anyone return to UK then came back??
Jan 7th 2015, 9:59 am
#61
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
Hey so I made the post but then got distracted with life to keep up the convo. To answer a few queries my children are 17 and 15, we will be here 2 years this August and I still feel the same. My daughter wants to return to Scotland to go to University and I do not want a broken family
Ironically my husband who I nagged for years to come is happy to stay and can see the better (all relative to what you consider better) prospects and lifestyle
Ironically my husband who I nagged for years to come is happy to stay and can see the better (all relative to what you consider better) prospects and lifestyle
You & yours have toughened it out. My suggestion is speak with your kids, explain this is a small step in life's journey & another couple of years in with citizenship in your pockets if she still feels she wants to go back, then everyone goes.
You'd be surprised how time is a great healer. Just look at what you've learned from all of this, which IMO will make you one heck of a go-getter should you return back home - life just wont be the same after walking in the shoes of an immigrant
All the best
Jan 7th 2015, 10:03 am
#62
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
I followed your posts from day one & you've had a tough go of it. You've been here 2 years & very shortly will *likely* be applying for Canadian citizenship.
You & yours have toughened it out. My suggestion is speak with your kids, explain this is a small step in life's journey & another couple of years in with citizenship in your pockets if she still feels she wants to go back, then everyone goes.
You & yours have toughened it out. My suggestion is speak with your kids, explain this is a small step in life's journey & another couple of years in with citizenship in your pockets if she still feels she wants to go back, then everyone goes.
Jan 7th 2015, 10:28 am
#63
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
post #62
not arguing the point, more out of interest - doesn't time here on a TWP count towards qualifying years for citizenship?
Again I don't recall the full extent of which visa's they had during the time here to PR
I suppose as you indicated it'll be a few more years than I thought before they get citizenship & if they stay to see it through, hopefully time will fly
not arguing the point, more out of interest - doesn't time here on a TWP count towards qualifying years for citizenship?
Again I don't recall the full extent of which visa's they had during the time here to PR
I suppose as you indicated it'll be a few more years than I thought before they get citizenship & if they stay to see it through, hopefully time will fly
Jan 7th 2015, 10:35 am
#64
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
HTH.
Jan 7th 2015, 10:21 pm
#65
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
Everywhere in the UK is so small that they can simply walk to where you are.
Or another way of looking at it is this: due to the dampness, the chavs leak in to your manor. Boom. Boom. Anyway - even if you had a theoretically chav free area, as soon as you want to go downtown for a spot of grub or a nice glass of wine you have to deal with the yobbo culture and the vomiting and the skirmishing after hours etc etc.
On the other hand, here you have to put up with the sh!te driving, the faux-snobbery, the better-than-thou attitude, the lack of sense of humour, the clique-i-ness of the people etc etc
Or another way of looking at it is this: due to the dampness, the chavs leak in to your manor. Boom. Boom. Anyway - even if you had a theoretically chav free area, as soon as you want to go downtown for a spot of grub or a nice glass of wine you have to deal with the yobbo culture and the vomiting and the skirmishing after hours etc etc.
On the other hand, here you have to put up with the sh!te driving, the faux-snobbery, the better-than-thou attitude, the lack of sense of humour, the clique-i-ness of the people etc etc
Jan 7th 2015, 10:34 pm
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Jan 8th 2015, 4:43 pm
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
We originally came in April 2010 & returned to the UK June 2011 thinking we were too homesick for our families. After 10 months my husband, son & I all wished we had never left. We then got in touch with friends & an old employer & returned 2012. We now have PR and intend to only return for holidays.
we returned thinking things would be different but the thing was, nothing changed, life still continued without us & the area we come from life styles were still shit & work bad, but more importantly we had changed as a family & what we expected out of life. Canada did that & we longed for a stress free, relaxed environment again. Many thousands of £s & $s spent both times but hey its only money, long term happiness is far more important.
we returned thinking things would be different but the thing was, nothing changed, life still continued without us & the area we come from life styles were still shit & work bad, but more importantly we had changed as a family & what we expected out of life. Canada did that & we longed for a stress free, relaxed environment again. Many thousands of £s & $s spent both times but hey its only money, long term happiness is far more important.
