Hi my name is Janine and I am moving to Ontario in 4 weeks to start a new life with my husband and 2 girls.I am up and down with my emotions at the moment,one minute excited the next low because I am leaving my parents.Anyone out there who can help with these feelings and has been through or going through this ????

Hi Janine and family,

Welcome to BE and best wishes with the move across to Ontario.

Your feelings re leaving your parents are entirely normal. I had the same with my Mum and Jan with her Mum and Dad (who, incidentally, arrive here tomorrow for their second visit since we moved 11 months ago!...IF a parental visit is a possibility in your case, that can really help). We get on the phone frequently to our families, use instant messaging with those of them familiar with the technology, webcams, Facebook and our blog (link below) - anything that helps our families to connect with and feel part of what we are doing here. It does help. It would be a lie to say that you still don't get periods where you miss folk back home and it can make you quite upset at times - but it's all part of the journey. We wouldn't give up this fantastic life experience to ameliorate occasional days when the absence gets you down...and our families would batter us senseless if we did!

Hope it goes great for you.

Kind regards,

Eamonn & Janet.

Thank you ,your advice does make me feel better!!I know we are doing the right thing for the family and once we arrive it will be easier.
Janine

Hi Janine,

You are definately not alone, like you I emigrated with my husband and 2 children and whilst I was so excited (& apprehensive) in the last few weeks before we left, I was also very scared of the unknown. That was without the feeling of guilt that I was taking the grandchildren away from our respective parents. The first few weeks were up and down for me, however, I was very lucky that our boys settled immediately. It is very natural to go through every emotion and I can truly say having been here almost 3 years, this is home and we do not regret the move, it was worth all the pain! Good luck and enjoy your last few weeks of UK life! Whereabouts are you off to once you land?

Helen

Hi Helen,thanks for the advice.You had the same feelings I have now especially leaving my parents and taking their only grandchildren away.It is hard to do and I seem fine until I actually see my parents!! My husband leaves next Saturday and then I move in with my parents for 3 weeks till we go on the 24th October.We are moving to Oakville Ontario which I have heard is a lovely place to live,i know there will be plenty of opportunities for the girls out there.
Janine

If its any help, i loved oakville when we were out there, really reminded me of our local town ilkley, beautiful! Lovely shops along the high street etc. Lots of brits there also!
we're hopefully moving out next spring, and i go through those range of emotions everyday! I have my parents 5 mins away and two sisters in the same village! To add to that they both have kids the same age as mine, 6 3 and 2!! But i am determined to go through with the move,as i know ultimately it will be fantastic and the best for us as a family! Good luck!

Thank you,i feel so much better knowing I am not the only one out there going through this !! I have to look forward now and think positively !Its a wonderful opportunity that most people wont be able to have .My girls are 14 and 10 and are quite excited about the move! Best of Luck with yours

Hi Janine,

PM me if you like, I am not a million miles from Oakville when you arrive. Once you get sorted in your accommodation and get over the running around in the first few weeks, we can chat!
Happy packing, it'll be worth it!
Helen

Hi Helen,Thanks for that I will be in touch when we arrive in Canada,i think I will need a good chat !! The removal people are here now for the next three days,Scary !!!.
The cat has to fly out on Monday and then we are staying with parents till we leave.
Janine

Hi Janine,

Look forward to hearing from you when you arrive! What day do you fly out on? Hope everything is in place and I presume your husband will be ready for leaving by the time you pick this up. Good luck with everything and despite all you are going through, its absolutely wonderful here!!! Speak soon and PM me when you get settled here!

Take care
Helen

Hi Janine
Good luck with your move and welcome in advance to Oakville, we have been here for just over a year and just love it, I have a 13 year old daughter and older sons who after a few initial wobbles have made lots of new friends and settled in nicely.
Another offer for a chat once you are settled send me a PM.
Dawn

Hi Helen,
Hubby arrived in Toronto last night and got lost driving back to Oakville,ended up on the wrong road,East instead of West I think !!! Anyway I got a phone call informing me of this at 4 in the morning but it was good to hear he had arrived safely.We fly out 24th October so hopefully he will know his way round by then,I know he has found Walmart!!
Janine

Hi Dawn,Thanks for your message,I am glad you have happily settled in Oakville.My husband arrived last night and is finding his way round today,he is surprised how big it is! The cat arrives from Manchester tomorrow and then he starts work on Tuesday!!
It was nice to know your children have settled fairly quickly as my eldest daughter is getting nervous about high school with questions like Willl I fit in,Will I make any friends etc etc !
Speak to you soon
Janine

Hiya, everyone on this forum has gone through what your going through, and it is hard, but well worth it
Im leaving in 4 weeks, we made the move last year but came back when our oldest son was totaly homesick and depressed
He has moved into a place with his girlfriend now and we were left thinking....why did we come back???
So, we,re away again on the 26th October, and its no easier the second time round.One minute im excited, the next i have doubts and then i spend the day with my sister and her kids and get really upset
I just know its all going to be worth it though, for the 6 months we were there, i loved how friendly people were and how happy my 2 younger kids were.
We,re going to Calgary, so i cant comment on Ontario, but any help i can offer in the next few weeks feel free to pm me
Mandi xx

Hi there, I know exactly how you feel we are going to Nova Scotia on the 21st of October, one day we are sooo excited and the next full of dread, this apparently is totally normal and all part of the process, you will be absolutly fine the best advice I can give you is just stay focused on why you are doing what you are doing and it will all work out! We are under no illusions that it's going to be easy, but if you don't try how will you ever know?? All the best with your plans and keep going!!!
Bella