Manners
Oct 28th 2006 | 5:03 am
#1
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Manners
Here's a hint that some people on this forum do not appear to know.
You're more likely to win friends and influence people if you thank them when they've helped you. If someone on this forum responds to your question today and you thank them for that response, they're more likely to respond to a question that you may have next week or next month. If you don't actually thank them, but provide some hint that you've even just seen their response before you fire off another question, it would be better than nothing.
I don't get paid for providing information on this forum. So why do I do it? Sometimes I remember what it was like when I was going through my own international relocations, and I feel sympathy for others is in the same boat. Sometimes the forum provides a diversion when I'm feeling bored. But a common thread that runs through my forum activity is that I do like to get my ego stroked by being told that the information I have provided is useful and appreciated.
Is it childish of me to want to be acknowledged? Yes, of course it is. But you'd better get used to my childishness, because the person who interviews you for a job, the school board official with whom your discuss the grade that would be best suited to your child, the neighbour who warns you that you'll need to shut off and drain your exterior taps before winter, etc., all will be just as childish as I am. That is, you'll also make more headway with all of them if you thank them.
I do not view this as a trivial piece of information to be posted in the Maple Leaf forum. It's actually part of your survival took kit in Canada. You have a much better chance of making a go of it in Canada if you butter people up. Always write a thank you letter after an interview. Even if a person only gives you a referral to another person who may be useful in your job search, get back to the person who gave you the tip, thank them, and if possible tell them how you used their tip.
You're more likely to win friends and influence people if you thank them when they've helped you. If someone on this forum responds to your question today and you thank them for that response, they're more likely to respond to a question that you may have next week or next month. If you don't actually thank them, but provide some hint that you've even just seen their response before you fire off another question, it would be better than nothing.
I don't get paid for providing information on this forum. So why do I do it? Sometimes I remember what it was like when I was going through my own international relocations, and I feel sympathy for others is in the same boat. Sometimes the forum provides a diversion when I'm feeling bored. But a common thread that runs through my forum activity is that I do like to get my ego stroked by being told that the information I have provided is useful and appreciated.
Is it childish of me to want to be acknowledged? Yes, of course it is. But you'd better get used to my childishness, because the person who interviews you for a job, the school board official with whom your discuss the grade that would be best suited to your child, the neighbour who warns you that you'll need to shut off and drain your exterior taps before winter, etc., all will be just as childish as I am. That is, you'll also make more headway with all of them if you thank them.
I do not view this as a trivial piece of information to be posted in the Maple Leaf forum. It's actually part of your survival took kit in Canada. You have a much better chance of making a go of it in Canada if you butter people up. Always write a thank you letter after an interview. Even if a person only gives you a referral to another person who may be useful in your job search, get back to the person who gave you the tip, thank them, and if possible tell them how you used their tip.
Oct 28th 2006 | 5:11 am
#2
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From: Lethbridge AB
Re: Manners
Hi Judy
Never a truer wors spoke and totally agree with your thread.
It's not an excuse but I think that most of us in the UK are so consumed with actually getting there and that is why we forget to say "Thank you".
I would like to say "Thank you" to every single member - because you know these members on here are THE biggest support for us all
Gaynor
Never a truer wors spoke and totally agree with your thread.
It's not an excuse but I think that most of us in the UK are so consumed with actually getting there and that is why we forget to say "Thank you".
I would like to say "Thank you" to every single member - because you know these members on here are THE biggest support for us all
Gaynor
Oct 28th 2006 | 5:13 am
#3
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From: Prince George
Re: Manners
Thank you for this tip! 
Seriously, it is probably the best tip on here!
It is actually my life philosophy to be courteous and spread Karma (although I'm not religious)!
in financial terms good manners cost nothing but return so much more!
Thanks again and Karma sent!
Kenny
Seriously, it is probably the best tip on here!
It is actually my life philosophy to be courteous and spread Karma (although I'm not religious)!
in financial terms good manners cost nothing but return so much more!
Thanks again and Karma sent!
Kenny
Oct 28th 2006 | 5:17 am
#4
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Joined: Jan 2004
Posts: 5,069
From: Cascadian Autonomous Elysian Region
Re: Manners
Like Judy said ^^^
Read the very small print - those of us who partake on this nonsensical rambling ranting website are not the snake oil salesmen. We have no shiny suits, no freshly pomaded hair, there's no hang-wringing from us, hoping for a deal and a commission - we have done it, moved it, paid for it, screwed it up, suffered it, waited for it, lived it and seen it. We've worried about it, panicked about it, fussed over it, said to hell with it. We've succeeded at it, achieved it, and wondered how we managed it, but ultimately, those that done it, are it.
We all offer a free service, there's no warranty with it.
Rich.
