Saddest thing about BE...
Aug 1st 2009, 3:15 am
#16
Tribu dei Chihuahua
Joined: Oct 2004
Location: Port Kennedy -near the dolphins
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Re: Saddest thing about BE...
Forget the bickering about what is worse, the Uk or Australia. It's a personal thing.
The thing I find almost breathtaking, head-shakeningly sad is the fact that people who are negative or unhappy/ have a less than impressed view with their lot in a country....cannot believe that others may be happy in the same place..when they have a different life. It's possible, inevitable even...
and furthermore, this forms the basis of their view/argument.
Never ceases to amaze me...
The thing I find almost breathtaking, head-shakeningly sad is the fact that people who are negative or unhappy/ have a less than impressed view with their lot in a country....cannot believe that others may be happy in the same place..when they have a different life. It's possible, inevitable even...
and furthermore, this forms the basis of their view/argument.
Never ceases to amaze me...
There is plenty of opportunity for laughs on jokes on here but I'm sure the site started with a view to helping people with the move and some posters on here do seem to have forgotten that.
With the posters that I find I can give my experiences to, I always try to give helpful advice and be tactful in my less positive opinions - something that seems to be lacking on the site lately. I do this because I know how it felt to be on the other side of the fence and if I can give someone some help that makes things a little less worrying and stressful for them, then I am happy- I just wish others would do the same.
Aug 1st 2009, 3:22 am
#17
A rather curious boy
Joined: Aug 2006
Location: Melbourne
Posts: 5,917
Re: Saddest thing about BE...
Have to say Badge that there seems to be quite a bit of this approach lately- Its frustrating, as I, like many on here, used the site for info when we were at our most vulnerable. We knew we wanted to make the move and do it as best as we could and we tried to get as much info as we poss from the people here. Thank goodness that the BE gang had a more lighthearted and sensible approach then.
There is plenty of opportunity for laughs on jokes on here but I'm sure the site started with a view to helping people with the move and some posters on here do seem to have forgotten that.
With the posters that I find I can give my experiences to, I always try to give helpful advice and be tactful in my less positive opinions - something that seems to be lacking on the site lately. I do this because I know how it felt to be on the other side of the fence and if I can give someone some help that makes things a little less worrying and stressful for them, then I am happy- I just wish others would do the same.
There is plenty of opportunity for laughs on jokes on here but I'm sure the site started with a view to helping people with the move and some posters on here do seem to have forgotten that.
With the posters that I find I can give my experiences to, I always try to give helpful advice and be tactful in my less positive opinions - something that seems to be lacking on the site lately. I do this because I know how it felt to be on the other side of the fence and if I can give someone some help that makes things a little less worrying and stressful for them, then I am happy- I just wish others would do the same.
I agree with this. Sometimes I stop myself from posting as I neither want to appear to be too foreceful to others at a vulnerable time or the opposite; too measured and come across as wish-washy.
I think that sometimes posters use BE as a sounding board as they battle out their dilemmas themselves and other times they are not really looking for advice or opinion. There are always the posters who weigh in with their one-sided opinions, oh to be them and not to have to consider the complexity of problems that are often both rational and often deeply emotional.
Aug 1st 2009, 3:22 am
#18
no stressin no fussin....
Joined: Aug 2007
Location: Fantasy Island....
Posts: 12,616
Re: Saddest thing about BE...
People should feel comfortable about giving their viewpoint as it is theirs, not anyone elses.
It's also OK for someone else to dissagree as they see it completely differently. That's also their viewpoint
OK, anyone else confused
Personally I know what I like, what I think and how it is for me so I don't care
It's also OK for someone else to dissagree as they see it completely differently. That's also their viewpoint
OK, anyone else confused
Personally I know what I like, what I think and how it is for me so I don't care
Aug 1st 2009, 3:23 am
#19
A rather curious boy
Joined: Aug 2006
Location: Melbourne
Posts: 5,917
Re: Saddest thing about BE...
People should feel comfortable about giving their viewpoint as it is theirs, not anyone elses.
It's also OK for someone else to dissagree as they see it completely differently. That's also their viewpoint
OK, anyone else confused
Personally I know what I like, what I think and how it is for me so I don't care
It's also OK for someone else to dissagree as they see it completely differently. That's also their viewpoint
OK, anyone else confused
Personally I know what I like, what I think and how it is for me so I don't care
Aug 1st 2009, 3:24 am
#20
no stressin no fussin....
Joined: Aug 2007
Location: Fantasy Island....
Posts: 12,616
Re: Saddest thing about BE...
I agree with this. Sometimes I stop myself from posting as I neither want to appear to be too foreceful to others at a vulnerable time or the opposite; to measured and come across as wish-washy.
I think that sometimes posters use BE as a sounding board as they battle out their dilemmas themselves and other times they are not really looking for advice or opinion. There are always the posters who weigh in with their one-sided opinions, oh to be them and not to have to consider the complexity of problems that are often both rational and often deeply emotional.
I think that sometimes posters use BE as a sounding board as they battle out their dilemmas themselves and other times they are not really looking for advice or opinion. There are always the posters who weigh in with their one-sided opinions, oh to be them and not to have to consider the complexity of problems that are often both rational and often deeply emotional.
Will you stop being so sensible
It doesn't suit you sir
Aug 1st 2009, 3:25 am
#21
no stressin no fussin....
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Location: Fantasy Island....
Posts: 12,616
Aug 1st 2009, 3:31 am
#24
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Aug 1st 2009, 4:53 am
#25
small steps long journey
Joined: Aug 2003
Location: A river somewhere
Posts: 3,451
Re: Saddest thing about BE...
why cant I get a good old fashioned british pint/curry/chips,?<insert whatever>
Also peeps who cant understand why they arent held as gods by neighbours/work mates/social circle and from reading their posts you just know they are the most argumentative d**kheads going.
phew
Also peeps who cant understand why they arent held as gods by neighbours/work mates/social circle and from reading their posts you just know they are the most argumentative d**kheads going.
phew
Aug 1st 2009, 5:08 am
#26
Has left the building
Joined: Mar 2007
Posts: 4,079
Re: Saddest thing about BE...
why cant I get a good old fashioned british pint/curry/chips,?<insert whatever>
Also peeps who cant understand why they arent held as gods by neighbours/work mates/social circle and from reading their posts you just know they are the most argumentative d**kheads going.
phew
Also peeps who cant understand why they arent held as gods by neighbours/work mates/social circle and from reading their posts you just know they are the most argumentative d**kheads going.
phew
Aug 1st 2009, 5:12 am
#27
small steps long journey
Joined: Aug 2003
Location: A river somewhere
Posts: 3,451
Aug 1st 2009, 5:39 am
#28
A rather curious boy
Joined: Aug 2006
Location: Melbourne
Posts: 5,917
Re: Saddest thing about BE...
why cant I get a good old fashioned british pint/curry/chips,?<insert whatever>
Also peeps who cant understand why they arent held as gods by neighbours/work mates/social circle and from reading their posts you just know they are the most argumentative d**kheads going.
phew
Also peeps who cant understand why they arent held as gods by neighbours/work mates/social circle and from reading their posts you just know they are the most argumentative d**kheads going.
phew
Aug 1st 2009, 5:40 am
#30
Home and Happy
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