 and plenty of time. And from what I'm hearing this could fall short.

I would like advice. Obviously I'm going to have to spend a bit of time with this girl before the governments take me seriously. I want to spend time with her before I do anything serious anyway.

How do I get to Canada. How do I stay there. How much will it cost. How does sponsorship work. How do I get a job. If I don't get solid answers soon I'm going to go loopy.

I'm sorry for my previous moods. But I'm scared. And when I get scared, I get angry. Especially when no one seems to want to help.

I humbly ask for any advice. Not URLs or phone numbers or addresses. I want help. I have not been to a single website that has explained anything to me in full. And I have looked. Hard.

So I beg of you. Tell me some good news for once!

If you're Aussie, try this.

http://www.iep.org.au/workcanada/

You can also try to contact Andrew Miller for a free evaluation. Andrew is an immig consultant and posts regularly on this forum. Just find one of his previous posts and send him an email

Hope this helps
Sam

So you love this girl and will do anything to be with her, but you cant be bothered to read the very clear and concise rules regarding sponsorship and immigration on the official canadian immigration CIC website!!!

I give up.

Iain

I haven't read any of you other posts as I've only just got back from holiday. Apologies if someone has already suggested this.

Why don't you just go to Canada for a long holiday and spend some time with this girl just to see if you like each other in the flesh. It can work as me and my now husband were in a very similar situation before I moved here this year. If I had not spent time with him while we were waiting for the all clear to put the paperwork in then there wouldnt have been anyway I would have come over to spend the rest of my life with him.

I hope it works out for you as I know that long distance loves are harder but stick with it and it will be worth the wait.

OK, you are asking for our opinions and suggestions so ...

You need to travel to Canada as a visitor to meet the girl and spend time together. Only you can tell how much time you will need to be sure that a relationship will be genuine and life long.

It sound like you are at University and if you are under 30 years of age and an Australian passport holder, you can apply to come to Canada on a one year Working Holiday Visa. This visa gives you a chance to live together and allows you to work to support yourself while you are in Canada. Beware though, this visa is designed for young Australians to live in work in Canada temporarily, it cannot be extended, but at least it gives you a taste of what Canada can offer you and a chance to be sure of your future relationship.

3. If your girlfriend is 27 or under (you will need to check the age requirements on this) and she has a Canadian passport she can also go to Australia on a one year Working Holiday visa which would again allow the both of you to live together in Australia.

4. The above points are of extreme importance to the both of you as if you decide to apply for permanent residence to Canada you will need to prove that you have both lived in a common law relationship for a minimum of 12 months prior to applying for PR. Or if you decide to marry, then the length of time spent living together may not be so critical.

5. Before you even think of immigrating to Canada, you need to visit your girlfriend and spend time together, go out together, maybe meet some of her friends and family and I am sure that if your relationship 'is meant to be' then she will love the opportunity to do the same for you and go to Australia.

6. You need to read the instructions on the CIC web site, they are not difficult to understand at all, the forms are very clear. The reason you are finding it all so difficult is that you cannot yet prove that you have a genuine relationship, eg you have no paper evidence of your relationship, no lease aggreements, photos, airline ticket coupons, statutary declarations from friends and family who know your relationship to be real and continuing. And the reason is, you have not even met..... GET REAL and get a plane ticket and go visit her or arrange for her to go and spend time with you. You have to start somewhere and you have not even started.

You guys are actually helping me, finally!

I think I left out some info that is confusing some people, so I'll clear some things up.

First of all, yeah, I have to live with this girl. She will be here 6th Sep for a month, and then I plan to live in Canada as long as I can. We are going to get engadged within the next six months and married within the next two years. I plan to live with her in Canada for as long as I can before immigration kicks me back to Oz. As a side note, I'm 19 and she's 18.

I'm currently a permanent casual for Telstra BigPond and I plan to stay here until I move to or visit Canada. I have a uni entry but it's deferred until March 05, and I'll most probably dump it.

And yes, the website is confusing because it doesn't seem to apply to me. Every paragraph starts with "once you have lived with her" or "once you have received a job" and yet no where does it say how I can live with her or how to find a job.

Jajra I'll look at that website when I can, thank you so much, SamJ thank you for the info, I had no idea about that. And Iaink, I'm sorry that you find me so frustrating, but I'm doing the best I can.

Thank you all for your help and if you have any more info don't hesitate to let me know, because I really do know nothing!

I just wanted to say that if you end up having to live apart for whatever reason for any length of time then don't worry too much as it will fly by. Me and husband had to spend a year apart before we could get married and me move over. It had its hard moments but once I got here I could see that it was worth every minute. What we have now is a lot more for the distance that was between us and it makes us appreciate it all a lot more too.

That is so sweet! Thank you for the support, I know that my relationship with my girl is so amazing because of the stresses that we have pulled through. Under the love and lust we have a very deep and strong friendship and it sounds like you have that with your hubby!

And congrats on it all working out for you! »ˆˆ«