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Stephen47 Nov 2nd 2013 10:19 pm

Easiest way in making new friends?
 
Hi,

What is the easiest way in making new friends. I'm currently on my 2nd IEC visa and so far it's been tough. I've made friends with my coworkers but that's just about it.

Anyone else felt a little isolated in a city like Toronto?

Aviator Nov 2nd 2013 10:36 pm

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 

Originally Posted by Stephen47 (Post 10974043)
Hi,

What is the easiest way in making new friends. I'm currently on my 2nd IEC visa and so far it's been tough. I've made friends with my coworkers but that's just about it.

Anyone else felt a little isolated in a city like Toronto?

Join clubs, volunteer, hand out $20 bills to everyone you meet?

Ben W Bell Nov 2nd 2013 10:46 pm

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 
Join Meetup.com and look for groups that match your interests. Join then and go to a meet, you'll soon meet new people.

Zoe Bell Nov 2nd 2013 10:48 pm

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 
yes it is very easy to feel isolated in a big city like Toronto.
Do you have any hobbies? usually a good way to meet like minded people
try meet up http://canada.meetup.com/
to find groups.

It takes a lot of work to make new friends and quite frankly you have to be the one willing to put in the leg work

Quite frankly you need them more than they need you so you have to be prepared to approach it with that mindset

Zoe Bell Nov 2nd 2013 10:48 pm

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 

Originally Posted by Ben W Bell (Post 10974069)
Join Meetup.com and look for groups that match your interests. Join then and go to a meet, you'll soon meet new people.

lol that's really funny , in separate rooms typing the same reply :)

catpea33 Nov 2nd 2013 10:49 pm

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 

Originally Posted by Stephen47 (Post 10974043)
Hi,

What is the easiest way in making new friends. I'm currently on my 2nd IEC visa and so far it's been tough. I've made friends with my coworkers but that's just about it.

Anyone else felt a little isolated in a city like Toronto?

Stephen

Yeah, same issue here. I'm on my 2nd IEC too. I have the added complication of living in Quebec in French and being an evil English person to boot! ;) Not to mention that as a geologist who goes off to drilling camp, all the friends I make are in some far-flung places. My best Canadian friend lives 1800km from me!

I've done the whole joining clubs thing but it seems people just quickly run off afterwards instead of heading for dinner or whatever like we would back home. Have you had that experience too? Trying to figure out if it's a Quebec thing or a Canadian thing...

Maybe we should both do what Aviator suggested and give people $20 to be our friends! lol.

bats Nov 2nd 2013 10:59 pm

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 

Originally Posted by Zoe Bell (Post 10974073)
lol that's really funny , in separate rooms typing the same reply :)

Maybe you two should go to a meet up group?

Stephen47 Nov 2nd 2013 11:02 pm

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 
Thank you so much for replying back to my message. It's been ever so tough trying to make new friends. I have really tried in making new friends by going out to the pub and mingling with other brits and other nationalities but once you meet them a few times they're busy with their own friends and just generally too busy to hang out with you. They disappeared then you're left at stage one again.

I have looked at meetup.com but I haven't joined a club yet so maybe I should take a good look on what is on offer. If it all goes bad then I may have to resort giving everyone $20 per person just to be my friend or pay them $50 so they can hang out with me at every opportunity :)

BenBuzz Nov 3rd 2013 12:22 am

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 
Having moved to Brandon, MB about six weeks ago as a university graduate it was/is certainly a shock coming to a new place and literally having no friends! I realise this will take time so am not too worried at the moment, but also know that you have to put the effort in.

I've joined a couple of clubs and tonight am going to go to the pub by myself for the first time...a bit sad but I am badly craving just sitting at the bar chilling out with a pint!

Oink Nov 3rd 2013 12:25 am

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 

Originally Posted by BenBuzz (Post 10974158)
Having moved to Brandon, MB about six weeks ago as a university graduate it was/is certainly a shock coming to a new place and literally having no friends! I realise this will take time so am not too worried at the moment, but also know that you have to put the effort in.

I've joined a couple of clubs and tonight am going to go to the pub by myself for the first time...a bit sad but I am badly craving just sitting at the bar chilling out with a pint!

Take lots of money and don't speak to strangers in the bar. Its not the UK, they'll think you're gay.

bats Nov 3rd 2013 12:31 am

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 
I think finding new friends is like finding a new man. You only get some interest when you aren't looking.

JonboyE Nov 3rd 2013 1:38 am

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 

Originally Posted by bats (Post 10974168)
I think finding new friends is like finding a new man. You only get some interest when you aren't looking.

I agree, not that I have ever tried to find a new man.

withabix Nov 3rd 2013 2:56 am

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 
Throw your keys in the bowl?

Oaken Nov 3rd 2013 5:20 am

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 
Find a hobby, take a course in something that interests you or just move to a ski resort where everyone is in the same boat and looking to make new friends.

cjones Nov 3rd 2013 7:06 am

Re: Easiest way in making new friends?
 

Originally Posted by Stephen47 (Post 10974043)
Hi,

What is the easiest way in making new friends. I'm currently on my 2nd IEC visa and so far it's been tough. I've made friends with my coworkers but that's just about it.

Anyone else felt a little isolated in a city like Toronto?

Don't be desperate, or you'll end up attracting the sort of pains-in-the-arse who hone in on that type of neediness. Once they have hold you'll never be able to get rid of them and will eventually have to move away to avoid them... Then you'll be back to square one again... ;)


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