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Re: Finally made a decision
Originally Posted by caleo
(Post 9256642)
I am sorry to hear things have not worked out for you, but you are doing what is best for you and your family. I read your other post about this and really felt for you - and it made me realise what a difficult decision my 14 year old daughter is in! We are still in the UK and planning on moving later this year - although after much debate and discussion, our daughter wants to finish year 11 and then she will emigrate with us, so we have delayed till next year.
Reading about your daughters friends discussing proms etc, and I realised that it could be us if we went earlier!! I know that it is going to be hard for her whatever age she moves, I am hoping that by her effectively "finishing" school here, it will make it easier as many of her friends will be moving on at that time. Good luck with your move back home. I think you are making the right decision to let her finish her year 11 because then if you do ever go back she will always have her gcses. |
Re: Finally made a decision
It takes a lot of courage to move to the other side of the world and even more to admit it's not for you :o
I wish you all the best for your move back home and also for the future :) |
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Our timelines are almost identical to yours and orginally i wanted to go to Windsor..Difference i didnt try to sell my house and landed back in April 2008.
Perhaps things might have been different had you landed back then when your children were younger? Still if its not working your right to move back..sometimes you dont realise what you have got until its gone so i dont hold with the give it a year or 2 scenario..lifes too short. |
Re: Finally made a decision
Thanks again everyone for your replys, I am feeling so much more relaxed now I know we are going back. :)
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Best of luck to you, and you are right, no more what if's in the future.
Me and my family have been here for almost 7months, for most of my life I have wanted to settle in Canada but after living here for only a short time and some tough decision making, unhappy in job and other personal reasons, enough is enough and we too are planning our return to the UK. It either works or it doesn't. I certainly don't dislike Canada, but it just doesn't seem to be our time to be settling in another Country. |
Re: Finally made a decision
Originally Posted by matt_allen1
(Post 9257314)
Best of luck to you, and you are right, no more what if's in the future.
Me and my family have been here for almost 7months, for most of my life I have wanted to settle in Canada but after living here for only a short time and some tough decision making, unhappy in job and other personal reasons, enough is enough and we too are planning our return to the UK. It either works or it doesn't. I certainly don't dislike Canada, but it just doesn't seem to be our time to be settling in another Country. |
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Some of the advice here echos other forums in other countries, in that x amount of time should be given before making a decision to leave. This can vary from one to six years.
And given peoples resistance to change, there is definite validity in that. But...acknowledgement should also be given to gut instinct. My husband and I arrived in our chosen country separately, and both knew within the first few weeks, without question, that it did not feel 'right'. But we accepted the advice of other immigrants and bought a house to encourage feelings of belonging, started work, made friends, explored both islands on a campervan holiday, and waited......and tried... and waited...and tried.... Almost three years later we are desperate to sell in order to leave. Our one regret is the fact we chose to ignore our initial gut feeling. There is validity in 'the longer you stay, the harder it is to leave' as financial, emotional and psychological factors do impact on your actual ability to leave. We had a week's holiday in Oz last year, and within hours of arriving, felt as if we had been given a drink of water after months of living in a desert. We just knew Oz was 'right' for us. Unfortunately, the heat is the reason we cannot live there, even temporarily. So to everyone heading back after less than a year, if you know without question the country you are living is a wrong 'fit', it is easier to leave sooner rather than later. If you are unsure, take time to re-evaluate your situation in case you are in a settling in period. And I guess we will all need to have a brief but ready answer for everyone in the UK who thinks our return must be due to a lack of mental stability :D Good luck to all. :) |
Re: Finally made a decision
Originally Posted by The Davenports
(Post 9257246)
Thanks again everyone for your replys, I am feeling so much more relaxed now I know we are going back. :)
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Thanks again everyone, I just hope this next 6 weeks goes quick so that we can get back to our daughter and get on with the rest of our lives. :)
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Re: Finally made a decision
Originally Posted by The Davenports
(Post 9255452)
We have made the decision to go back to the UK, I know some will say we didn't give it long enough but I know where I want to be and have realised it's not Canada.
We are heading back at the beginning of May so I am now going to relax and enjoy our last 6/7 weeks here. Our daughter has already gone back, we drove up to Toronto yesterday and she flew back. She has gone back first (staying with my brother) so that she can try and catch up and take her GCSEs. We were finding it hard to find courses that she could do in September. It was a hard seperation but we thought it was best for her and 7 weeks will hopefully go quickly. I would like to thank the great friends I have made here who have made my last weeks here good ones, thanks, Karen and Monique. :thumbsup: At least we gave it a try and won't be for ever saying What If?? Thanks for listening and I wish all those setting out on their journey the best of luck. Canada is a beautiful country just not for us. ;) |
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