Read the very small print - those of us who partake on this nonsensical rambling ranting website are not the snake oil salesmen. We have no shiny suits, no freshly pomaded hair, there's no hang-wringing from us, hoping for a deal and a commission - we have done it, moved it, paid for it, screwed it up, suffered it, waited for it, lived it and seen it. We've worried about it, panicked about it, fussed over it, said to hell with it. We've succeeded at it, achieved it, and wondered how we managed it, but ultimately, those that done it, are it.
We all offer a free service, there's no warranty with it.
Rich.
Oct 28th 2006 | 5:28 am
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Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 15,883
Re: Manners
Originally Posted by Rich_007
Like Judy said ^^^
Read the very small print - those of us who partake on this nonsensical rambling ranting website are not the snake oil salesmen. We have no shiny suits, no freshly pomaded hair, there's no hang-wringing from us, hoping for a deal and a commission - we have done it, moved it, paid for it, screwed it up, suffered it, waited for it, lived it and seen it. We've worried about it, panicked about it, fussed over it, said to hell with it. We've succeeded at it, achieved it, and wondered how we managed it, but ultimately, those that done it, are it.
We all offer a free service, there's no warranty with it.
Rich.
Read the very small print - those of us who partake on this nonsensical rambling ranting website are not the snake oil salesmen. We have no shiny suits, no freshly pomaded hair, there's no hang-wringing from us, hoping for a deal and a commission - we have done it, moved it, paid for it, screwed it up, suffered it, waited for it, lived it and seen it. We've worried about it, panicked about it, fussed over it, said to hell with it. We've succeeded at it, achieved it, and wondered how we managed it, but ultimately, those that done it, are it.
We all offer a free service, there's no warranty with it.
Rich.
Thanks Judy for starting this thread.
Oct 28th 2006 | 5:40 am
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From: Looe, Cornwall
Re: Manners
Originally Posted by Judy in Calgary
Here's a hint that some people on this forum do not appear to know.
You're more likely to win friends and influence people if you thank them when they've helped you. If someone on this forum responds to your question today and you thank them for that response, they're more likely to respond to a question that you may have next week or next month. If you don't actually thank them, but provide some hint that you've even just seen their response before you fire off another question, it would be better than nothing.
I don't get paid for providing information on this forum. So why do I do it? Sometimes I remember what it was like when I was going through my own international relocations, and I feel sympathy for others is in the same boat. Sometimes the forum provides a diversion when I'm feeling bored. But a common thread that runs through my forum activity is that I do like to get my ego stroked by being told that the information I have provided is useful and appreciated.
Is it childish of me to want to be acknowledged? Yes, of course it is. But you'd better get used to my childishness, because the person who interviews you for a job, the school board official with whom your discuss the grade that would be best suited to your child, the neighbour who warns you that you'll need to shut off and drain your exterior taps before winter, etc., all will be just as childish as I am. That is, you'll also make more headway with all of them if you thank them.
I do not view this as a trivial piece of information to be posted in the Maple Leaf forum. It's actually part of your survival took kit in Canada. You have a much better chance of making a go of it in Canada if you butter people up. Always write a thank you letter after an interview. Even if a person only gives you a referral to another person who may be useful in your job search, get back to the person who gave you the tip, thank them, and if possible tell them how you used their tip.
You're more likely to win friends and influence people if you thank them when they've helped you. If someone on this forum responds to your question today and you thank them for that response, they're more likely to respond to a question that you may have next week or next month. If you don't actually thank them, but provide some hint that you've even just seen their response before you fire off another question, it would be better than nothing.
I don't get paid for providing information on this forum. So why do I do it? Sometimes I remember what it was like when I was going through my own international relocations, and I feel sympathy for others is in the same boat. Sometimes the forum provides a diversion when I'm feeling bored. But a common thread that runs through my forum activity is that I do like to get my ego stroked by being told that the information I have provided is useful and appreciated.
Is it childish of me to want to be acknowledged? Yes, of course it is. But you'd better get used to my childishness, because the person who interviews you for a job, the school board official with whom your discuss the grade that would be best suited to your child, the neighbour who warns you that you'll need to shut off and drain your exterior taps before winter, etc., all will be just as childish as I am. That is, you'll also make more headway with all of them if you thank them.
I do not view this as a trivial piece of information to be posted in the Maple Leaf forum. It's actually part of your survival took kit in Canada. You have a much better chance of making a go of it in Canada if you butter people up. Always write a thank you letter after an interview. Even if a person only gives you a referral to another person who may be useful in your job search, get back to the person who gave you the tip, thank them, and if possible tell them how you used their tip.
Talk to Rich, how did he succeed and get a good salary in a difficult environment?
Many people forget about manners. Some of the Expats are awful, self centered and well British, rude arrogant and sheep like - follow the pack!