Jan 8th 2015, 4:51 pm
#68
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
We originally came in April 2010 & returned to the UK June 2011 thinking we were too homesick for our families. After 10 months my husband, son & I all wished we had never left. We then got in touch with friends & an old employer & returned 2012. We now have PR and intend to only return for holidays.
we returned thinking things would be different but the thing was, nothing changed, life still continued without us & the area we come from life styles were still shit & work bad, but more importantly we had changed as a family & what we expected out of life. Canada did that & we longed for a stress free, relaxed environment again. Many thousands of £s & $s spent both times but hey its only money, long term happiness is far more important.
we returned thinking things would be different but the thing was, nothing changed, life still continued without us & the area we come from life styles were still shit & work bad, but more importantly we had changed as a family & what we expected out of life. Canada did that & we longed for a stress free, relaxed environment again. Many thousands of £s & $s spent both times but hey its only money, long term happiness is far more important.
Jan 8th 2015, 4:58 pm
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
We originally came in April 2010 & returned to the UK June 2011 thinking we were too homesick for our families. After 10 months my husband, son & I all wished we had never left. We then got in touch with friends & an old employer & returned 2012. We now have PR and intend to only return for holidays.
we returned thinking things would be different but the thing was, nothing changed, life still continued without us & the area we come from life styles were still shit & work bad, but more importantly we had changed as a family & what we expected out of life. Canada did that & we longed for a stress free, relaxed environment again. Many thousands of £s & $s spent both times but hey its only money, long term happiness is far more important.
we returned thinking things would be different but the thing was, nothing changed, life still continued without us & the area we come from life styles were still shit & work bad, but more importantly we had changed as a family & what we expected out of life. Canada did that & we longed for a stress free, relaxed environment again. Many thousands of £s & $s spent both times but hey its only money, long term happiness is far more important.
A salutary lesson. I wish a learning experience like that could be part of the curriculum for immigration that everyone (who wanted to) could experience.
Jan 8th 2015, 5:03 pm
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
However I have a friend who had dreamed of living in canada for over 10 years, to come over, live in 2 different cities & return to the UK 2 years ago & is happy then she has ever been. Whats right for one is not for another.
Jan 8th 2015, 5:11 pm
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
It was defiantly an eye opener for me, and I am a person who does not like to live on regrets & once i make a decision I normally don't go back on it, I like to go forward & not live in the past, however this was to strong to ignore, especially when it was affecting my son.
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Was it your son that wanted to return to Canada?
Jan 8th 2015, 5:14 pm
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
Was it your son that wanted to return to Canada?[/QUOTE]
He never wanted to leave! It was all very selfish on our part, & when we told him we were returning he asked when the flight was & when i informed his school they said they were not surprised as he never spoke of anything else..
He never wanted to leave! It was all very selfish on our part, & when we told him we were returning he asked when the flight was & when i informed his school they said they were not surprised as he never spoke of anything else..
Jan 8th 2015, 5:16 pm
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
He never wanted to leave! It was all very selfish on our part, & when we told him we were returning he asked when the flight was & when i informed his school they said they were not surprised as he never spoke of anything else..[/QUOTE]
How old is he ?
Jan 8th 2015, 5:16 pm
#74
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
He never wanted to leave! It was all very selfish on our part, & when we told him we were returning he asked when the flight was & when i informed his school they said they were not surprised as he never spoke of anything else..[/QUOTE]
Good for you. It's tough. But I'm really glad it has worked out in the end!
Jan 8th 2015, 5:22 pm
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Re: anyone return to UK then came back??
He is now 11 soon to be 12, came when he had just turned 7. Dont get me wrong there were many many bumps in the road to get to the point we are now with him but he finds school here alot easier, and the kids are not as harsh as in the UK. Being here has taught me how hard faced the kids are in the UK, environment and circumstances i think is the reason for this.