So Sad
 

Hi there,

Sorry for the tittle, but I just feel so sad right now. I have been living in Nova Scotia for the past 7 months and myself and my family have settled really well. We have met some amazing people who have helped us a lot. In fact we have more friends here than we ever had back home in Glasgow Uk. The problem is my family have been visiting for the last 3 weeks and I have just said goodbye to them at the airport. I feel so sad, it was hard enough to leave them the first time so having to say goodbye again is heartbreaking.
I know all the logical things, they will be back soon, they are happy for our move etc, but I can't help feeling this pain of sadness.
I am so sorry for disturbing anyone, and I just want everyone to know I am so happy with my new life and everything that goes with it. I just miss my family so much right now. I am hoping I will be back to normal soon, but right now I just feel bad:(.
Help please, I know there are people on here who must feel the same way when their family goes home, please any advice will be gratefully received.
Thanks and sorry for depressing you all.
Julie:(

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Even if you'd not had family visiting it's very common to feel this way. You've come out of the 'honeymoon' phase and are now faced with reality. You are now realising that you miss your friends and family from back home...in fact you are probably missing your day to day life in the UK.

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You have to go through many "firsts" as an expat and some are harder than others, family leaving after a visit is one of the hardest first's. After each visit from relatives it will get better, each one will be easier. My advice is to get back to your "normal" routine as quickly as possible and try not to dwell on things. I promise as each visit comes and goes you will find yourself dealing with it better. Hang in there and know that what you are feeling is completely normal and that you are not alone, we've all felt like that.

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You're right to feel sad, it's awful being far away from family and loved ones (mostly!). But you seem to like Canada and the move and everything. I don't agree with the 1st reply, I think you can miss people and individual things without missing the whole deal of life in the UK. I miss roast lamb and church bells, but would I go back? Would I heck:eek:

I hope you can stick with it for a few days, I'm sure you'll start to feel better.

Best wishes
C x

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Don't put words in her mouth, she has already said that she loves her new life in Canada.

Seeing loved ones off at an airport is one of the worst things that people abroad go through. I do my blubbing the night before to try and prepare myself for the dreaded airport farewell.

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Hi Julie

I can fully understand how you you feel, I'm loving it here but my 2 kids were here for a week, and it was heart breaking taking them back to the airport.
Keep your chin up, I just hope eventually they'll decide they want to be here and not in the UK.

Rosie

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How long was it since you moved from the UK? It is a known fact most folk go through a series of emotions when immigrating...the 'honeymoon' period is one of them. Of course you may not miss the 'whole deal' as you put it...put there are aspects of your past life in the UK you will miss for a time and being near family is one of them.

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Hi Julie, its perfectly normal, we have been here over 4 years now and its the same evertime and I dont think it gets easier. The first 2 times we were looking at property back in the uk but a day or 2 after and you just seem to get on with it, you will feel alot better in the morning. my parents went back a couple of weeks back and we felt really sad but the day after we were back to normal.....keep your chin up it gets better......chris:thumbsup:

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Hi Julie,

Sorry to hear you are feeling sad. I'm yet to experience what you are going through, but understand it must be so hard, I know how much your new life is meaning to you and OH and the kids and that you wouldn't change it for the world, but I suppose the family coming over for the first time is a bit of a reality check almost of your move and the new life you have.

Hope things settle down a bit in a few days and you feel better, I'm sure your folk had a wonderful visit and they will be back again soon:thumbup:

Take care

Nikki
x

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Hi Julie

Hope you are feeling a little brighter today. I know by the timing of your post that your rellies were about to board their flight so it will be an especially difficult time for you. I also know that you are especially close to your family too so it's more difficult for you.

The Dignans have settled in really well here in New Glasgow. I have never seen such a packed social calender for someone new to any community. Always on the go and joined just about every group known to man ;) You have lots and lots of friends here and you also both have great jobs here which I know you love.

Hopefully once you get back into the swing of normality you will feel much better. I for one can honestly say that your mum, sister, Alan and baby Kirstie are a lovely bunch of people and we are glad we were able to meet up with you all quite a few times over the last 3 weeks. :wub:

There was talk of your mum coming back over in a few months so maybe it won't be long til she visits again.

Take care :wub:

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Hi Julie,
sorry to hear that you are feeling down just remember that your family will be out to see you again.The fact you made the big move shows what you are made of and i am sure in another couple of weeks you will have settled back into that wonderful life you have got in NS:thumbup:
So chin up and look around you and think of what you and your family have achieved.
We are from old Glasgow and are coming out this Oct to Colchester and a few other parts of NS (first Reccie NS),so if you need anything from the old country let us know and we try and bring it thru.
Arty & Co

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Something I find helps is to have an idea of when the next visit may be, whether it's them coming here again or you going there. And whether it is in a couple of months or a couple of years I find it just helps to know.

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Hi Julie,

I totally understand how you feel, we came to Amherst in 2006 & when my Mum visited i was so over whelmed, it seamed to go by in a flash & all of a sudden she was back at the airport:ohmy:

We are really close & i have been really ill, we have emailed alot & then set up Skype. To start with we were talking every other day. We don't do this so much now but it has really helped.

I still miss her but i am dealing with it better now. I am going into the QE11 in August & she will be over then, i know this time it is going to be really hard & she isn't even over yet:o

It will get easier.

NG xxxx

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Each time i say goodbye, i always say, "So, i'll talk to you tomorrow.."

I got my family into talking usualy twice a week, even if it's just for 5 minutes. If you're in Nova scotia, you're only 4 hours behind the UK, it's even easier to do.

My mum often remarks that she feels closer to me than she does to my sister who only lives 100 miles away from her.

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I have the opposite problem, my mother is too frail to visit me :(.

We have been here 10 months and have our first family visitors next week. My SIL/BIL arrive on 23rd, don't know how my OH feels about it, he doesn't say much the only thing he's looking forward to at the moment is the teabags they are bringing, he hates the tea here :D

I hope your sadness is passing Julie . :thumbup: