6 weeks on own
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Re: 6 weeks on own
Switch around the positions (not with the dog).
You are in an exciting new country with a myriad of things to sort out, and places to explore. Your boyfriend is back in the UK, trudging along in the crap weather, living with an 86 year old rellie and counting down the days by scratching off lines on a concrete wall.
I think someone has got the best end of the deal, I know which one i'd rather be
You are in an exciting new country with a myriad of things to sort out, and places to explore. Your boyfriend is back in the UK, trudging along in the crap weather, living with an 86 year old rellie and counting down the days by scratching off lines on a concrete wall.
I think someone has got the best end of the deal, I know which one i'd rather be
#21
Re: 6 weeks on own
New country, new life... get a new man.
Cut the ties with the past, embrace the Brave New World. Leave the old one at home sharing a room and kitchen with Auntie Ethel and the stinky dog. Faint heart never won fair fella.
Cut the ties with the past, embrace the Brave New World. Leave the old one at home sharing a room and kitchen with Auntie Ethel and the stinky dog. Faint heart never won fair fella.
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Re: 6 weeks on own
Had a great giggle over this ! New Partner - they are my sponsor !
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Re: 6 weeks on own
Hi there
My husband landed 13 weeks before the kids and I did, due to complications with my medical results. He was busy with his new job and getting the rental in order. We missed each other like crazy, wishing that fateful reply every day from CIC but it never came when we wanted it to! He got himself another iPad to use FaceTime; without this it would have been awful. Kids and I eeked out a half existence in our house in Scotland. All our belongings and kids' toys were shipped four weeks before my husband left. So all in all we had four months of sleeping on air mattresses and cooking in one pot! Felt like we were squatters in our own house. We also had a niggling fear that I might not get my clearance from London and we were glad when it did finally come!
Not really how we had planned our emigration boo CIC and their jobsworths in the medical department. How many times could I tell them that I was on no medication! Letter sent re this in early July, then August, then they later asked for a new assessment stating what medication regime I was on?. I wish I could have had a chance to wring somebody's neck Alas you can't do that on a website!
The separation will only make you appreciate one another more, however I would never like to have to go through this again. We also have been together nearly 20 years and the longest we have been apart is two weeks. My lesson, plan nothing in your head as it inevitably works differently when you rely on immigration
My husband landed 13 weeks before the kids and I did, due to complications with my medical results. He was busy with his new job and getting the rental in order. We missed each other like crazy, wishing that fateful reply every day from CIC but it never came when we wanted it to! He got himself another iPad to use FaceTime; without this it would have been awful. Kids and I eeked out a half existence in our house in Scotland. All our belongings and kids' toys were shipped four weeks before my husband left. So all in all we had four months of sleeping on air mattresses and cooking in one pot! Felt like we were squatters in our own house. We also had a niggling fear that I might not get my clearance from London and we were glad when it did finally come!
Not really how we had planned our emigration boo CIC and their jobsworths in the medical department. How many times could I tell them that I was on no medication! Letter sent re this in early July, then August, then they later asked for a new assessment stating what medication regime I was on?. I wish I could have had a chance to wring somebody's neck Alas you can't do that on a website!
The separation will only make you appreciate one another more, however I would never like to have to go through this again. We also have been together nearly 20 years and the longest we have been apart is two weeks. My lesson, plan nothing in your head as it inevitably works differently when you rely on immigration
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Re: 6 weeks on own
I've been away from my partner for over 3 months. Had to work my notice in the uk, pack and ship everything (waiting for the courier now) and deal with sorting everything else out on my own. Was supposed to return earlier, but had some health problems, but finally flying out tomorrow. Yay!
It's been a really stressful time. Leaving my job, packing, moving, etc. is hard already, but being without my bf made it worse. It was a big test for our relationship.
Can't wait to be back in Vancouver.
It's been a really stressful time. Leaving my job, packing, moving, etc. is hard already, but being without my bf made it worse. It was a big test for our relationship.
Can't wait to be back in Vancouver.
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Re: 6 weeks on own
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Re: 6 weeks on own
I have been in Canada a year now from the UK without my husband. The job he was offered here fell through and he got a job offer contracting in Finland that he couldn't refuse which was supposed to be for 3 months. It was either that or try to get a job immediately in Canada. So although we all came over together, he had to go back after 2 weeks and also came over for 2 weeks in the summer and a week at Christmas. I cant say that setting up a house, schools, uni etc for us and 3 kids has been particularly easy on my own in a new and sometimes strange country but I was up for the challenge, and provide you go out of your way to talk to people, get out and do things, join a meet up group perhaps and have a generally positive attitude then it can be done and it gets easier as you get used to things and gradually make friends. We do miss each other of course but well no situation lasts forever and there will be an end to it eventually!
Good luck, the time will fly by for you
Good luck, the time will fly by for you