Sally Redux

My husband teaches medical students but he completely froze at the thought of doing this - I let him off because he's very good with the kids in other ways but my son would have been drawing his pension before he got around to giving him 'the talk' otherwise

JenniGee

My Ex recently took it upon himself to give the girls "A Talk".
(I did try to warn him not to & the girls did tell him they didn't want to talk about that kind of stuff with him)

Well, he didn't listen & suffered the consequences of two teenage girls who knew a helluva lot more about growing up in 2010 than he did... I think he wished the ground would open up & swallow him...but then again, if he will consider a crowded train to be a suitable venue for such a conversation, I can't say I blame them for making him rergret the consequences....

TiddlyPom

moneypenny20

TiddlyPom

Having met you Pen, that's cos you're open and loving with your kids (most of the time ) Parents that are like this don't have the 'OMG I have to give my kids THE TALK' pressure on them... you just communicate naturally most of the time... It's my point.. .If you create an open atmosphere where they trust you and want to talk to you, then that's half the issue sorted right away.

kporte

That makes sense to me in spite of never having had kids or any idea what to do!

moneypenny20

Being open and loving is fine until you're driving home from school and a voice comes from the back of the car saying 'I'm not a virgin by the way'. I couldn't think of what else to say but 'oh ok' Tiddler just said TMI thanks

Lord_Farquar

I like your thinking.

TiddlyPom

That's why I said 'most of the time'.

But at least she told you!

If I'd have said that to my mother, she'd have had me at prayer meetings and had the demons cast out of me, whilst slathering oil on my forehead and praying for my evil wrong doing, whilst crying and sobbing for weeks about how she'd 'lost her daughter'.


Actually, one time she got this woman to ask me. I used to babysit this woman's child.
'Your mother thinks you're having a sexual relationship with your boyfriend'...
'Does she? That's nice' I answered.
She didn't ask anything else.

In comparison, saying 'ok' seems to be just fine to me. And she wanted to tell you... that's a good thing.

elice_in_oz

My father would not let me go and stay with my boyfriend in Norway unless I went and got a script for the pill!
I was 17 at the time and it both shocked and pleased me that my dad was open enough to talk about such things.

My little sister (13) was in the room and went off telling everybody I was having sex and it was yuck!

I don't remember my parents giving us THE TALK. I just remember feeling like I could always talk to them about anything and ask them about anything. My parents were great at fostering that kind of trust within the family.

They screwed with our minds in other ways though

Not sure what I'll do with my boys...

RenShen

The idea of sitting my kids down for a talk about sex just horrifies me. What if you cover things they are not ready to hear? What if it gives them ideas that would not have formed naturally for a couple of years? My kids are 10 and 15 and I tend to just touch on the subject at opportune times or wait for their questions. When the question comes I answer it precisely. If they want more info they ask, if I have covered their concerns they move on to a different subject. Far better (imho) than sitting them down and scaring the wits out of them.

macy

My eldest (primary qld) had a talk when he was about 10 years about Wet Dreams one afternoon! Unfortunately for me he also had swimming lessons straight afterwards and proceeded to tell me and the parents sitting around all us all about it, in a very loud English Accent, it was sooooo embarrassing, I nearly chucked him in the pool so he would stop talking about it.

Broad Shoulders

That's an odd name to call your kid

iamthecreaturefromuranus

I see from your avatar that you have had a face lift... expensive?

TiddlyPom

I thought you'd had a foot stamp and left BE?