I am on a real downer. Hubby is at work, while I'm the 'lucky one' being able to stay home and take care of everything, including our Canada research.

Don't get me wrong, I love everything to do with Canada (so far anyway - ), but this waiting game is driving me nuts.

We already have a house in Canada, have made loads of friends, have a job offer, my son should be able to start high school in Canada on a study visa the end of August (which would mean we would 'leave the rest of the family behind')... but I am sick of waiting, I want it all to happen now!!!

There are only two things we seems to be talking about these days - the fact that our daughter (20) wouldn't want to come with us if we ever get the chance to move, and the fact it is taking soooooooooo long to hear anything.
Sabine

Hi,

I am sorry that things are taking so long The saving grace is that you are allready part way through your application and way ahead of all of us who will be homeless when we land. I too am the *lucky* one staying at home to research, waiting, cr*ppin myself everytime the phone rings or the e.mail dings...hopeing for some good news...the waiting can get really hard.

Yesterday i had a really bad day, i woke up with a stinky, sinusy cold, I dropped the hoover on myself, cracking my thumbnail, half way down which had me dancing around the kitchen swearing and crying, then i thought i'd make toad in the hole for tea, well the mix was so lumpy i had to sieve it through and then the thing wouldn't rise...... today, he're i am at the computor...waiting for a ding, but no more maiming, cos i've thrown the hoover out and i'm going to my bro's for tea, cake and bubbly for his birthday

I don't know but i think your daughter may supprise you about the move, I had my eldest when i was 20, thought i knew best, and that my family were just annoying and out to ruin my life (they hated my boyfriend and the fact i'd had a baby was a real shock to them) although i proved them wrong about the boyfriend (together for 11 years, 3 kids,married and emigrating together)
I look back now and wish i'd taken there advice on so many things..you might find that taking a very hard, backseat may get a better result that you expect.

Probably havn't cheered you up much, but things will work out, stay positive and know your not alone, take care and beware, dangerous hoovers...they bite

Cheer yourself up, think of all the positives of coming to Canada that's got to make you feel better. With regard to your daughter, she will miss you, keep the door open for her and she may change her mind. Karma to keep you focused.

Take care

Thank for replying. I didn't get your message until this morning, as I just had to turn the computer off yesterday. The constant looking for information (regarding just about anything), was really getting me down. And trust me, my computer doesn't go off often.

Sorry to hear that your parents didn't approve of your partner, but I guess it did work out after all. which is more than can be said for my daughter's relatinship. She has been with her boyfriend for 4 years, and have a babygirl (5 months), but things are not working any more. She's had blinkers on for such a long time, but now that baby is here she is realising that we have been right all along. I hope that she will make the right decision for her and baby.

Hope you had a better day yesterday, and the foot isn't sore anymore.

How long since you started your immigration process? Where and when are hoping to be moving across?

Sabine

Thanks Lorna. We are really trying to keep focused and not lose it after 2 years. Waiting seemed so easy, but I guess since we've had this job offer and are now waiting for the LMO, it's just added something else. It's not like a LMO is approved quickly (if at all).

My daughter - well, if our PR application goes through, or we can move on a TWP, she has alraedy told me that she wouldn't come. However, as things are very rocky with her boyfriend now I hope that, if they split, she would eventually change her mind. We will definitely include her in the entire process (pay for everything for her), so she would have at least another year to think about it. What doesn't help is that she is a city girl and our property in Canada is sort of out in the boonies.

Well, it's another day, and I'm trying to think a lot more positive than yesterday.

thanks for being here for me.
Sabine

Hi, Sabine

Funny thing being 20 and all invincible, sounds to me like she may have a change of heart once you actually leave, right now she probably doesn't think it will happen.

We started our immigration process quite by chance last August, my hubby was fed up with work and his very weird family and started looking for a job out there...one day we got a phone call offering him a position and we've been waiting for an LMO since then (september). We were hoping to move across as soon as we had sold the house, and we hoped the paperwork will follow, but it now looks like the paperwork will be here before we sell up, which i suppose will give us the security of being able to work out there, however I might have to wait for my months tour of Canada that i was hoping to fit in before hubby had to start work ...we are trying to get to Calgary which is a huge city compared to the tiny town we live in now, we are currently in Northamptonshire. I am really excited and very keen to make it work out... when we are there we will apply for permanent residency as it seems quicker to do it that way

Hope you are having a better day today.

Tasha

Hi Tasha,

I really do wish we had gone down the PNP/LMO route straight away, but to tell you the truth we didn't know about it then (obviously didn't research it properly). I guess, having waited two years already has had it's good points. The wait has resulted in my son being able to finish his secondary education over here (May/June this year), and my daughter has grown up, too (a little anyway ).

It looks like I should be able to move over to Canada with my son this August. He wants to attend High School over there, and I have already sorted it all with the school over there; just have to apply for study visa now). That in itself will be depressing in a way, though, because not just my daughter, but also my husband will be left behind then, unless he gets a decision on the LMO before then (which I doubt very much). So, although I'll be where I want to be, I'll still not be there with the whole family.

