RIP dad
 

My dad has just died following a battle with cancer.
Sleep in peace.:(

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So sorry to read that Caroline. Although a relief for you in some ways. Take care x

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May he rest in peace, and may you find the strength you need to get you through.

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sorry to hear that hon. I did wonder how he'd gone on.

RIP dad

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Oh Caroline :( His suffering is over, and that of his loved ones too, but I'm sure you're feeling very raw right now.

My thoughts are with you. Big hug xxx

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So sorry for your loss Caroline. His suffering is now over and may you find peace in that
Xx

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My thoughts are with you and yer family right now,i will offer Buddhist prayers for him at the temple tomorrow,stay strong.

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Really sorry to hear that Caroline. I can only echo what the others have said about his suffering being over. And please remember to take care of yourself; I know you've not been well lately either.

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Thanks everyone. He died in my sister's arms surrounded by love, in peace at last after a horrible battle since June.
I'm on my own here as OH has gone into work, and daughter is having a weekend at a friend's beach house. I'll do my crying alone and then be strong and find the words to tell her when she comes back.

Got so many things to organise now.......

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I am sorry for your loss. your emotions may be all over the place but be kind to yourself

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So sorry to hear that. I'm going thru the same thing at the minute - just got another text to say my dad has been taken to hospital in an ambulance again. I went back a few weeks ago to spend time with him but I'm feeling very mixed up at the minute. I wish I was there with him, but I also need to be here with my family :confused:

My thoughts are with you at this sad time. At least your dad is at peace now and is rid of this ugly disease that tears up so many people lives.

Take care,

Lynn xx

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So sorry to hear that. Thinking of you.

Take care. xxx

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Mixed up feelings are normal - I didn't go back to see dad, as he had lost his mind from the cancer, and we couldn't afford two trips. In some ways it was better, as I am the only one who still has memories of him as he was, not the suffering shell of the man he used to be. My poor sister had it very rough though, and I wish I could be there to help her out.
Sorry if tenses are all wrong- I have to keep correcting myself and write in the past tense now. Hard to do at the moment.

Guilt is a big part, but I keep rationalising it. Sometimes it works, but presently I just feel the hurt- for my sister and my mum and brother too. I'm trying to lock mine behind a wall when others are about - I cry alone.

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You have nothing to feel guilty for Caroline, you did what was best at the time and you can still be there for your family - support comes in so many forms.

Wish I could give you a hug, losing a parent is a lonely business and one bloody dark horrible tunnel to travel through - you will come through the other side I promise.

We are all here for you mate.:(

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Don't hide your grief, Caroline. Not only for yourself, but for your daughter - she's old enough to understand the cycle of life, that it's OK to be sad, and would probably welcome a big hug, both to give and receive.

When my Mum died I had to be the grown-up and make all the decisions/arrangements and make sure everybody else was OK (I was back in the UK with my sister and teenaged nieces) and I felt like I didn't have time to grieve. There were times later when I just hit the wall, and the slightest thing set me off.

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So sorry to hear that, Caroline.

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I am so sad and sorry to hear that Caroline.He is now at peace and his suffering and pain is over.Take comfort in that you did as much as you could have done being so far from home.You have all your lovely memories of him.You can now go home and say your final goodbyes and you and your sister can be there for each other.Take care of yourself.x

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RIP, my thoughts are with you and your family at this time.

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I'll second that. Share your grief with your family. Let your daughter see that it's ok to feel sad and that it's ok to cry. If you hide your pain away from the people who love you how will they help you and how can you help them?

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Oh mate... Such mixed feelings for you, so sorry that he has gone, but glad that his suffering and your vigil is now over. Nothing can prepare you for the inevitable no matter how "expected" it was... its a devastating thing loosing your dad that you loved so much..

You are so lucky to be able to have wonderful memories, many of them unsullied by his awful disease... And blessed to be able to remember him as he was and not wholly as he became at the end...

My Thoughts and prayers are with you all mate...

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May he RIP.

It is 3 years to the day since my dad lost his own cancer battle. I know that he was at peace and glad to go at the end.

Thinking of you.

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I have no idea who you are but my thoughts and sympathies are with you and your family at this sad and dreadful time.

Be strong.

NG

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Thank you everyone - my nice neighbour came round with some flowers and kept me company for a few hours.She has offered to look after my garden and the post while I'm away:starsmile:

Apparently my dad died with a moustache - too painful to shave his top lip. My OH has a MO for Movember too. Gents please get yourselves checked and don't go through this horrible illness.

My thoughts are with all those who are affected by this.

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Cancer truly is a horrific thing, my Mum has been gone 16 years now and still this disease is blighting the lives of many people.

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Sorry to hear about your dad carolinephillips :(

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:( Sorry for you loss Caroline

{Hugs}

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Oh Caroline, I am so sorry for your loss {{{hugs}}}

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There will be another star in the sky tonight, many sympathies.

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May he rest in peace.

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Apparently even the nurses were crying - despite him stealing their tea and cake, and the odd patient! He'd been there since August. My sister is going to go in with a big basket of goodies to replace all the ones he took.

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So sorry Caroline. A massive release for him but very hard for you. Take care hon.:wub:

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Sorry for your loss RIP

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So sorry to hear about your dad. You are so lucky to have all your good memories, those won't die. Tears and smiles will get all mixed up if you're anything like me.

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A hug for you Caroline...we'll all be thinking about you.

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Oh Caroline I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, my thoughts are with you & your family at this sad time.((((Hugs)))))

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So sorry Caroline, may your Dad rest in peace.

My thoughts are with you & your family.

Alison x

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sorry for your loss Caroline:(

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So sorry for your loss Caroline. Take time and try not to hide your grief. xx

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Dad is having a secular service on 29th Nov. So now I'm going to be busy booking flights etc - may be absent from the site or only sporadic for a while.
Daughter lit a candle at the school chapel - her way of coping, even though daddy was an athiest who would have liked to be put up a tree for the birds to eat, like the red indians do. Not sure what will happen to his ashes - he loved the sun and the sea, so sister may scatter them, or plant a tree.

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Whatever gives your daughter comfort, Caroline - I'm sure your Dad wouldn't mind.

My family are believers but not what I'd call actively religious, although in later years became more so and the girls got christened late. I can't remember anybody being buried since one of my Nanas in the early 80s but my Mum (apparently) decided she wanted to be, and it seems to help my sister and nieces tohave somewhere to go pay their respects so this atheist ain't knocking it. (And now my Dad wants the plot behind Mum but, as my sister said, my mother would get up and move out if he moved in! Thinking to buy it anyway.)

Good luck with the travel plans; don't be afraid to play the compassion card. Look after yourself - all this upset and travelling won't do your immune system any good so maybe give it a boost.

xxx