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Re: where should we go from here?
If your wife doesn't want to come and worry about family, I seriously wouldn't have arguments about it. I love it here as do thousands of others. Many many others hate it and a large proportion of them go back because the wife misses family and doesn't settle. There are obviously stacks of other reasons but that seems to be a biggy.
My life here is brilliant. However, my life in the UK was pretty damn good as well. If your reasons for leaving is because you are running from perceived problems in the UK, you will possibly struggle. If you want an adventure then fine but day to day life is not really any different here from the UK. Let it lie, don't push it, explain what you think you will all gain from it, but if she's adamant about not coming, and you love her and the children more than you love the dream then just continue your lives and have great holidays here when you can. |
Re: where should we go from here?
Originally Posted by Sheff_Sparky
(Post 6177007)
when did I say it was going to be better? When did I say it was going to be worse?
I have no idea what it in store for us when we get there. As for the price of things, we are just going to have to deal with it when the time comes. Are we going to have to work harder or not? I dont know, the only thing I can tell you for certain is that we are going to give it a bloody good go. How the hell do I know if it is going to work out? As for the no friends and family to rely on, for us that is no different to how things are here. We are on our own. We cant rely on our family as they have enough to deal with, same goes with our friends. If times were so bad that we have no other choice or option than call on friends and family for help then we will, and they will help us no matter where we are. As we have done for them and they have done for others in that situation. No dentists and GP's? i'm not even going to bother with that one. Oops... meant to quote the original poster!!! I am sorry but I dont know anything about your situation and was just replying with some advice for them...:ohmy::ohmy: Sorry!! |
Re: where should we go from here?
Originally Posted by justsarah
(Post 6175433)
What makes you ( in particular) think its a better life? Food costs the same, houses cost the same ( at least), wages (initially) will probably be less, interest rates are higher, you have no friends or familty to rely on, no GP, No dentist...
Need I say more!! :p:p I am a dick head!! ( there are times I dont even know where I live!!:lol:) |
Re: where should we go from here?
Originally Posted by justsarah
(Post 6177212)
Sorry sparky but this quote was meant for you MARK C D !!!
:p:p I am a dick head!! ( there are times I dont even know where I live!!:lol:) |
Re: where should we go from here?
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Originally Posted by justsarah
(Post 6175433)
.... houses cost the same ( at least),
QUOTE] Are you kidding???? Must depend a lot on what part of the UK you came from and which part of Aus you went to..... We have purchased a 4-bed house for approx half of what it would have cost us in the UK. So mark c d - this just shows, you really have to do some research and then you can present your case (if you still have one) in a fair and reasoned manner to the missus. But please do not think that a life in Aus will solve all your problems and be a trouble-free existence..... I love it here, but it's because we're happier, not because Aus is some kind of paradise...... We lived in a very large 4 bed 3 storey house in Wales with seperatr study, double garage, large garden etc which is on the market for £250,000 :eek::eek: In london it would be worth a f££tune, and not on the gold coast next door would be pennies ( well not quite but you know what I mean!!) |
Re: where should we go from here?
thanks to everyone for their advice,I know its a big decision for both of us I have family that it will be very hard to leave aswell.My wife and I have been together since we were both teenagers and we are both now 36,I would just like chance to prove(18 months)what sort of life we could have and I've promised with my word that if she was'nt happy for any reason that we would return home,Iv'e even promised that if she did like living there that we would do everything to get the mother-in-law over to live with us,I must be desperate to offer that!.The funny thing about my job 9printing trade)is that theres more oppertunity over there than here,anyway theres plenty of time to see what happens.thanks guys.;)
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Re: where should we go from here?
Originally Posted by Timber Floor Au
(Post 6175957)
Its fair to say there always bargains to be made.
However, as a general rule, houses here are approx similar cost to those in the uk. Bedroom for Bedroom. Irrespective of sizes etc. To live in an Australian major city, within similar distance to that of a house in uk to city - to cbd... would possibly cost 1/3 more + in oz. Ste But this is not really what this thread is about - but it does go to show that there is no 'one answer' - do your research (e.g. look at what type of home YOU could afford on sites like homehound.com.au), and take some time to make such a big decision. Good Luck!! |
Re: where should we go from here?
As I said, compare bedroom for bedroom.
You cannot compare size or type of house, or land. Thats just not gonna work. Ste |
Re: where should we go from here?
OK - you can be right, I don't mind. But you'll have to excuse me now while I clean my 4-bed+study, 3-bath house while my lad has his nap.
