The 'Are you for Real?' Thread
Jan 29th 2016 | 7:44 pm
#31
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Re: The 'Are you for Real?' Thread
It is the same here.Kids invited to a party or otherwise means the parents turn up with the 'bring a plate' thing.
We found it very odd in the early years that when folk brought a bottle of wine and a few cans to drinks and nibbles at someone's house , they guarded their booze carefully and then took what they didn't drink home with them, right down to the half can.
Often your contribution goes into a fridge to be used up by the party, by the host, or when it's just you over, often remembered, quite touchingly, for your return so that it can be offered back as a guest...sometimes if the host is generous, your contribution sort of tops up their 'fund' which is then of course a nice thing for all. People come here and often leave whole boxes of champagne..!
The only person I know who guarded a beer was a battler sort. Maybe it was out of respect for only keeping within their means, so I respect and tolerate it. Not everyone can split a bill evenly, not everyone can share evenly. People on mixers might not share.
Most of the time, esp at smaller gatherings, people leave booze, it's polite to offer it back, judge it case by case...get it...case by case...
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Jan 29th 2016 | 7:51 pm
#32
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Re: The 'Are you for Real?' Thread
Ooh poor thing. Are the disorders medical or has her upbringing had something to do with it I wonder. I know from experience stress can do dreadful things to your appetite and even to your ability to eat.
If I am in any environment where there is an argument or disagreement going on I can lose my appetite for about 3 days instantly. Even out with someone for a meal, a row at the next table makes it hard for me to eat even if I'm not involved. All stems back to arguments surrounding food, years ago, and means I rarely accept an invite to eat out with people.
If I am in any environment where there is an argument or disagreement going on I can lose my appetite for about 3 days instantly. Even out with someone for a meal, a row at the next table makes it hard for me to eat even if I'm not involved. All stems back to arguments surrounding food, years ago, and means I rarely accept an invite to eat out with people.
I do recall days when a lot of money was spent and there was assumptions that everyone could share a very expensive meal.
Stress makes me eat more!
Jan 29th 2016 | 7:56 pm
#33
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Re: The 'Are you for Real?' Thread
I 'm not trying to make it one or the other, just I never ever experienced this idea of bringing a plate to work, or to peoples houes before i moved here. Yes sometimes we'd agree that someone would bring a dessert for dinner etc, and at work sometimes a person would bring in doughnuts if they felt like it on their birthday, but I have never been invited to -for instance-a party arranged in my honour, which I didn't want anyway -and been told to bring a plate of food for everyone. I had the last laugh, the woman who had accessed my date of birth (without permission) on the personnel records and organised it all, forgot to check the leave calendar to see who would be miles away at the time.........!!
The value of ByO is for 'impromptu' dinners arranged around kids in holidays at short notice
Everyone gets fed, including parents, and the house owner isn't out of pocket or indeed further stressed : eg when a play date with a few kids turns into a summer evening party for all..very common here
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