Well, I geuss I just have to suck it up, and hope for the best.
Thanks again for being here for me, and good luck to you and your family.

Sabine

Hi Sabine

I have heard some mixed opinions about the education system out there, but I feel the oportunity given to the children just by making the move and showing them a new life, culture, different wildlife etc is such an education in itself.
I spoke to HRSDC Alberta, a couple of days ago and they told me that anyone who subbmitted applications in september should hear with in the next 4 weeks, I know it doesnt help but working on their information you should get you reply during June. I know a long way off but it is something to aim at
It does mean though that you should all be able to go out in August. we have had to think about going out seperatly and still may have to if the paperwork comes through before we sell the house, we will cross that bridge when and if we come to it.

Stay positive, things will work out in the end, I check this forum all the time, so you can pm me if you want, to chat, or rant or whatever, take care.

Tasha.

Hi Sabine from the North Shore of Nova Scotia. We will have been here 3 yrs in June and believed a year ago that my now 18 year old daughter would not be coming to Canada for a few more years. She stayed back in the UK close to family and friends from being 16 years old. She believed that being a city girl she would never be able to stand it here on the peaceful coast, although loved Halifax. January last year I went to help her move accommodation, even though I'd said I'd never set foot back in the UK, she needed me. I found her a flat beside a lovely canal and decorated and furnished it. I was leaving her with a nice sporty car and she was taking driving lessons. She was on a Media course she adored and surrounded by all her friends and seeing a boyfriend. I was over for 3 months sorting these things out for her, then within 2 days of me flying back she changed her mind and suddenly announced she was coming back with me and leaving the UK for good. What about the boring and quite place she did not want to come to before??
It is just coming up to a year now that she flew back with me. She settled in straight away and started school, to do her Grade 12. She has many new friends, the nicest boyfriend I've ever seen her with and I can honestly say I have never seen her so happy. When I ask why did she change her mind. She said it was because she could not see a future in the UK and feels that she has so many more opportunities here in Canada. Life is up, positive and fun. Many of her friends from the UK would love to be out here too.
So there is always a chance your daughter will have a change of heart.

I really hope so. Her reason for not wanting to move are obviously our chosen location in Canada, her stupid boyfriend (grrrr...), and the fact she doesn't like change.
I do hope that, if we ever move, she will change her mind eventually.

I really tried to be positive yesterday, left the house, went to see my daughter at her place, and didn't touch the computer for a few hours

I guess, the reason I am getting so depressed is that I have so many scenarios going around in my head - will the LMO come before son starts school; will son start school first and I accompany him on a 6-monthly-basis; will we be on holiday when LMO comes through, which means we would have to come back (but leave son in Canada because of school) to sell house; will I be 'living' in Canada while son goes to school, me having to leave country every six months, while LMO doesn't come through, and hubby has to wait in UK until PR goes through, which would no doubt be next year, if ever...... Arghh...

I'm sure (hope) that I will laugh about this period in my life one day, but right now I am finding it very stressful.

Lots of people on BE are going through very similar things and feel what your going through, the waiting is frustrating to say the least there is so much going round constantly in your head, we are leaving 3 offspring here at UNI and all in London so feel for you there, At least they can come for long holidays and you never know they may end up over there, our daughter is going in to her 2nd year in sept and doesn't want to come because of her boyfriend, thats her choice she will be 19 soon much as i would love to have them all there with us i know they will probably end up in different corners of the world, i remember being that age ( yep a long time ago ) and remember i new best I am hoping she will come for her last year to study there she has said she will if she isn't with her boyfriend ( fingers crossed )

When your daughter comes for a visit i think she will probably love it and then you won't get rid of her

We are taking our 7 year old at least he will enjoy it.
I know its hard to stay positive, im sure things will work out and you will wonder why you worried so much, its 6 months untill you have to go with your son a lot can happen in that time with your LMO and your daughter wish you luck and keep talking to us it really does help

Hi There,

I too have just started the pocess of looking at every scrap of information about Canada.
We are hoping to go to Edmonton, Alberta on a TWP at the end of the year.
Your daughter still has some time left to change her mind.
If I done all the things my mum wanted me to when i was 20, I would be in a better position than I am now but, at 20, your daughter knows best and you are just being selfish and you are going out your way to ruin HER life.

She will come round it might be later than you want, but she will.

Just focus on your plans, you are doing a great thing for family , and to be honest thats what keeps me going.

I know getting up early for work here or in Edmonton will be the same no matter what but its the quality and time that I hope to achieve with my family.

Your doing a good thing stick in there!!!

Hi DannyCane

Just to throw a spanner in the works - something occurs to me. If your daughter (who presumably was listed on your own application some time ago) decides to come to Canada after all, where does her new baby fit into the paperwork, or have you already got that covered? Sorry I don't know the answer, but I guess the CHC need to know about this new little person somewhere along the line?!

Anyway - off topic - best wishes and hang on, it really does all happen all at once towards the end

May I ask how are you getting around not being resident in the UK for Student Finance purposes? My daughter is also going into her second year in September. I have been told that if I am not resident in the UK when she does, she loses her Home Student Status = no loans.