School formals cost
#1
School formals cost
I was just wondering if anyone else is needing to take out a second mortgage to fund their year 12's formal?
I don't mean to sound mean because I understand it's a big deal to finish 12 years of school... but honestly, the cost seems ridiculous, and I'm not sure how far I should allow myself to be pushed. It seems parents just go with it...
Expenses apparently include pre-party, photographer, car hire, new clothes, new shoes, new accessories, suit hire, fake tan, fake nails, hairdresser trial, hairdresser actual, new make up, make-up artist trial, make up artist actual, corsages, formal tickets, photo's from the formal, after party, after party clothes etc.
Then there's schoolies, another grand or so... then, I'm told, "some parents" buy a graduation gift.
I don't mean to sound mean because I understand it's a big deal to finish 12 years of school... but honestly, the cost seems ridiculous, and I'm not sure how far I should allow myself to be pushed. It seems parents just go with it...
Expenses apparently include pre-party, photographer, car hire, new clothes, new shoes, new accessories, suit hire, fake tan, fake nails, hairdresser trial, hairdresser actual, new make up, make-up artist trial, make up artist actual, corsages, formal tickets, photo's from the formal, after party, after party clothes etc.
Then there's schoolies, another grand or so... then, I'm told, "some parents" buy a graduation gift.
#2
Re: School formals cost
I was just wondering if anyone else is needing to take out a second mortgage to fund their year 12's formal?
I don't mean to sound mean because I understand it's a big deal to finish 12 years of school... but honestly, the cost seems ridiculous, and I'm not sure how far I should allow myself to be pushed. It seems parents just go with it...
Expenses apparently include pre-party, photographer, car hire, new clothes, new shoes, new accessories, suit hire, fake tan, fake nails, hairdresser trial, hairdresser actual, new make up, make-up artist trial, make up artist actual, corsages, formal tickets, photo's from the formal, after party, after party clothes etc.
Then there's schoolies, another grand or so... then, I'm told, "some parents" buy a graduation gift.
I don't mean to sound mean because I understand it's a big deal to finish 12 years of school... but honestly, the cost seems ridiculous, and I'm not sure how far I should allow myself to be pushed. It seems parents just go with it...
Expenses apparently include pre-party, photographer, car hire, new clothes, new shoes, new accessories, suit hire, fake tan, fake nails, hairdresser trial, hairdresser actual, new make up, make-up artist trial, make up artist actual, corsages, formal tickets, photo's from the formal, after party, after party clothes etc.
Then there's schoolies, another grand or so... then, I'm told, "some parents" buy a graduation gift.
#3
Re: School formals cost
I was just wondering if anyone else is needing to take out a second mortgage to fund their year 12's formal?
I don't mean to sound mean because I understand it's a big deal to finish 12 years of school... but honestly, the cost seems ridiculous, and I'm not sure how far I should allow myself to be pushed. It seems parents just go with it...
I don't mean to sound mean because I understand it's a big deal to finish 12 years of school... but honestly, the cost seems ridiculous, and I'm not sure how far I should allow myself to be pushed. It seems parents just go with it...
(Although how I'm going to get them married off, I have no idea)
#4
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My daughter had her formal last year. It cost us $100 for the dress (on sale), she borrowed a pair of my heels, I did her makeup, I paid for her hair to be done for another $100 or so, she and 7 others chipped in for the stretch Hummer (not sure how much because I told her she could pay it herself), she didn't bother with nails or fake tan or corsage. Photos were taken by a bunch of the parents before and I think she didn't bother with any of the ones from the professional photographer. We did however pay about $20 to get prints of the digital photos she and her friends took at the formal and after party. Oh, and we paid for a taxi home from the after party (about $50).
#5
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My daughter is pretty easy to please, though She wasn't dating anyone so took a friend from Albany who was here visiting her dad as her +1.
#6
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Re: School formals cost
Thank god we only have a boy, if he does want to go won't cost half as much.
Same goes for any future wedding
<so says a very tight Yorkshireman>
Same goes for any future wedding
<so says a very tight Yorkshireman>
#7
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I have just been told there is also a yearbook to pay for and a contribution towards a year "gift".
#8
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Good heavens! Boys (antisocial but dragged to the formal anyway) were a whole lot cheaper in a borrowed dinner suit with gifted cummerbund! I'd be giving her $50 and telling her to get on with it but, then, I am a miserable old b*tch. Seriously, I hope she and your credit card have a nice but unstressed time!
#9
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Good heavens! Boys (antisocial but dragged to the formal anyway) were a whole lot cheaper in a borrowed dinner suit with gifted cummerbund! I'd be giving her $50 and telling her to get on with it but, then, I am a miserable old b*tch. Seriously, I hope she and your credit card have a nice but unstressed time!
#10
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Re: School formals cost
Weddings used by $10k now they are $100k
Formals/end of year schoolies used to be $1k now they are $10k+
Formals/end of year schoolies used to be $1k now they are $10k+
#11
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Then tell her she has to pay for anything she wants.
F**king americanisms.
#12
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What Americanism? My son never even had a formal at his high school in Georgia. Come to think of it, neither did my high school in Canada.
#13
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No such thing existed when I left school, we all just went down the pub!
#14
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Y12 formal costs as follows:Cost of event $150, Dress, $125 (on sale) shoes $60 (on sale), hair $85, accessories about $70 for bag and hair jewels, the rest she borrowed from me. We drove her there and back, and she did her own make up and nails. No pre parties, or after parties, no fake tan. Copies of photos $78.
Valedictory Dinner though was hugely expensive- $365 for our 3 tickets, plus $100 for photos. Luckily she used a gown of mine and wore the jewels from the formal (which was in May for some reason), and I did her hair. Contributions to gifts for the head girls (3 of them) came out of her pocket money. OH had to have a new suit as his old one was 10 years too tight(!) and new shoes- $500 for him. I got nothing new, but had my hair cut and coloured a few days before $225. Never spent so much on my hair in my life!!
NO schoolies as she is doing the IB and doesn't finish until 22nd Nov, then we are going to the UK and Tokyo after speech day. Not going to say how much that cost us.
Valedictory Dinner though was hugely expensive- $365 for our 3 tickets, plus $100 for photos. Luckily she used a gown of mine and wore the jewels from the formal (which was in May for some reason), and I did her hair. Contributions to gifts for the head girls (3 of them) came out of her pocket money. OH had to have a new suit as his old one was 10 years too tight(!) and new shoes- $500 for him. I got nothing new, but had my hair cut and coloured a few days before $225. Never spent so much on my hair in my life!!
NO schoolies as she is doing the IB and doesn't finish until 22nd Nov, then we are going to the UK and Tokyo after speech day. Not going to say how much that cost us.
#15
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I've always considered the idea of a 'formal' being an american invention. I know for certain the only thing I got for 'graduating' school was an 'O' level certificate under my arm and a pint in my hand (bought by me).
If you are going to commemorate the transition from child to adult, it ought to be as realistic as possible - the world is indifferent to your desires, and if you want anything you are going to have to fight for it yourself, off your own efforts.
I've seen too many 'entitled' school & college leavers, expecting to be given things on a plate. The sooner they learn that's not how the world works, the better off they are.