Originally Posted by bcmama (Post 11009601)

We have been here 6mths and in the last 3-4 weeks our daughter has been really quiet and tearful a lot of the time. She's a little sensitive and quite shy normally, so we aren't completely stunned by this, but just feel quite helpless as to what to do about it :(

Everything has been going really well for her and until about a month ago she showed no signs of homesickness at all. She's involved in plenty of sports she enjoys, isn't finding school work difficult and has lots of friends, so in that respect things are similar to home.

We've tried upping the playdates and have spoiled her a little bit, but none of that has worked, she just seems pretty low. She says she likes living here but misses everything - house, pet, friends, even her old teacher who she didn't like!

We're still renting here and on the one hand I think buying a place and getting a family pet will probably help her, but I'm not sure I feel ready to make that commitment to being here just yet.

The school suggested she sees the school counsellor but I think that might make it more of an issue? Someone wave a magic wand please......

Originally Posted by MillieF (Post 11011008)

Our son was 11 when we moved here last year, and he is 'doing' well in terms of 'achievements' with regard to school etc., but he still hasn't really made any close friends. He has sometimes gone through very quiet phases, and I have worried, the problem is that I think it just really takes time and nothing is going to change that. I did explain that sometimes I do feel desperately lonely and sad and how very much I miss my friend, and how I know my feelings will change with time, so he knows he isn't feeling sad alone. He seems happy and confident now 16 months on...no firm friends, but very independent.

Have you had a word with her teacher. I did when I was worried and she was most reassuring, she kept her eye on him and got him mixing with more kids. She told me that it's perfectly natural...the hard bit is watching your kid experience it...very best of luck:fingerscrossed:

Originally Posted by Oink (Post 11011012)

Especially when you know you've caused it. :(

Originally Posted by Oink (Post 11011012)

Especially when you know you've caused it. :(

Originally Posted by MillieF (Post 11011182)

Oh gee, thanks for that bit! That was the bloody enormous Elephant that we wern't looking at!

Originally Posted by bcmama (Post 11011222)

I do feel completely to blame, but thanks for the reminder :p

Originally Posted by Sally Redux (Post 11011238)

It's even worse when you feel the same way as your kid.

Originally Posted by Oink (Post 11011229)

Sorry guys, I didn't quite mean it to sound so harsh I just felt bad for you as that realization probably makes it worse. :(

Originally Posted by MillieF (Post 11011250)

I think we should have a system where we should be able to gather together the people who make us feel bad and publicly beat them...this sounds like a jolly good idea? Await your time and place :eek:

Originally Posted by Oink (Post 11011229)

Sorry guys, I didn't quite mean it to sound so harsh I just felt bad for you as that realization probably makes it worse. :(

Originally Posted by bcmama (Post 11011264)

This has got to be a first ;)

Originally Posted by J-A-UK (Post 11014072)

I noted from the original post the word "HOME" when referring to where you used to live........

Surely 'home' is now in Canada - But how does Mum and Dad feel about their new home, or is it not home

Have you not committed to this new place to call home? If you have not then your family will not either.

Bull by the horns.... Make it happen!

Good luck and don't let then little one rule your decisions "mum knows best"

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