Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
Aug 6th 2014, 2:26 am
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
Delta...you have a lot of ladies on your side....probably because to a certain extent we have all been in the same situation, give and take....your husband might be a bit of an armpit? There are a few of them around.
At times we just sometimes need to be supportive of one another. Life offers a curved ball every time you think all is going to plan...it's what you do with the curved ball that makes the difference
At times we just sometimes need to be supportive of one another. Life offers a curved ball every time you think all is going to plan...it's what you do with the curved ball that makes the difference
Aug 6th 2014, 4:01 am
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
I hate to bring this up why does he not want you there? Where does he stay when over in UK? Is he basically telling you, that you are better off staying in the Canada house and waiting for him for those 2 weeks? That it is a much better idea because he is working so hard and has no time for you when working while in Canada he can be with you 24/7? I think a surprise visit maybe in order! I do not want to state the obvious!
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Aug 6th 2014, 4:43 am
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
I had no real reason to leave. I should have said NO. Ladies, be aware of what you are agreeing to. Make sure you have a "get out of Dodge" clause in the contract. Agreeing to moving without a clear way to come back if it doesn't work is foolish.
Ask me how I know....I wish to God, I had never even heard of Canada.
*sigh*
Ask me how I know....I wish to God, I had never even heard of Canada.
*sigh*
Aug 6th 2014, 4:47 pm
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Aug 6th 2014, 5:23 pm
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Aug 6th 2014, 5:37 pm
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
Hes in the UK half the time, and you are in BC and wish you were in the UK?
I know I can be obtuse, but why not just go back and live in the UK... He will be there with you the same amount, and you will be where you want to be. If he lands a job full time in the UK even better, but if not you are no worse off. Seems to me he has had ample time and opportunity to address your concerns by now.
Why on earth bring NS into things, you will be rattling around again in a remote area with few visitors once again, and your son will still be far enough away that frequent visits seem unlikely. Hopefully the house sells, but dont move to NS for gods sake, not if hes working half the time in the UK, just move back! As for his concern about rent and mortgages, he needs to get over that if thats what is preventing a move back to the UK. Does he care about your well-being or not? If yes then he needs to put his hand in his pocket, and if not then you are best off without him.
I know I can be obtuse, but why not just go back and live in the UK... He will be there with you the same amount, and you will be where you want to be. If he lands a job full time in the UK even better, but if not you are no worse off. Seems to me he has had ample time and opportunity to address your concerns by now.
Why on earth bring NS into things, you will be rattling around again in a remote area with few visitors once again, and your son will still be far enough away that frequent visits seem unlikely. Hopefully the house sells, but dont move to NS for gods sake, not if hes working half the time in the UK, just move back! As for his concern about rent and mortgages, he needs to get over that if thats what is preventing a move back to the UK. Does he care about your well-being or not? If yes then he needs to put his hand in his pocket, and if not then you are best off without him.
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Aug 6th 2014, 6:09 pm
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
Hes in the UK half the time, and you are in BC and wish you were in the UK?
I know I can be obtuse, but why not just go back and live in the UK... He will be there with you the same amount, and you will be where you want to be. If he lands a job full time in the UK even better, but if not you are no worse off. Seems to me he has had ample time and opportunity to address your concerns by now.
Why on earth bring NS into things, you will be rattling around again in a remote area with few visitors once again, and your son will still be far enough away that frequent visits seem unlikely. Hopefully the house sells, but dont move to NS for gods sake, not if hes working half the time in the UK, just move back! As for his concern about rent and mortgages, he needs to get over that if thats what is preventing a move back to the UK. Does he care about your well-being or not? If yes then he needs to put his hand in his pocket, and if not then you are best off without him.
I know I can be obtuse, but why not just go back and live in the UK... He will be there with you the same amount, and you will be where you want to be. If he lands a job full time in the UK even better, but if not you are no worse off. Seems to me he has had ample time and opportunity to address your concerns by now.
Why on earth bring NS into things, you will be rattling around again in a remote area with few visitors once again, and your son will still be far enough away that frequent visits seem unlikely. Hopefully the house sells, but dont move to NS for gods sake, not if hes working half the time in the UK, just move back! As for his concern about rent and mortgages, he needs to get over that if thats what is preventing a move back to the UK. Does he care about your well-being or not? If yes then he needs to put his hand in his pocket, and if not then you are best off without him.
Aug 6th 2014, 6:12 pm
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
See ops previous post .. Husband refuses to rent !
Aug 6th 2014, 6:21 pm
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
Yeah I know... basically if he won't budge on a rental then they have no choice but to return to the UK when the house in BC is sold. Too much of a gamble to buy another house in NS... Our house in the sticks in NS has been for sale since Xmas and we have had one viewing...the realtor says nothing is selling other than the grubby cottages that people can pick up for pocket change!
Aug 6th 2014, 6:25 pm
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
Yeah I know... basically if he won't budge on a rental then they have no choice but to return to the UK when the house in BC is sold. Too much of a gamble to buy another house in NS... Our house in the sticks in NS has been for sale since Xmas and we have had one viewing...the realtor says nothing is selling other than the grubby cottages that people can pick up for pocket change!
Aug 6th 2014, 6:29 pm
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
It's easy for us to sit back and judge and make suggestions that he is living a double life and so on but we're not living their lives and we are only outsiders looking in...
Aug 6th 2014, 6:33 pm
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
Well considering he's been doing all the taking maybe it's about time he gave and she took??? Can't be all in his favour!
It's easy for us to sit back and judge and make suggestions that he is living a double life and so on but we're not living their lives and we are only outsiders looking in...
It's easy for us to sit back and judge and make suggestions that he is living a double life and so on but we're not living their lives and we are only outsiders looking in...
Aug 6th 2014, 7:12 pm
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
Hes in the UK half the time, and you are in BC and wish you were in the UK?
I know I can be obtuse, but why not just go back and live in the UK... He will be there with you the same amount, and you will be where you want to be. If he lands a job full time in the UK even better, but if not you are no worse off. Seems to me he has had ample time and opportunity to address your concerns by now.
Why on earth bring NS into things, you will be rattling around again in a remote area with few visitors once again, and your son will still be far enough away that frequent visits seem unlikely. Hopefully the house sells, but dont move to NS for gods sake, not if hes working half the time in the UK, just move back! As for his concern about rent and mortgages, he needs to get over that if thats what is preventing a move back to the UK. Does he care about your well-being or not? If yes then he needs to put his hand in his pocket, and if not then you are best off without him.
I know I can be obtuse, but why not just go back and live in the UK... He will be there with you the same amount, and you will be where you want to be. If he lands a job full time in the UK even better, but if not you are no worse off. Seems to me he has had ample time and opportunity to address your concerns by now.
Why on earth bring NS into things, you will be rattling around again in a remote area with few visitors once again, and your son will still be far enough away that frequent visits seem unlikely. Hopefully the house sells, but dont move to NS for gods sake, not if hes working half the time in the UK, just move back! As for his concern about rent and mortgages, he needs to get over that if thats what is preventing a move back to the UK. Does he care about your well-being or not? If yes then he needs to put his hand in his pocket, and if not then you are best off without him.
totally agree. That way they can keep the house in BC and he can travel there during his weeks off work.
Aug 6th 2014, 8:34 pm
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Re: Nova Scotia places similar to BC Gulf Islands but with people
I'd say dump him and move on.