Hi all,
I've been a regular reader on here for a log time now (and contributed here and there too )
I've got visa in hand, everything ready to go, a place to stay (with my brother and his family) and I've been applying for jobs here and there but nothing has come up yet.

The trouble, every time I think about making the move, I'm filled with fear and dread. Is this something that's normal or am I having a serious attack of 'second thoughts'?

I like where I work here and the people I work with are great so having to resign will be one of the hardest things to do, and I think i fear ending up in a job that I don't like.
Its been a few years since I first applied and the exciting feeling has seemed to go away as its always been on my mind.
I just want to know if you all experienced these kinds of feeling and if its a natural thing to go through or if its just me.


Thanks all
Pinzo

You didn't receive the memo that you're not allowed to change your mind?

Just kidding.

For what it's worth, it's very common for people to when the time comes.

Why did you want to move to Canada in the first place? Identifying that may help you to sort out whether or not it still feels worthwhile.
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I think you are just suffering a bit of anxiety, hopefully it will pass. I am sure you will love it here. You will be so absorbed in learning the new culture etc, you wont have time for recriminations. You have done all the hard work, now it's time to get up and go!

It takes an enormous amount of energy to climb out of your rut .... especially if it's quite a comfortable rut. It's all fine and well tootling along the groove and dreaming of leaping into the unknown, but when it comes to it, it takes guts!

Of course it's normal to wonder what the **** you're doing! Go for it!

Hi Judy,
Thanks for replying, you always seem to know the right thing to say.

And no, I didn't get that memo! Damn CIC!

I guess the reason I applied in the first place was because I lived there for nearly 2 years and now my brother and his wife are living in Ontario and I wanted to be closer to them, especially now that my nephew is 18 months old and they have another on the way. I'm single and 30 and wanted to start afresh, but after waiting 4 years overall, I hadn't realised how I'd got used to things here again and now I'm finding it hard to uproot and move again after making some very close friends here.

Its nice to know that what i'm feeling is quite natural.

Thanks x

Hi Pinzo
All quite normal....have a look at this thread and you'll see you're not alone..........

http://britishexpats.com/forum/showt...+you+scared%3F

Good luck

Hi Pinzo

Just looked at your timeline...I take it you've already landed?!

Your feelings are totally natural but I'm sure that once you're there everything will fall into place and you'll enjoy being around your family and find a great new job, enjoy!

Roanin, Molwenna, Oldbag, Adele and Judy,
All thank you for keeping me sane! Its nice to know that what I'm feeling is sort of 'normal'. I guess I just have to do what I said in the thread title.....jump in with both feet and just DO IT!

Oldbag, thanks for the link you sent
Adele - yes I have landed already, I did it last March when I was visiting for a week, so I have triggered my visa.

Again, everyone thank you very much and I hope there are lots of you out there who are not going through the feelings I am experiencing but enjoying the rollercoaster ride to emigrate.
I'll keep you posted on my progression and hopefully soon i'll be posting a thread telling you i'm in Canada already.

Just remember - if you don't try it, you'll always wonder "What if?"
Good luck

Hey Pinzo

Dont worry hun you are as all of the previous posters have said totally normal ! Apart from uprooting and moving from everything that you have ever known or lived around - the point of me saying that part is so that you sit back and realise that it is normal to be nervous.

I had so many collywobbles over our move - even whilst I was on my own waiting for the house to sell and OH already being in Canada - and probably had these feeling until the day before I came out here.

Do not let it put you off for sure once you have settled etc it will be by far the best experience that you have ever had.

Good Luck and get out and over here as quick as possible

Gaynor
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