Hi

Everything seems to be moving at quite a pace here, I went out to Canada a month or so ago on an exploratory but have just had word that I may have a job offer to commence in 12 months time.

In some ways I'm very very excited but I'm having the hugest wobble ever (and there is a lot of me to wobble).

I have spent the weekend packing up the house (we want to put the house on the market as it could take us a good 2 years to sell up as I had the house on the market for over 12 months last year and couldn't sell). We are quite happy to move to rented over here until we move.

Suddenly though everything feels as if it's moving too fast, I want to go (I desparately want to go) but the thought of leaving close family and close friends just makes me want to be physically sick right now, I feel as if I have a knot in my stomach and I can't stop crying at the thought.

I think this is probably because it is all moving so fast and this is the first time in over a month that it has really hit me that we really are going to do this and that it may not be the pipedream I thought it was - I'm not even sure that makes sense.

Anyway, after all this waffle, what I want to know is am I by myself or does everyone wobble - is this natural or should I be listening more to my gut (which is just wrenching at the thought of leaving behind our families as we are all close).

Help

i know the feeling im going out on a trip next week i got a job offer so going to meet employer im beginning to get a bit panicky which part are you going

Hello, Heidi.

Sorry to hear you're having a big wobble, but it's very common.

I think we should have an annual competition on this forum and vote for the Wobble King / Queen of the Year.

I hope that helps you, if only to the extent of knowing you're in good company.
x

Toronto. What about you?

Good look with the meeting.

LOL yes it does a bit, I have been bouncing along on pure adreneline I think but suddenly this is all feeling a little to near and a little too real.

vancouver area

Hi Heidi

We are moving to Toronto in two days - and even though it's what we always wanted, we are nervous and have a bit of a stomach ache, too... it is very common and you are not alone... we waited nearly three years for this, complaining all along that it was not moving fast enough - and now that we are about to leave it all seems rather "too fast". But I think it would feel that way no matter when we'd eventually go for it.

Nervously excited is probably the best way to describe our mood.

Good luck with everything.

Hi Heidi

I have had my official Wobble 2, and I'm waiting for the 3rd!!!! The first was about the decision as a whole, and the second, when things started happening - ie: putting house on market etc....

I am moving to Vancouver, and my aim is to be there in August this year... So it's only a few months to go, house not sold, now being marketed for rent, and work don't know yet either!!!!

I have no job to go to, and no where to live.... I'm living by the seat of my very slippy pants!!!!

Bx

Bandit which part of vancouver you going

AAHH Heidi, thats sooo normal! We were supposed to go to Canada last year and after getting a buyer for our house, I had a HUGE WOBBLE and backed out!!! After 2 months I realised we've made a BIG mistake and set out to start again!!!
We leave for Toronto next Sunday (1st June). Our house has now sold and we move out of it on Thursday. We've had our leaving party, said goodbye to loads of our friends, and that was REALLY hard.
But, try to focus on the reasons for wanting to go there and you'll be OK.
Its a very brave thing to do, but it takes a person with guts to go through with it!!
I've cried loads, got excited loads and had HUGE wobbles but I'm still going and people around us have now accepted that we have to do it. Anyway, look at the holidays they can have.
Chin up, it'll be worth it.

I have experienced that so many times and as we are nearly there I've got a little calmer, judging by all the posts on this forum this is so normal but don't worry, we're here for moral support if you need any , good luck
Terese

Hey Heidi,

we are also going to Toronto (leaving 19 Aug.)

For a while it seemed as if we wouldn't be able to sell the house in time, but we accepted an offer about 2 weeks ago from somebody who has sold their house to a first time buyer...so, it suddenly seems all systems are go....

we are looking to complete at the end of July. They came round today to do measuring and I was suddenly so freaked out! Not that I hadn't realised before but...it dawned on me that we are selling our lovely big house, in a fantastic location, refurbed by us to our taste....to move into a tiny apartment in Toronto to face an uncertain future in an unfamiliar country... Now I'm thinking, do I *really* want to do this???? The answer is, of course, YES!! but it ain't half scary! What if Toronto doesn't work out and we have to return after a year? What if, what if what if????

But.....we've got to go! I would hate to chicken out now and regret never trying.....To loosely quote " It's not the ones [battles] we lose that bother me, it's the ones we don't suit up for"....

So, you are not alone......I am quietly having a massive wobble here in my corner.....

Mrs B.

Yep, we wobbled countless times over the 3 year wait for our PR cards and majorly so in the final few weeks...but 6 months after the move, we are pleased we steadied ourselves and went through with it (not that there aren't times we miss things - mainly people and a UK Spring! - back in the UK). It's a challenge to rebuild a life here but one we are enjoying getting to grips with.

Best wishes,

E&J.

Karma sent,

You are not alone, I too have had wobbles and am sure there will be loads more!

I know this is the right thing to do for our family but knowing that some family members are not happy with the decision makes it more difficult for me. I hope they will come round in time and the vast majority of people we know and family are very positive for us.

Good luck

Hey Heidi!!

I wanted to give you some perspective from someone who wobbled and fell over.

3 years ago I was in the same situation I had just split with my partner at the time and was offered a perm move to Chicago from my company. I went out there to find a property and while I was there had a panic attack the time difference and lack of immediate access to friends just caused me to break down. I was on the next flight home and called the entire thing off. I regret it every day as I think my life in Chicago would have been alot better! Anyway after a rubbish year still in the UK I found an amazing girl we have no been together for a year and a half and on November 4th we move to Canada! Vancouver to be exact!

My point is this if you dont go you will regret it BUT nothing is forever and another oppertunity may come back round and it may be even better!! Dont let it phase you like it did me you have done the best thing I can think about by speaking to people like the expats about it. Well done you and enjoy Canada! hopefully we can meet up for a drink when we both get over there!

Tom