What about a Homesickness Help Thread
 

This is something I have been pondering for a while, so thought I would throw it out there and see if you agree or if it gets shot down.

There have been a lot of down in the dumps expats on BE recently, things have been hard for some of us, folk have been homesick and others are going back home or considering it!

We are the only people who truly understand homesickness and how lonely a place it can be and also a very powerful experience if your feeling down at all. Sometimes it is the woman and sometimes the man, sometimes both and if your on your own in a partnership feeling homesick I think you need a place to come and say:

"Hey all - I'm feeling homesick today, missing my real family and friends - HELP"

Perhaps a homesickness help thread kept at the top of the page might be a wee thing to think about? I think as Mrs Miggins says us women in particular are afraid to admit it in public and bottle it all up and even though you may not want to go back to the UK, homesickness really makes us look at things through rose tinted glasses and we may do something rash we dont actually want, when all we need is a bit of encouragment from our fellow forum members.

So sorry for the rambling - what do you think?

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Good idea I know I feel like that some days and it would be great to have some avenue to vent.

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A really good idea - I have a few days I feel homesick but I don't tell anyone - apart from Val!

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I thought the whole forum was a homesickness thread. Thats why people post about pining for marmite or walkers crisps, or how the hairdressers are crap and the holiday allowance rubbish

Then unsympathetic people come on and tell you to stop being a miserable whiner and to go back home if it doesnt suit you

hey ho

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What a great idea. I know i've certainly felt it since being here and never wanted to mention it on here too much, afraid of all the insular "well go back then" comments. I know you should take comments like that lightly but they certainly don't help when you're having a tough time of it.

I'm certainly not implying that you could talk someone into staying here if they're not happy, but a place to blurt it all out and know someone else understands can help to see things more clearly.

On a lighter note, we can talk about Marmite as well if want to, without being flamed.:thumbup:

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Have you noticed the Moving Back to the UK forum? That's the place you need.

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Ohhh...you would get on with my OH...you should both work for the Samaritans.

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My wife was really home sick, she hadn't been back to the UK for 6 years....

Then she went for 2 weeks.....

That cured her....

I was fortunate for our first 3 years out here I went back every month.

I saw the light, real quick.:thumbup:

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Nice idea;), but really Batty hit it on the head.... Do you really want to hear that when your down?

Sutherlands

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I think its a fab idea actualy - while people decide to emigrate or whatever it does not mean that those people will not get homseick, and just because they do should not be a reason for the "unsympathetic" lot to say "go home" or whatever. People have feelings and have every right to get homesick and at the end of the day I always think if someone needs a friendly cyber hug or whatever if the un sympathetic lot have not got any thing decent to say they should not bother. Thats just my thoughts anyway!:)

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Hello I haven't moved to Canada just yet but I think this would be a very good idea.

I don't understand why someone should feel the need to put someone down in an hour of need. You could make someone feel 10 times worse and upset them further. (We don't want to condone that, do we?) Just because you may be homesick does not mean that you want to go back to England. The point of this site is to encourage other people and give your support when needed.

Suggesting the move back to UK forum will only put doubts in someones head about maybe making the wrong decision to move when they are feeling low.

Once again I support this idea. :thumbsup:

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I agree. My family and I have been over here for 3 months now and I have started to feel a teensy bit homesick. Mind you, I listened to Capital FM via my computer the other day. The depressing news bulletins and the 6 mile tailbacks on the M25 cured my homesickness in an instant!

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Well to those who say look at the MBTTUK forum, you have completely missed the gist of my original post - as I said we aren't homesick for moving back but more homesick for family and friends and that, yes homesickness can make us look at our old lives through rose tinted glasses. However if this is how you feel about helping a fellow member who is feeling low then that says a lot about you - doesn't it? But you are entitiled to respond whatever way you want - so thanks anyway.

As the rest of you seem to have picked up (and I thiank you for being clued into where I am coming from) if we had one particular thread to go to in our "hour of need" which only those sympathetic to our plight answered in, I think it would be a great support system, people who think you are stupid for being homesick have no need to read it;)

It reminds me of Iaink and Mrs Miggins where he kept trying to tell her to give it a little longer that the 10 month period is the hardest.

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once again my posts must have been invisible.

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Batty you suffer the same afliction as I do!:rofl: I think you got the right answer!