Originally Posted by Oink (Post 11828177)

No, I'm not. I emphasize with your situation, I thought a bit of solidarity and knowing other people felt similarly would be comforting. Its not great to feel to alienated and disillusioned, especially being so far from family and friends. Although if I were in your situation, I wouldn't wait another five months to go home.

Originally Posted by Jackiedelrey (Post 11828182)

I need to save money for going back, it would be irresponsible if i went home with little money to start up a life again.

Sorry but the way you write your messages was a little bit confusing to understand what you were actually saying

Originally Posted by pdarwin (Post 11828180)

At least you've not been sitting in Glasgow the past 3 years wondering 'what if?'. You came here and gave it a shot and now you've gone through it and it's been a life experience.
Not sure I agree about not being able to make friends here though. I think that's probably more down to your personality. One thing I found out, that you mentioned, is the humour here and if you try to use the dry, sarcastic humour that Brits are good with, it doesn't really work in Canada. Canadians don't really have the brain capacity to process that type of humour, so it can come across as meaningless or even insulting to them.

Originally Posted by Oink (Post 11828188)

A brilliant, although probably an unintended contradiction. :rofl:

Originally Posted by pdarwin (Post 11828180)

At least you've not been sitting in Glasgow the past 3 years wondering 'what if?'. You came here and gave it a shot and now you've gone through it and it's been a life experience.
Not sure I agree about not being able to make friends here though. I think that's probably more down to your personality. One thing I found out, that you mentioned, is the humour here and if you try to use the dry, sarcastic humour that Brits are good with, it doesn't really work in Canada. Canadians don't really have the brain capacity to process that type of humour, so it can come across as meaningless or even insulting to them.

Originally Posted by pdarwin (Post 11828180)

At least you've not been sitting in Glasgow the past 3 years wondering 'what if?'. You came here and gave it a shot and now you've gone through it and it's been a life experience.
Not sure I agree about not being able to make friends here though. I think that's probably more down to your personality. One thing I found out, that you mentioned, is the humour here and if you try to use the dry, sarcastic humour that Brits are good with, it doesn't really work in Canada. Canadians don't really have the brain capacity to process that type of humour, so it can come across as meaningless or even insulting to them.

Originally Posted by P4rv1n (Post 11828192)

I agree with the above, you gave it your best shot, you tried it & now you have that experience & knowledge under your belt.
I did voluntary work whilst in Vancouver, and the people were so lovely always smiling and happy, almost like they were on auto pilot!
I remember visiting my husbands relatives and we watched a Jason Statham movie, I loved it (he's a good looking guy) & laughed at all the British jokes, but my husband and his cousins just sat there with the blank face look and didn't get any of it!
Suppose new country trying to learn and adapt to their way of living is hard and very testing. I only know Britain, 38 years of it and now I have to start from scratch again (my choice).

You have your plan to return in place, i wish you all the best.

Originally Posted by JamesM (Post 11828223)

Just because you move somewhere doesn't mean you have to like it.

I can't help but wonder where Vancouver would be now had that Hooters never shut.

Oh well.

Originally Posted by Oink (Post 11828239)

I suspect we'd be sharing a 50pc plate of original style 3-mile Island wings and three pitchers of beer to start, while contemplating ordering 2lbs of snow crab legs and more beer. ;)

Originally Posted by Oink (Post 11828173)

Plus, I think he was saying he is the miserable git not you. Its a defensive attitude against the smug complacency you find prevalent here.

Originally Posted by Aviator (Post 11827726)

It is, by whom?

Originally Posted by pdarwin (Post 11828191)

I was hoping a Canadian on here would take issue with the comment so I could say, 'point proven'.

Originally Posted by Jackiedelrey (Post 11827188)

I guess i'm just writing this to get it off my chest and see what everyone else has felt since leaving home. I am originally from just outside glasgow, scotland. I moved to vancouver, canada, a year after going to my brothers wedding here. He married a lovely canadian lady and they are settled here. When i came here, i was so excited, so much hope, so much to look forward to. After nearly 3 years here i have decided to leave. The last year of me being here i've felt so disconnected with here and there is one main reason, i find it so hard to meet people. Almost impossible actually, to the point i'm unbearably bored. In this time i have been lucky enough to meet an amazing canadian man, but in all honesty he's like one of the only people that i feel gets me here. People are extremely stand offish, do not get the scottish sense of humour one bit. I went home for 4 weeks for a holiday and after that ive decided to move back. I'm a little disheartened at the same time, i did think this would be a permanent move. I guess when you immigrate, people think it will be all fun and rainbows but i have to say these past 18 months i've been up and down like a yoyo. Im really outgoing, chatty and ive never had problems meeting people. I just find it so hard here. Now i've booked my flights to go back i am wishing these next 5 months to go in as fast as possible! I can't wait to be back in friendly glasgow, the working class city where people laugh and don't take themselves too seriously! I guess i'm just writing this as a warning to people coming on their own to Vancouver. I can't speak for all of canada, but be assured that everyone here knows how hard it is to make friends, and it's well known for being a cold city. If you're a kind of person who loves banter and making solid friendships, be aware it is hard here and takes alot of work. All i have to say now is i'm exhausted in the attempts of hoping it will get better, but unfortunately it didn't. Can't wait to get back to scotland :-)