Positive Experiences.
May 12th 2011 | 1:00 am
#46
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From: Dewsbury, West Yorkshire but aiming for distant shores....
Re: Positive Experiences.
If the nature of your wife's illness is psychiatric then I can tell you from personal experience that the move is all but guaranteed to exacerbate her symptomatic behaviours.
The stress of actually moving, the fear for the current & future safety of the children, the (at least initial) isolation, financial stress & the homesickness all conspire, causing an unimaginable burden for a "well" mind.
I have watched, first hand, what these added pressures do to an already fragile mind...
The stress of actually moving, the fear for the current & future safety of the children, the (at least initial) isolation, financial stress & the homesickness all conspire, causing an unimaginable burden for a "well" mind.
I have watched, first hand, what these added pressures do to an already fragile mind...
And if you have suffered as I have with a loved ones mental illness, then my heart goes out to you friend, because only those that have witnessed it first hand can truly understand.
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May 12th 2011 | 1:30 am
#47
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Re: Positive Experiences.
Sticking with the thread here, positives for me:
- We now earn more money than in UK, and seem to have a good amount of 'free' income at the end of the month
- Being able to snowboard after work and at weekends in the winter
- The amount of outdoor activities are endless, just being introduced to downhill mountain biking by the OH which is so much fun, if a little scary
- Eating out seems a lot cheaper to me than in UK, we get to do this a lot, rather than just for special occasions.
- Canadians in general are so friendly and will talk to any random, you don't get 'that' look of why are you talking to me and what do you want which is typical from my experience in UK. They will go out of their way to help you as much as they can, which is great when your a newbie over here.
- Tim Hortons!! timbits (donut holes) are now an obsession of the OH he can nail about 40 of them in one sitting!
- We get more bank holidays! and that's always a bonus
All in all we feel there are a lot more positives for us rather than negatives, we are happier here, the only thing we miss are family and friends - that's the hardest part but you learn to cope.
Hope it all works out for you, immigration is hard work and very stressful but in the end it's SO worth it!!
- We now earn more money than in UK, and seem to have a good amount of 'free' income at the end of the month
- Being able to snowboard after work and at weekends in the winter
- The amount of outdoor activities are endless, just being introduced to downhill mountain biking by the OH which is so much fun, if a little scary
- Eating out seems a lot cheaper to me than in UK, we get to do this a lot, rather than just for special occasions.
- Canadians in general are so friendly and will talk to any random, you don't get 'that' look of why are you talking to me and what do you want which is typical from my experience in UK. They will go out of their way to help you as much as they can, which is great when your a newbie over here.
- Tim Hortons!! timbits (donut holes) are now an obsession of the OH he can nail about 40 of them in one sitting!
- We get more bank holidays! and that's always a bonus
All in all we feel there are a lot more positives for us rather than negatives, we are happier here, the only thing we miss are family and friends - that's the hardest part but you learn to cope.
Hope it all works out for you, immigration is hard work and very stressful but in the end it's SO worth it!!
I asked my 2 sons the other day (17 & 19) if they are happy here, they said they both love it, they said they love the space, the safeness of the country, and the easy laid back life they have here, my youngest says he loves how much of an easier life we have here, the pool, hot tub etc, would never have the weather for them at home, at least 4 months of the year we can enjoy the pool!!
May 12th 2011 | 2:44 am
#48
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Re: Positive Experiences.
While I appreciate your concern, those considerations were all taken into account in my research. While I am under no illusion that a move like this will be extremely stressful to all involved, I firmly believe that most of the issues that exacerbate her condition can be rectified by a move to somewhere different.
And if you have suffered as I have with a loved ones mental illness, then my heart goes out to you friend, because only those that have witnessed it first hand can truly understand.
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And if you have suffered as I have with a loved ones mental illness, then my heart goes out to you friend, because only those that have witnessed it first hand can truly understand.
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Only you can make the judgement call but I do urge you to take what I've written as genuine advice from someone who has already walked the path you are about to set out on..
Joe
May 14th 2011 | 5:59 am
#49
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From: Now in West London, but one day soon in Vancouver.....!
Re: Positive Experiences.
yes, yes, ok ok.....BUT.........
the jobs you have shown are not the ones i'd be going for!
for one, im not a mech engineer.....99% of my experience is with electronics, not electrical.
ive worked on radar systems with the RAF, MOD etc and also on ECM countermeasures, for those who know!
so the salary im talking about is what you get in MY field.
if i wanted to go for higher salaries, i'd requalify, but at middle age, i dont think so somehow!
yes, sure, im not the only one who could do another degree in another field, but even with degrees, especially these days, and yes, even in the uk, its damn difficult geeting the job you want.
many of my friends here are graduates, some older than me, some much younger, and most of them are working in dead-end jobs paying no more than £25k, and thats in the south of england!
its a sad fact that these days, a dehree isnt worth or looked upon as much as it used to be say, in the 70s.
everyone has a degree these days almost, so the competition is fierceer.
ami i being tooo negative again? oh, ok...i'll shut up now!
the jobs you have shown are not the ones i'd be going for!