Oct 28th 2006 | 6:01 am
#7
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From: BC
Re: Manners
Originally Posted by Judy in Calgary
Here's a hint that some people on this forum do not appear to know.
You're more likely to win friends and influence people if you thank them when they've helped you. If someone on this forum responds to your question today and you thank them for that response, they're more likely to respond to a question that you may have next week or next month. If you don't actually thank them, but provide some hint that you've even just seen their response before you fire off another question, it would be better than nothing.
I don't get paid for providing information on this forum. So why do I do it? Sometimes I remember what it was like when I was going through my own international relocations, and I feel sympathy for others is in the same boat. Sometimes the forum provides a diversion when I'm feeling bored. But a common thread that runs through my forum activity is that I do like to get my ego stroked by being told that the information I have provided is useful and appreciated.
Is it childish of me to want to be acknowledged? Yes, of course it is. But you'd better get used to my childishness, because the person who interviews you for a job, the school board official with whom your discuss the grade that would be best suited to your child, the neighbour who warns you that you'll need to shut off and drain your exterior taps before winter, etc., all will be just as childish as I am. That is, you'll also make more headway with all of them if you thank them.
I do not view this as a trivial piece of information to be posted in the Maple Leaf forum. It's actually part of your survival took kit in Canada. You have a much better chance of making a go of it in Canada if you butter people up. Always write a thank you letter after an interview. Even if a person only gives you a referral to another person who may be useful in your job search, get back to the person who gave you the tip, thank them, and if possible tell them how you used their tip.
You're more likely to win friends and influence people if you thank them when they've helped you. If someone on this forum responds to your question today and you thank them for that response, they're more likely to respond to a question that you may have next week or next month. If you don't actually thank them, but provide some hint that you've even just seen their response before you fire off another question, it would be better than nothing.
I don't get paid for providing information on this forum. So why do I do it? Sometimes I remember what it was like when I was going through my own international relocations, and I feel sympathy for others is in the same boat. Sometimes the forum provides a diversion when I'm feeling bored. But a common thread that runs through my forum activity is that I do like to get my ego stroked by being told that the information I have provided is useful and appreciated.
Is it childish of me to want to be acknowledged? Yes, of course it is. But you'd better get used to my childishness, because the person who interviews you for a job, the school board official with whom your discuss the grade that would be best suited to your child, the neighbour who warns you that you'll need to shut off and drain your exterior taps before winter, etc., all will be just as childish as I am. That is, you'll also make more headway with all of them if you thank them.
I do not view this as a trivial piece of information to be posted in the Maple Leaf forum. It's actually part of your survival took kit in Canada. You have a much better chance of making a go of it in Canada if you butter people up. Always write a thank you letter after an interview. Even if a person only gives you a referral to another person who may be useful in your job search, get back to the person who gave you the tip, thank them, and if possible tell them how you used their tip.
gratitude. Thanks for bring this up.
Yoong
Oct 28th 2006 | 6:53 am
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Posts: 959
Re: Manners
Originally Posted by Yoong
I agree with you Judy,it is a win win situation to have an attitude of
gratitude. Thanks for bring this up.
Yoong
gratitude. Thanks for bring this up.
Yoong
Other people I know don't have quite the sense to know this and life is much harder and often more expensive for them!
Oct 28th 2006 | 9:26 am
#9
Kelly
Joined: Jan 2006
Posts: 613
From: Oro-Medonte, Ontario
Re: Manners
Totally agree!!!
Manners cost nothing.
Just checked my last thread to see if I've thanked everyone, was panicking a bit then but hey I had
This site has proved to be helpful, informative, interesting and funny, you've all made the moving experience far easier.
Thanks again to all of you!!!!!!
Kelly
Manners cost nothing.
Just checked my last thread to see if I've thanked everyone, was panicking a bit then but hey I had
This site has proved to be helpful, informative, interesting and funny, you've all made the moving experience far easier.
Thanks again to all of you!!!!!!
Kelly
Oct 28th 2006 | 11:37 am
#10
Forum Regular
Joined: Feb 2004
Posts: 131
From: Halifax, NS
Re: Manners
So true...and it would seem such common sense, except over the years I have realised there is no such thing as "common" sense. As said so many times, you get back what you give. Heres to continuing help and support through this forum, and appreciation for it's value and the time people take to share their experience.
Deborah
Deborah
Oct 28th 2006 | 12:27 pm
#11
little snowy owl
Joined: Nov 2004
Posts: 6,921
Re: Manners
Thank you Judy!
Oct 29th 2006 | 2:46 am
#12
Settled.
Joined: Jul 2006
Posts: 3,286
From: St. Albert. AB.