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Re: where should we go from here?
Originally Posted by mark c d
(Post 6173533)
:confused:Hi to everyone,just wandered if anyone had any advice.I have always wanted to live in Australia,I don't know why anyway last year I was lucky enough to take my family(wife and two young children)to Australia for a four week holiday.I told my wife that this wasn't just a holiday but also a chance to try and experiance what Australian life could offer our family and I have to say that we wen't dissapointed,its probably the best four weeks of my life and we all had a fantastic time.When the time arrived to leave I was very sad indeed.After being back in the U.K we started to discuss what we should do but although my wife really enjoyed it there she just didn't want to emigrate because of family commitments.Since then we have had a few big arguements about whos right and wrong.I suppose I feel selfish now but I just want a better life for my family and I feel that unless we give it go I will regret it and I dont know if I can be happy in the U.K. anymore.I am in a job I hate and have become a bit down and feel that a new start is something that would be good for us all.I dont know what the comprimise is with something like this,has anyone else had a situation like this?
Anyway ive left it abit and i was getting bitter about the whole situation..Until the other night he started asking question about oz...we ended up having a big disscussion and the reasons he felt agaisnt was that id not included him in anything!! which was soo true....Im still not there yet! but at least hes asking lots of questions. So my advice to you is to take it slow, if you can get her on this forum she'll love it i'm sure.Hope this helps..its so frustating when one wants to go and the other dosen't |
Re: where should we go from here?
Originally Posted by Racht70
(Post 6180368)
Me ! im in the exact situation...My oh has been dragging his heels about going to oz...we've had some right mass barnys about it...at one stage he even said 'stop forcing your dreams on me!!"..I retorted back by saying "Well ill go on me own when the kids have left home". :curse:
Anyway ive left it abit and i was getting bitter about the whole situation..Until the other night he started asking question about oz...we ended up having a big disscussion and the reasons he felt agaisnt was that id not included him in anything!! which was soo true....Im still not there yet! but at least hes asking lots of questions. So my advice to you is to take it slow, if you can get her on this forum she'll love it i'm sure.Hope this helps..its so frustating when one wants to go and the other dosen't Often pride stands in the way of many things for us fellas. I hear where he is coming from. Ste |
Re: where should we go from here?
Originally Posted by Timber Floor Au
(Post 6180433)
Good Reply.
Often pride stands in the way of many things for us fellas. I hear where he is coming from. Ste Hes getting more into now ive told him theres plenty of carp fishin' lol :thumbsup: |
Re: where should we go from here?
Originally Posted by mark c d
(Post 6173533)
:confused:Hi to everyone,just wandered if anyone had any advice.I have always wanted to live in Australia,I don't know why anyway last year I was lucky enough to take my family(wife and two young children)to Australia for a four week holiday.I told my wife that this wasn't just a holiday but also a chance to try and experiance what Australian life could offer our family and I have to say that we wen't dissapointed,its probably the best four weeks of my life and we all had a fantastic time.When the time arrived to leave I was very sad indeed.After being back in the U.K we started to discuss what we should do but although my wife really enjoyed it there she just didn't want to emigrate because of family commitments.Since then we have had a few big arguements about whos right and wrong.I suppose I feel selfish now but I just want a better life for my family and I feel that unless we give it go I will regret it and I dont know if I can be happy in the U.K. anymore.I am in a job I hate and have become a bit down and feel that a new start is something that would be good for us all.I dont know what the comprimise is with something like this,has anyone else had a situation like this?
The changes you perceive as being necessary to improve your life can probably be made by staying within the U.K and tweaking your current life.....ie train for another /change jobs, move to a different area, buy a caravan and see more of the British Isles. A change is as good as a rest so they say....they also say the grass is always greener on the otherside :0) You were on holiday for those 4 weeks. Without both of you in agreement there is nowhwere you can go. Take off the rose tinted sunnies and exchange them for reading glasses.....take a peek in the 'Moving Back to the U.K' forum. Jan (grateful for the chance to be here, but with hindsight would have stayed put :unsure:) |
Re: where should we go from here?
Originally Posted by Racht70
(Post 6180488)
I do too now! lol
Hes getting more into now ive told him theres plenty of carp fishin' lol :thumbsup: They are the scurge of the waterways. |
Re: where should we go from here?
Originally Posted by 22B
(Post 6180103)
OK - you can be right, I don't mind. But you'll have to excuse me now while I clean my 4-bed+study, 3-bath house while my lad has his nap.
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