for one, im not a mech engineer.....99% of my experience is with electronics, not electrical.
ive worked on radar systems with the RAF, MOD etc and also on ECM countermeasures, for those who know!
so the salary im talking about is what you get in MY field.
if i wanted to go for higher salaries, i'd requalify, but at middle age, i dont think so somehow!
yes, sure, im not the only one who could do another degree in another field, but even with degrees, especially these days, and yes, even in the uk, its damn difficult geeting the job you want.
many of my friends here are graduates, some older than me, some much younger, and most of them are working in dead-end jobs paying no more than £25k, and thats in the south of england!
its a sad fact that these days, a dehree isnt worth or looked upon as much as it used to be say, in the 70s.
everyone has a degree these days almost, so the competition is fierceer.
ami i being tooo negative again? oh, ok...i'll shut up now!
I liked some of your previous posts Julius, so much that I looked you're other threads and checked out those too, and a lot of what you said strikes a chord with me, so I hope you understand that I have a certain amount of respect for you. however if you cant find an engineering job over £30k you're looking in the wrong places my friend.
Powertrain Engineer £40k - £45k
Mechanical Design Engineer circa £50k
Mechanical Design Engineer £30k - £40k + Benefits
Control Systems Engineer £30k - £40k
Mechatronics Engineer £27k - £39k
Obviously salaries vary depending on experience, but these few highlight my particular issue, and that is that unless I want to move 150 miles south, I can expect to be payed significantly less in the yorkshire region than further south in the country, and if Im going to move I might as well move somewhere I actually want to go.
As far as experience goes, I already have around 6 years experience from my time in the Army and other jobs, but these days it seems everyone wants a degree hence my return to full time education, then after that I'll be looking to work for around 2 years before I even start the emigration process.
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Powertrain Engineer £40k - £45k
Mechanical Design Engineer circa £50k
Mechanical Design Engineer £30k - £40k + Benefits
Control Systems Engineer £30k - £40k
Mechatronics Engineer £27k - £39k
Obviously salaries vary depending on experience, but these few highlight my particular issue, and that is that unless I want to move 150 miles south, I can expect to be payed significantly less in the yorkshire region than further south in the country, and if Im going to move I might as well move somewhere I actually want to go.
As far as experience goes, I already have around 6 years experience from my time in the Army and other jobs, but these days it seems everyone wants a degree hence my return to full time education, then after that I'll be looking to work for around 2 years before I even start the emigration process.
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May 14th 2011 | 6:05 am
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Re: Positive Experiences.
no...you go right ahead and call me whatever you want, smart alec!
"...and there he was......standing atop the mountain...with brightness shining from beneath his uranus....."
only joking, mate! each to his own!
"...and there he was......standing atop the mountain...with brightness shining from beneath his uranus....."
only joking, mate! each to his own!
I think you must have tried really hard to see a "dig" in my post 
Maybe you won't have to try so hard with this one...
I was simply responding to your opinion that the OP was expecting unrealistically high wages with a slightly different viewpoint. No need to get so personal. It's nothing to do with being more "beautiful" (don't think I'm allowed to call you a plonker, am I...? Shame! )
Shock horror - I was employed in a company that paid its engineers more than your company does (all of them; male and female.) Ermm... so what?? Get over it or find another job.
Maybe you won't have to try so hard with this one... I was simply responding to your opinion that the OP was expecting unrealistically high wages with a slightly different viewpoint. No need to get so personal. It's nothing to do with being more "beautiful" (don't think I'm allowed to call you a plonker, am I...? Shame!
) Shock horror - I was employed in a company that paid its engineers more than your company does (all of them; male and female.) Ermm... so what?? Get over it or find another job.
May 14th 2011 | 11:03 am
#51
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Re: Positive Experiences.
When considering moving to another continent, never mind a new country its always best to look at all sides of the argument.
Obviously I have my own reasons why I think I would like to immigrate to another country, and in doing my research I have also taken time to read some of the posts from those returning to the UK after years away. Within those posts, I see a lot of justifiable negativity, about why its better to come back to the UK. These people have not found the life they were looking for, for one reason or another, and decided the best thing to do is to come back. Thats fine, different strokes for different folks. Everyone is entitled to lead their life how they see fit, and I certainly am not critical of anybody who changes their mind.
However, I would like you guys to share some of your positive experiences with me, from those who have just recently moved and discovered they love even more than they thought they would to those that have been there for years and wouldn't even dream of coming back.
Thanks
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Obviously I have my own reasons why I think I would like to immigrate to another country, and in doing my research I have also taken time to read some of the posts from those returning to the UK after years away. Within those posts, I see a lot of justifiable negativity, about why its better to come back to the UK. These people have not found the life they were looking for, for one reason or another, and decided the best thing to do is to come back. Thats fine, different strokes for different folks. Everyone is entitled to lead their life how they see fit, and I certainly am not critical of anybody who changes their mind.
However, I would like you guys to share some of your positive experiences with me, from those who have just recently moved and discovered they love even more than they thought they would to those that have been there for years and wouldn't even dream of coming back.
Thanks
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