Re: Manners
Originally Posted by Judy in Calgary
Here's a hint that some people on this forum do not appear to know.
You're more likely to win friends and influence people if you thank them when they've helped you. If someone on this forum responds to your question today and you thank them for that response, they're more likely to respond to a question that you may have next week or next month. If you don't actually thank them, but provide some hint that you've even just seen their response before you fire off another question, it would be better than nothing.
I don't get paid for providing information on this forum. So why do I do it? Sometimes I remember what it was like when I was going through my own international relocations, and I feel sympathy for others is in the same boat. Sometimes the forum provides a diversion when I'm feeling bored. But a common thread that runs through my forum activity is that I do like to get my ego stroked by being told that the information I have provided is useful and appreciated.
Is it childish of me to want to be acknowledged? Yes, of course it is. But you'd better get used to my childishness, because the person who interviews you for a job, the school board official with whom your discuss the grade that would be best suited to your child, the neighbour who warns you that you'll need to shut off and drain your exterior taps before winter, etc., all will be just as childish as I am. That is, you'll also make more headway with all of them if you thank them.
I do not view this as a trivial piece of information to be posted in the Maple Leaf forum. It's actually part of your survival took kit in Canada. You have a much better chance of making a go of it in Canada if you butter people up. Always write a thank you letter after an interview. Even if a person only gives you a referral to another person who may be useful in your job search, get back to the person who gave you the tip, thank them, and if possible tell them how you used their tip.
You're more likely to win friends and influence people if you thank them when they've helped you. If someone on this forum responds to your question today and you thank them for that response, they're more likely to respond to a question that you may have next week or next month. If you don't actually thank them, but provide some hint that you've even just seen their response before you fire off another question, it would be better than nothing.
I don't get paid for providing information on this forum. So why do I do it? Sometimes I remember what it was like when I was going through my own international relocations, and I feel sympathy for others is in the same boat. Sometimes the forum provides a diversion when I'm feeling bored. But a common thread that runs through my forum activity is that I do like to get my ego stroked by being told that the information I have provided is useful and appreciated.
Is it childish of me to want to be acknowledged? Yes, of course it is. But you'd better get used to my childishness, because the person who interviews you for a job, the school board official with whom your discuss the grade that would be best suited to your child, the neighbour who warns you that you'll need to shut off and drain your exterior taps before winter, etc., all will be just as childish as I am. That is, you'll also make more headway with all of them if you thank them.
I do not view this as a trivial piece of information to be posted in the Maple Leaf forum. It's actually part of your survival took kit in Canada. You have a much better chance of making a go of it in Canada if you butter people up. Always write a thank you letter after an interview. Even if a person only gives you a referral to another person who may be useful in your job search, get back to the person who gave you the tip, thank them, and if possible tell them how you used their tip.
Oct 29th 2006 | 3:50 am
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Re: Manners
Indeed it is a sad commentary on society that someone, this time Judy, has had to state the obvious. And indeed refreshing to see all those who have thanked her for what really amounts to basically dishing out common sense advice.
Whatever happened to the days when ALL office employees and particularly management would say good morning and good night? I find it has becomes more and more rare in this impersonal selfish world.
And what of those who would think nothing of interrupting an ongoing conversation?
Why is it that one has to read notices on buses requesting (not even demanding) that seats in the front be offered (not even reserved) for the elderly, the infirm, the pregnant?
Why is it that I sometimes have to reprimand those who jump the queue usually when it involves getting on a bus?
Impoliteness is not confined to any age group. So called adults, even seniors, are guilty.
And the cell phone has introduced even lower standards of civility. Having someone in very loud voice on a cellphone (they always yell, is this exhibitionism?) when sitting behind you on a bus is something I will never ever tolerate. When I put an instant stop to it I am not soft spoken either.
Standards of civility are pathetic. I have come to expect rudeness and lack of consideration.
Whatever happened to the days when ALL office employees and particularly management would say good morning and good night? I find it has becomes more and more rare in this impersonal selfish world.
And what of those who would think nothing of interrupting an ongoing conversation?
Why is it that one has to read notices on buses requesting (not even demanding) that seats in the front be offered (not even reserved) for the elderly, the infirm, the pregnant?
Why is it that I sometimes have to reprimand those who jump the queue usually when it involves getting on a bus?
Impoliteness is not confined to any age group. So called adults, even seniors, are guilty.
And the cell phone has introduced even lower standards of civility. Having someone in very loud voice on a cellphone (they always yell, is this exhibitionism?) when sitting behind you on a bus is something I will never ever tolerate. When I put an instant stop to it I am not soft spoken either.
Standards of civility are pathetic. I have come to expect rudeness and lack of consideration.
Last edited by montreal mike; Oct 29th 2006 at 3:54 am.
