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Gemnic May 30th 2009 9:40 am

Why the stress in every single thread?
 
Yesterday I started a thread asking a simple question about the year in which visa's are/will be allocated. This thread was then closed as someone decided to make nasty comments on it and snide answers to questions.

A previous thread I started was closed because people were being confrontational with their answers and seemingly goading people into an argument.

Other threads I read always seem to end up with someone being cocky, arrogant or making jokes at other peoples expense, be it because their English Language skills aren't as good as you or I and they make comments which maybe don't make sense or are ambiguous, or they simply don't 'like' the thing that someone has written.

I just wanted to say that this forum has been of great help to me and I hope it will continue to do so as we have only just applied to the TRA, but please can everyone just take a chill-pill and think before they press POST. Each and every person on here is in the same boat (or is lucky enough to have sailed across the seas already). We are all stressed out about our applications, and no-one shoud be made to think that their posts/threads have less worth than someone else's.

Personally, I would have liked the opertunity to THANK the people who replied to me on MY thread, but an individual ruined that for me as the thread had to be closed!!!

Please can we just think before we post?

sonlymewalter May 30th 2009 10:16 am

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 
Don't be daft that would be boring:p

Good luck with the move, don't sweat the small stuff;)

Bix May 30th 2009 11:20 am

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 
:thumbup: A good post Gemnic.

Humour is one thing but a lot of the crap just boils down to childish point scoring at the expense of innocent posters.

I hate the know-it-all attitude when a question has been asked for the umpteenth time. Yes it may have been but it is still relevant to the original poster.

The forum treadmill generally works like this:

You first join and read a lot.
Then you ask a lot of questions.
Then you answer a lot of questions.
Then you answer questions selectively.
Then you socialize.

These are sometimes inter-mixed a bit but as I say it's a generalisation.

It doesn't matter where you are on the treadmill as there is a constant throughput of people to replace those before them.

The thing we should and need to remember is that "I was at that stage once."

Tolerance please. :)

Grayling May 30th 2009 11:46 am

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by Gemnic (Post 7617807)
Each and every person on here is in the same boat (or is lucky enough to have sailed across the seas already).

What's lucky about it?:confused:

WillBlack May 30th 2009 11:57 am

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by Grayling (Post 7617988)
What's lucky about it?:confused:

For it to be lucky, there has to be some probability of unlucky outcomes. That you lobbed on Aus proves that "it" is lucky, surely?

Grayling May 30th 2009 11:59 am

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by WillBlack (Post 7617998)
For it to be lucky, there has to be some probability of unlucky outcomes. That you lobbed on Aus proves that "it" is lucky, surely?

I would have been 'luckier' if moving to Australia had never been an option.

WillBlack May 30th 2009 12:07 pm

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by Grayling (Post 7618001)
I would have been 'luckier' if moving to Australia had never been an option.

Proves that luck does not entirely pass by dear old England.

Grayling May 30th 2009 12:09 pm

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by WillBlack (Post 7618017)
Proves that luck does not entirely pass by dear old England.

It will be luckier still when I return....and so will I:thumbsup:

WillBlack May 30th 2009 12:21 pm

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by Grayling (Post 7618029)
It will be luckier still when I return....and so will I:thumbsup:

As in greater uncertainty of outcome? Why not just give yourself up?

Gemnic May 30th 2009 12:57 pm

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by Grayling (Post 7617988)
What's lucky about it?:confused:

And, the constant scarcasm......Hmmmmmmm!

There are many of us on here who WANT to go to Australia, as you obviously once wanted to yourself. Granted, it didn't work out for you but if you don't want to support others, why reply?

Gemnic May 30th 2009 12:59 pm

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by Bix (Post 7617942)
childish point scoring at the expense of innocent posters.

Indeed!

It's like they say on "Who wants to be a Millionaire", it's only easy if you know the answer. Many of the questions asked on here are asked because we don't know the answer. To then be ridiculed for asking or have scarcastic comments made, I'm sure puts many people off.

Grayling May 30th 2009 1:01 pm

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by Gemnic (Post 7618123)

There are many of us on here who WANT to go to Australia, as you obviously once wanted to yourself. Granted, it didn't work out for you but if you don't want to support others, why reply?


No....I didn't really want to move here. It was to fulfill a family committment.

....and it did work out for me in the sense that I am pretty well off here....as I was in the UK.

You can not control the answers you get on an open forum.

emelems May 30th 2009 1:01 pm

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 
Kinda know where you coming from, but its just the BE way.. can't say I have ever had a thread closed down on me for abuse/bad manners from people, but have been part of a few that have..

Good luck with your move.. everyone has a different experience and a different outlook.. some express it on here in one way, others do their own thing.. I have to disagree with the title.. I don't think there is stress in each titled thread.. there is often rancour and people screaming a lot, but ho hum.. this is a faceless forum (to a certain extent) so people feel the ability to express whatever they please (sometimes its a good thing, sometimes a bad)...

Anyway, I have wittered on for enough time!

Em x

Gemnic May 30th 2009 1:06 pm

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by emelems (Post 7618134)
Kinda know where you coming from, but its just the BE way.. can't say I have ever had a thread closed down on me for abuse/bad manners from people, but have been part of a few that have..

Good luck with your move.. everyone has a different experience and a different outlook.. some express it on here in one way, others do their own thing.. I have to disagree with the title.. I don't think there is stress in each titled thread.. there is often rancour and people screaming a lot, but ho hum.. this is a faceless forum (to a certain extent) so people feel the ability to express whatever they please (sometimes its a good thing, sometimes a bad)...

Anyway, I have wittered on for enough time!

Em x

I suppose you're right Em, there are plenty of threads which run smoothly. I suppose I have just been unlucky.

emelems May 30th 2009 1:07 pm

Re: Why the stress in every single thread?
 

Originally Posted by Grayling (Post 7618133)
No....I didn't really want to move here. It was to fulfill a family committment.

....and it did work out for me in the sense that I am pretty well off here....as I was in the UK.

You can not control the answers you get on an open forum.

ooh! Hello Mr G! Long time no speak ;)

Em x


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